Over Sensitive - AKA Wearing Your Heart On Your Sleeve

Originally posted by argentus
By the way, I recognize that backdrop that you use in your video. That's 1972. I'd know it anywhere.

Thanks so much Argentus. That backdrop is right now a secret, but I will give you a hint. It is not what you think, we all have it, but can't see it.

Originally posted by SoulOrb

Well, I think you will find the Over Sensitives don't want insensitives to do anything but keep their mouth shut or be polite when they open it...

Control their impulses and keep the attack on some kind of civil level and do not make personal, and not rip them apart...

Well you just made my point for me... so the "Over Sensitives" are the decider of what is "polite" and if the "insensitives" are not willing to follow the "Over Sensitives" definition of polite then their opinion or comments should not be made. The "insensitives" should control their impulses, but apparently the "Over Sensitives" are free to express their impulses. Can you be any more arrogant? Just that fact that you capitalized "Over Sensitives" and did not capitalize "insensitives" really says multitudes about the self centeredness and arrogance...

You have a nice day... I have been to Halifax, Nova Scotia and it is a beautiful place. If I could have convinced my wife we would have moved there.

Originally posted by clcreek
control their impulses, but apparently the "Over Sensitives" are free to express their impulses. Can you be any more arrogant? Just that fact that you capitalized "Over

I seldom see the Over Sensitives over expressing themselves anywhere. And if you need to look for capitalization from a guy who just recently installed Ubuntu on his laptop, and has poor touch pad driver control, and it keeps jumping in and taking out what I write, and I need to go back over and over to get it in, as some kind of indication over arrogance, man oh man. See what I mean, like come on.

Not everything is a tidy little world, where something not said is something said, and you need to look behind the lines. Basically it seems to me you do not trust alot of people.

HELLO. I AM HERE. I DO NOT NEED TO BE INTERPRETED.

I wish you had moved here, you might be unable to unwide a bit instead of look for meaning in things like capitalization to jump on someone. Geez.

So, ok just so you know, I am sitting on my bed, my laptop is on a precarious angle and my battery just a second almost ran out and I do not want to tamper with the cord, and I am too lazy right now to walk over to my desktop, so if I missed a word, ok, then please try to take the good intent, it is not intentional, just that I had those barbecue chips a few minutes ago, and now I got alot of gas, and it won't come out, and typing this makes the pain go away, so please so not take it personal if I missed something ok, I love you, you are a nice person, I like you, and I am not saying anything bad.

I learned as I grew up that jokes at someone's expense really aren't funny. Not only do they shame the person, who may just grin and bear it, but it changes the way you behave and interact with other people. It does spill over into your other activities, and influences your psyche.

Don't get me wrong, I'm a big boy and have a thick skin. I have to to be in the Army. I just believe that there are a thousand other ways to be hilarious without making fun of someone.

I understand where the OP is coming from.
There is nothing wrong with being 'sensitive'.
However, there is something wrong with being 'overly-sensitive".
I do not believe people choose how they are created, but some are a lot more reactive to provoking stimuli than others. I used to be bothered about many 'wrongs' in society, but I realized that I was being overly sensitive about the whole topic. It is too difficult to live your life with such emotional turmoil.

I am not telling you to 'grow a pair' by any means, I just think that you need to step back and analyze your reactions to such negative stimuli. For the record, I believe it is healthy for everyone to cry. Men and women. It is human. Some might try and convince you otherwise, but everyone has cried whether they admit it or not.

Like I stated before, did you ever think that the reason you feel the way you do is because you have not learned how to deal with the stress appropriately? I struggled with my role in society until I realized that my way of coping with things were self destructive. I learned that you always have to be positive, even when things don't seem to be looking up. Then I discovered that a lot of my sensitivity had to do with being self conscious, I did a few small things like post a post-it on the mirror that read "Love ya kid!". It puts a smile on my face every day before I go out.

It really does help when you analyze your own behavior. It allows you to discover things about yourself that you never imagined or noticed before.

