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originally posted by: Domo1
“And so at Hopkins we stopped doing sex-reassignment surgery, since producing a ‘satisfied’ but still troubled patient seemed an inadequate reason for surgically amputating normal organs,” said Dr. McHugh.
originally posted by: Domo1
a reply to: JadeStar
If you are a guy who is sexually prolific,
This shouldn't have anything to do with it. Not all men want to sleep with a transgender person. It doesn't matter if they are promiscuous. That's not the point.
So now it's the man's fault for thinking that someone who presents as a woman is actually societies (right or wrong) definition of a woman?
In other words don't be so promiscuous.
Right, and women who dress provocatively are asking to be raped, so it's excusable when it happens.
Oh fun! I've lived in and around Seattle my entire life! I suppose I'm no longer in my twenties, it's been a few months. I can't think of a single guy I know that wouldn't be upset to learn he had slept with a transgender woman. Perhaps if you frequent Neighbors this is the norm.
I have no problem with you or your transition
I just don't want to sleep with transgendered people. How is that a bad thing? I also don't want to have multiple partners, does that make me sexually repressed and bigoted? I will gladly be your friend if you're a nice person, I don't have any animosity toward transgendered people, I actually have quite a bit of respect. Perhaps instead of pouting about my ignorance and running away from civil conversation you could enlighten me a bit.
Those are wildly different things. I would still think it morally reprehensible for a woman to lie about that if she was asked point blank. I would think it morally wrong to lie about being a virgin.
I think it morally wrong not to inform someone if you have undergone major surgery and hormone therapy to become more feminine in appearance.
Um, if that's what this is about then why did you have gender reassignment surgery? The whole argument here is that a penis, lack thereof etc. doesn't equal gender. So why get rid of it?
To force us all to wear a scarlet letter "T" for casual sex because of your insecurity is pushing your internal issues off on the poor girl you picked up.
I'm not asking you to wear a scarlet "t", I'm asking you to not sleep with someone without informing them that you are not necessarily what they are expecting.
You may be incredibly feminine, and your brain may be female, but people having casual sex aren't interested in you emotionally.
originally posted by: imod02
a reply to: JadeStar
I think this subject is just too taboo for him to handle, be proud of who you are, from what I have read you are a well adjusted person and have good reason to be proud
originally posted by: interupt42
a reply to: Kojiro
Transgendered people shouldn't have to wear Jade's "scarlet letter T" just to pander to your sexual insecurities.
It sounds to me that the persons with the sexual insecurities would be the one hiding the truth about themselves to the other.
originally posted by: TrappedPrincess
originally posted by: Domo1
a reply to: TrappedPrincess
It's a little hard to take her seriously. On the one hand, I'm a bad guy for not being into it, on the other it should be changed into something else...
“And so at Hopkins we stopped doing sex-reassignment surgery, since producing a ‘satisfied’ but still troubled patient seemed an inadequate reason for surgically amputating normal organs,” said Dr. McHugh.
Ahem. So there's that too.
I'm ok with most of what you have said and understand where you are coming from. I have been thinking about this and I think what is going on is that I may be a better liaison between the divided on this issue than some. I'm not saying this to be catty but by self admission some of those that don't understand where you are coming from have said they may not understand because they are too different. Their words not mine also their words I am apparently an in betweener which I guess is what allows me to be a better bridge between the opposed and maybe open to compromising more to mutually suit both sides of the argument.
originally posted by: TrappedPrincess
Jade please please do not take this the wrong way I am not trying to pick a fight but I am trying to understand exactly why it is that you think it is not ok for him to not view you as a legitimate woman but you can hold that sentiment in regards to me.
Again back to the "dangly bits" and from you hmm...Im self employed, I'm smooth all the time, I usually wear athletic wear due to the leisurely nature of my free time and I would wear basketball shorts, tank tops and flip flops either way I usually keep my hair pulled back, I'm actually pretty androgynous unless I'm going out on the town. I thought we had established that "dangly bits" or lack thereof does not determine ones role as a woman.
originally posted by: EKron
originally posted by: TrappedPrincess
Jade please please do not take this the wrong way I am not trying to pick a fight but I am trying to understand exactly why it is that you think it is not ok for him to not view you as a legitimate woman but you can hold that sentiment in regards to me.
Not Jade, but... Are you living and working full time as a woman? How long? Do you have dangly bits? Shave?
for him to not view you as a legitimate woman
originally posted by: TrappedPrincess
Jade please please do not take this the wrong way I am not trying to pick a fight but I am trying to understand exactly why it is that you think it is not ok for him to not view you as a legitimate woman but you can hold that sentiment in regards to me.
originally posted by: Domo1
a reply to: TrappedPrincess
for him to not view you as a legitimate woman
This bugs me. I don't think of that as a bad thing. I don't think of a bisexual as being legitimately gay or legit straight... That doesn't mean I think less of them. I don't think less of a transgendered person, I think they are different. A different subcategory as legitimate as any other.
All I've seen her do is be condescending towards you and the whole sharing of information that seemed to be gleaned from a private message (since deleted) was troubling as well. You do you, you seem awesome.
originally posted by: EKron
a reply to: JadeStar
May I join you? I've been drinking coffee over forty years and now question why I'm even in these threads in the first place. For all I've tried, I don't know what good it has done.