posted on Sep, 8 2011 @ 09:05 AM
reply to post by scafling
Remember that it is only natural for the body to feel that way after a break up. Don't beat yourself up over it, we're all human, that's the way
our physiology works. To hide your feelings is the worst thing because it will come back later to bite you if you try to play it off. Take it day by
day, remember the good times, but ALSO remember the bad times and see why you broke up. Look at it this way, if its meant to happen it will happen on
its own, do not go looking for love, and I will repeat the advice other members gave me, let it find you. Do not let the mind idealize the person
although it is natural. Do not jump into the dating game either when you know you a ready because it will be unfair to the next person that comes
along. I realized that a lot of people nowadays are very afraid of being alone but its the best time to learn more about yourself. I haven't talked
to her for about 7 months and now I'm glad I haven't. She contacted me last and I didn't even reply to her.
As the old saying goes, "if you can't save your relationship, at least save your dignity." I forgot who said it, but it is said that pain is
inevitable but suffering is optional. You will get over it, it will just take a lot of time, so do not be so hard on yourself. Best of luck to you, it
really does feel like a hurricane has blown the house down. Just remember, take it day by day and you'll be surprised where life takes you. One thing
is for sure, you should definitely join a gym if you have the time. My ex girlfriend had a crazy body and worked out a lot, but now that I am going to
the gym, I know that a year from she's gonna feel like crap for leaving me. So focus on yourself, that is what I'm doing and its working. Just do
NOT get involved with a rebound relationship because it will backfire. Just hang in there and do not fall into depression, recognize your feelings,
allow yourself to feel the pain, embrace it, and be glad that it happened because it will take time for your heart to heal.