Anyways, I hope you make the best of what you're given.
-FadeToBlack

[edit on 5/7/2009 by FadeToBlack]

Originally posted by Viral
Don't get me wrong, I'm a big boy and have a thick skin. I have to to be in the Army. I just believe that there are a thousand other ways to be hilarious without making fun of someone.

Well thanks for holding that position for me, thank goodness you are taking on that energy so I do not have to by being in the Army. Hopefully some day we will not need Armies, but for now I feel safer having some Army around.

It is like say a deer hunter. You know, I might not kill a dear in my life, but well, if I need to, I want someone around who knows how to do it, just not what my grandfather told me to do.

Originally posted by FadeToBlack
It really does help when you analyze your own behavior. It allows you to discover things about yourself that you never imagined or noticed before.
[edit on 5/7/2009 by FadeToBlack]

I can see where you are coming from FadeToBlack, but I am kind of thinking your misundertood my video, or have not read the other responses, so I will not go over that stuff again, its too boring.

I am constantly rewriting my stuff and taking out "you", and putting in "a person". I got in the habit of making it personal, when I was actually saying a person. So are you saying "A person", or "me"? Cause me for example have none of the issues you speak of, I am happy being sensitive and the people in my life now do not get in unless they are similar and trust my intent when speaking with them.

As for you, well you made a decision, that being sensitive was too much work, and you decided that you had to modify your acceptance to have any friends, easy life, etc.

However it is kind of a shame you had to make that decision, it would have been nice for you to have more understanding. Maybe if someone took time a long time ago to make a video like mine, or better, then you would not have to had to do that.

Originally posted by SoulOrb
I can see where you are coming from FadeToBlack, but I am kind of thinking your misunderstood my video, or have not read the other responses, so I will not go over that stuff again, its too boring.

You are right, I have not read the other responses. I will go ahead and do so. As for misunderstanding your video, I clearly understand why you made it. (At least I believe I do.)

Correct me if I am wrong; You made the video because you think society is being overly-sensitive in the fact that they tell you to stop being overly-sensitive. You believe that people should just accept your sensitivity, and move forward and not be judgemental about it.

...Except that everyone is judged regardless of who they are or what they represent.

Originally posted by SoulOrb
So are you saying "A person", or "me"? Cause me for example have none of the issues you speak of, I am happy being sensitive and the people in my life now do not get in unless they are similar and trust my intent when speaking with them.

For all intents and purposes: When I say you, I mean you (as in, in your case, me).

I'm glad to hear that you've had none of the issues I've had. I was just making an example of what I went through. Unlike you, I struggled being sensitive. I absolutely hate it, I still do. I have friends that support me, however I do not feel as though they completely understand me. The only person I felt that understood me, or at least accepted me for face value, was a lover. But that ended terribly.

Originally posted by SoulOrb
As for you, well you made a decision, that being sensitive was too much work, and you decided that you had to modify your acceptance to have any friends, easy life, etc.

I did make a decision, but not to stop being 'sensitive'. I made a decision to stop being 'overly-sensitive'. Some may still consider me sensitive as I am now. I am just no longer as sensitive as I was. I am still careful about trying not to offend people, and respect other opinions. Also, I still provide advice or help others in need. If others think that that is sensitive, than I am guilty as charged.

Again, I understand where you are coming from. The only thing I am suggesting you look at is your behavior. Ever hear that saying: "If one or two people have a problem, it's probably them. If everyone has a problem, it most likely is you." (Goes something to that effect.) ?

All I am saying is that maybe you are allowing yourself to be too sensitive (there really is only a broad definition of 'too' sensitive), to the point where everything has to be politically correct in order not to be offended. However broad, there is such a definition.

If you analyze your behavior, you will notice certain things you never noticed before. Perhaps others' perceptions of being too sensitive are vastly different from your own. Maybe you should look into that... Point being, if you gauge where everyone else stands, you would find out if you were in fact being too sensitive or not.

[edit on 5/7/2009 by FadeToBlack]

Originally posted by SoulOrb
Many times during my life I have been accused of being over sensitive. I found it came up most often from girlfriends who get upset, or from male peers who get used to bantering to hide their feelings, or raise their status among the guys with rude jokes, etc., and when you just do not think it is funny you often get accused of being Over Sensitive.

Accusing someone of being Over sensitive is only a way for a person to justify their own improper behavior that they themselves learn to simply survive, I am sure few are born insensitive.

This has little to do has little to do with the polite people who are sensitive to others feelings, just letting the insensitive person ramble on. Of course who wishes to be Over Sensitive by complaining.

This video, which was prompted by a post here on ATS, is about that subject, and my perceptions, and as a statement that I might not be perfect, but I am proudly a Overly Sensitive guy.

I watched your vid and I have read the posts so far in the thread. I do have to say that I can relate to both sides of the coin here. Imagine a hypothetical situation, you meet a new person for the first time somewhere and begin to have a chat with them. They say to you, "damn I hate those over sensitive people these days" to which you reply, "hey, I am sensitive and I feel offended by your statement".
Both sides are completely put off and nothing happens in terms of friendship or anything else etc.

I strongly feel that the reason people might be saying that you wear your heart on your sleeve is because they are finding it hard to relate to where you are coming from, this could be because you are only being yourself without having some empathy towards them. I can see where you are coming from but it takes two people to tango and if both are not moving in the same direction its going nowhere.

I do not know you apart from having a little bit of a clash with you in another thread that you made but I would never hold things like that against anyone etc. I would say try asking why to get an idea of the other persons point of view and if someone is saying that to you they are not being offensive or having a go, they actually want to relate to you. The problem is that many people feel uncomfortable around others with themselves at first and only open up once they have some common ground most of the time. If there is a person who is overly aggressive or sensitive it tends to put people off them unless they fall into that category themselves but a lot of people do not.

As for ATS if I created a topic saying the sky was purple in terms of how far off my viewpoint was from yours. I am sure you would find it confusing if I did not explain how I came to that conclusion or tried to relate to people who did not understand.

Hope that makes sense.

I do think some people can be oversensitive but I would never tell someone they are as I do not think anyone should be anothers judge. Perception is all we have and the more open people try to be towards others the better their own perception will become.

I am sure you are not exactly like this guy anyways because I think anyone would struggle with this type of sensitivity below but its a good example of what I am trying to say when it comes to relating through empathy.





[edit on 7-5-2009 by XXXN3O]

This post makes me laugh because according to everyone I know I might as well be heartless which is a wrong statement.
Theres nothing wrong with being oversensitive, when it comes to close friends and family I am as sensitive as can be. But when it comes to most other things and people I don't know or anything to that extent I really don't have it in me to feel for them. Occasionally I will see something that I do feel bad for but for the most part the world is sick and I've come to expect seeing something horrible everyday and it's just part of life and nothing that will ever stop. Now I say in my head that's horrible and I move on instantly because life is to short so sit around and waste time being sad or something. And as far as being over sensitive to someone face to face, if someone asks for it or deserves it I don't see it being a problem telling them the truth or letting them have it because the truth hurts and is brutal but it's the truth and I expect to hear the same when desrved.

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What does any of this have to do with the Paranormal?
NOTHING.

If it’s even correct for posting on ATS and not BTS (which I doubt) it could have gone under *Introductions*...“HI, I’m SoulOrb and I’m a Sensitive Guy”...

EDIT: Oh never mind...

peace


[edit on 7-5-2009 by silo13]

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A sentient being on ATS - Thank You for being

I am sure I could trust you in an emergency situation, I do not trust people who tell others they are too sensitive - they are always the ones who freak out and rage whenever their little agenda is threatened.

I am not sure what this thread is all about. If one is arguing that being "overly" sensitive is okay or should be the norm, I disagree. To be "overly" sensitive, by definition, means one is being too sensitive or excessively sensitive.

If you're talking about being merely sensitive, I think it is a good thing.

Talking for myself only, I've traced the vast majority of problems I have had to my own decisions made either consciously or unconsciously. This includes the decision on how to react emotionally - one of the few things
I actually can control (as opposed to trying, in vain, to control others' conduct and emotions). For me, the cause or "blame" is rarely external and taking responsibility for my "stuff" always keeps me from "stewing" and wondering why everyone else is messed up.

It's funny, a "sensitive" person goes around being affected by others and show his or her feelings outwardly - someone else might say at that point, sometimes with disgust, hey you're overly sensitive. In the end, both are being sensitive, no?

Being oversensitive pretty much borders on a mental deficiency. It's like the classic nice guy out there in the dating world, who pretty much in teh end turns up being an emotionally crippled, needy, mamby pamby mommas boy who should have never left the basement until he toughened up a bit.

The oversensitive type are the exact same way, even including my urge to kick them in the throat. Watch them in action and they are some of the most needy, hypocritical, and spineless lame-o's on the planet.

In teh end, they need to toughen up a bit, or a whole lot, and learn that opinions will differ from theirs and they're just going to have to deal with it. They're going to have to learn that no everyone cares about the same crap they do, nor puts the same level of importance on it. Finally, they'll have to realize that their behavior is like emotional blackmail, and being misplaced on others. It's like a little kid screaming "But I like the dolphins, why wont you liiiiike meeeeee??!?!?!"

Originally posted by CoffinFeeder
Being oversensitive pretty much borders on a mental deficiency. It's like the classic nice guy out there in the dating world, who pretty much in teh end turns up being an emotionally crippled, needy, mamby pamby mommas boy who should have never left the basement until he toughened up a bit.

The oversensitive type are the exact same way, even including my urge to kick them in the throat. Watch them in action and they are some of the most needy, hypocritical, and spineless lame-o's on the planet.

In teh end, they need to toughen up a bit, or a whole lot, and learn that opinions will differ from theirs and they're just going to have to deal with it. They're going to have to learn that no everyone cares about the same crap they do, nor puts the same level of importance on it. Finally, they'll have to realize that their behavior is like emotional blackmail, and being misplaced on others. It's like a little kid screaming "But I like the dolphins, why wont you liiiiike meeeeee??!?!?!"

This was the "type" I was referring to in my previous post...This is the mindset of a human possessed by truly evil energies(as I am typing this I am having a (deja -vue) Zomby Mentality!!!

There are some truly evil people threatening our existence and some are feeling the energies at a cellular level it is normal for us to become overly sensitive making up for the ones that are insensitive to the atrocities being committed on this beautiful planet.

Originally posted by FadeToBlack

Correct me if I am wrong; You made the video because you think society is being overly-sensitive in the fact that they tell you to stop being overly-sensitive. You believe that people should just accept your sensitivity, and move forward and not be judgemental about it.

Yes, you are wrong. What I am saying is that when a person is caught in a making a judgement about a persons opinion, and labeling them as Over Sensitive, spouting off a little and moving on as you suggest, is a loss, and inconsiderate. Simply ask why they said that, do not enter the judgement. Try to stay up higher. A person wrote me a minute ago and asked for advice. They said they would ask in a public discussion but they would be "murdered". His expression is being repressed by fear of reprisal. enough said.

Originally posted by SoulOrb
just no longer as sensitive as I was. I am still careful about trying not to offend people, and respect other opinions. Also, I still provide advice or help others in need. If others
[edit on 5/7/2009 by FadeToBlack]

So here is where we are odds. You have modified your behavior in light of others reaction. I am sad about this, we need you as society to express your divinity or God presence in a good way, not perverted and lowered in an effort to not offend people. There is a way to stand in your truth and no to make personal attacks. And I do not think you are the kind of person to make a personal attack. However now we have lost a spark of divinity for the planet 365 days a year, 24 hours a day, 60 seconds an hour because some other people are using a baseline and pressure to bring you back to a sense of comfort for them.

And here is the issue. You wish me to do the same as you, so that you can feel comfort, because now that you have accepted that small loss of your Divnity, you would like me to as well, so the cycle continues. I say if you are sensitive to an issue, then there is no over, get it, no over. Never an over. Over is a judgement by another person. It carries a vibration. People who partner with it by acceptance, or recognition will entrain to that vibration with the person doing the judging.

What I would suggest is that at some point, this will pop out somewhere else in your life, and cause you stress or even say cause a spiritual issue. It might increase your separation from God. Don't do it, their feelings are not worth your separation, just be as tactful as you can, and try to not make your thoughts personal attack to them.

Originally posted by XXXN3O
Both sides are completely put off and nothing happens in terms of friendship or anything else etc.
[edit on 7-5-2009 by XXXN3O]

Maybe that is a good thing in this case, and they can go home lonely with no friends, and nothing have been said in reaction ideally. Then the next day they come back, and it is said again, and this time no reaction, so they move forward a little and resign themselves to the process of modifying their sensitivity on their own until a match is found. However if one person say, what are you talking about you moron, I saw your driving skills and you are an idiot at the wheel. Pfft. The he other guy thinks, how did we go from sensitivity to my driving skills, and why did he hurt me like that.

What we are speaking about is the judgement, or I am anyway. This thread seems to be getting diverted to one of a personal attack or a complaint by me, and I keep trying to bring it back to the intended purpose.

What I am saying is that making an attack personal, and not asking anothers opinion, or just responding and calling them a twit is not cool. And it leads to no relationship building, and it is destructive. It in effect is a immaturity

Yeah I love that move, great movie. Hey I got nothing bad for feelings about you, and just like some guys think my avatar looks gay for them, mostly because they do not know what it means and what it says to me, so I as well do not like your avatar, and I think that I feel the need to resist what you say. And if that is your desired effect, and that is the space you wish when I see your avatar, well, it worked well.

However I think you chose it for good reasons. Me personally, I would choose Neo after waking up in the chair, with no hair, and lost as to his confusion. See me, that is tripped off of the bullcrap we surround ourselves that enforces the false image of ourselves.

But once a person gets through the icon, well you do have some good points, maybe I do not agree with them, but I always take time to read them.


[edit on 7-5-2009 by XXXN3O]

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I would guess right off hand that it's a type of crystalline structure, possibly smectic crystal.

close?

Originally posted by SoulOrb
Wow, what a great reply Jenna, I need to be careful around you, you will whip me in shape in no time, and such a non personal attack. Wow. I am still absorbing the reply.

Thank you, I think.


I think perhaps we have different ideas of what it means to be overly sensitive. The situation you described with your kids and the girlfriend was not a case of you being overly sensitive. It was a case of someone who had no clue what having children is like being insensitive to and not understanding your situation.

Based on your post, you had every reason to be emotional due to the stress of the situation. I have two of my own, and my own father went through a situation similar to yours, so I completely understand the stress not being able to see them would put on someone. I have witnessed it first hand and been unable to rectify the situation since I was one of the children at the time. Kids have a way of figuring out what is going on, so even though your ex may not let you see them, they will eventually be old enough to see you on their own. Once they realize what has happened they won't hold their mother's actions against you. (Voice of experience here on that one.) The medical situations you described are once again not a case of being overly sensitive. Now if every word someone says is taken as them somehow knowing what's wrong and being mean on purpose, then it would be, but as it stands it doesn't appear to be.

And for what it's worth, I don't pay much attention to mixed up words so if you have typed the wrong one I probably overlooked it. I do it myself quite frequently. That and I will completely blank out common every day words and not be able to finish a sentence because I can't remember the word. Words like cabinet, counter, table, tomorrow, etc. I haven't had a stroke, but I have some memory problems that started rather recently. It's quite annoying and rather frustrating. I've taken to calling everything a "thingy" when I forget the word.

Your roommates case though is a bit different though. Based solely on the information you provided, it appears he was indeed overly sensitive. If he never told the woman about his childhood issues, then she didn't know. She had no way of knowing, yet he assumed she did because she was talking about mama's boys? A mama's boy is someone who is unusually close to their mother. If your roommate had issues with his mother as a child, then he likely wasn't a mama's boy and thus over-reacted to the woman's comments. So based on your post, your roommate was overly sensitive in this situation in my opinion.