Crap! I've been set up on a blind date!

Yeah, i have had some fun with you here....truth is, i would fail at dating. I have been married too long and have grown too comfortable with the same woman.

But to think of it, i sucked at dating back then. She asked me out, and she is the one who asked me to marry her. LOL...but she won't admit to it!

reply to post by bigfatfurrytexan


I think everyone likes a sense of humor. Women, moreso the light touch and guys...well, we pile it on.

Find the right balance, or maybe the right girl/guy and BINGO!

It's LOVE!

Life is short not to have some fun. And it is always better sharing the fun.

Now for some real advice Tdawg.

On top of the mandatory manscaping....

Is listen to her. I can judge a person just by introductions and how they respond. Listen to her, ask her questions. Simple as that. You would be surprised at how many men fail at this.

I went on a date once where I could of been a confessed ax murderer but the guy would never know because it was 3 hours of him talking about himself.

A conversation should be like a volley ball, it gets knocked back and forth, it is a good conversation. If one person holds it and talks about themselves the whole time, it is a no go. You should do the same or less talking then the other person.

You won't know what the chemistry is until you kiss. Don't assume that no electricity means no chemistry.

If you actually like her and want to see her again, NO NOOKIE. The longer you wait to tango, the more successful a relationship will be. If she is not relationship material and it is an opportunity, go for it tiger!

Think of conversation starters in case things go quiet and you don't know what to talk about.

You don't want to end up asking how her meal is 20 times. Plus you come off looking smooth if you can keep the conversation going.

Here are some suggestions from eHarmony:

1. Who has been the biggest influence in your life?
2. What kinds of things really make you laugh?
3. What’s your favorite place in the entire world?
4. Who is your best friend? What do you like about him/her?
5. Favorite movie of all time? Why so?
6. What’s your biggest goal in life right now?
7. What is your favorite way to spend a Saturday?
8. Do you have any pet peeves?
9. What was your family like growing up?
10. What were you like as a kid?
11. What should I know about you that I’d never think to ask about?
12. Did you—or do you—have a nickname? What’s the story behind it?
13. Who was your favorite schoolteacher or college professor? Why?
14. Have you figured out your calling in life? What is it?
15. What do you hate most about the dating process? (Tell me so I can avoid it!)



From Yahoo.com

What was the last book you read?
What's your favorite book? Do you relate to the main character?
Do you have any pets?
What's the best part about your job (or major, if they're in school)?
What's the worst part about your job?
What's the most interesting thing you did this week?
What do you like best about your friends? (Bonus: this will tell you a lot about what they look for in a relationship)
What's the last place you traveled to?
What charity would you donate to or volunteer for?
What did you want to be when you grew up when you were a child?
What are you best at?
What do you think of (insert local, non-inflammatory political issue here)?
What do you think of the space program?
How did you choose your college major?
Who is the weirdest person you've ever known?
If you had to write a limerick about this date, how would it go?
If you could force any musician to stop making music, who would it be?
Who is the most obnoxious media talking head?
Do you have any artistic talents?
When was the last time you had to speak in public? How did it go?
What do your parents do?
What were you like in college/high school/middle school?
Are you the same as or very different from how you were as a child?
Have you ever met anyone famous?
Do you think politics are boring or interesting?

It is really as simple as that. No need to be scared. Nature will either make you like each other or you won't.

If you do get rejected, don't let it eat your soul, you take it as a learning experience and a bump along the way. Most people don't have success on first dates. You are just getting your feet wet after all.

If you have any questions, please feel free to ask!

Good luck to you.

bigfatfurrytexan
THis time, try not to

- drag your butt across her carpet. all butt scooting should be over with before you meet
- drink out of the toilet. Its not good for getting to first base.
- sniff her butt. Chicks don't dig that kind of stuff.

Speak for yourself!

I personally admire butt sniffing.

reply to post by nixie_nox


Really? Is it that easy?

Hell, and here I've been on the outside looking in.

nixie_nox
I personally admire butt sniffing.

Ah...but what what about the crotch greeting? That has to be embarressing.


Massingil moment?

Thanks everyone, I needed the laugh. Tongue in cheek suggestions that border on the little rascal reruns. This has been an entertaining thread. I would dearly love to see more of this type to balance out some of the petty snide remarks that usually are posted. HAPPY VALENTINE!

reply to post by searching411


Well, if you look above the thread above your's, you'll see why I have no girlfiiend. (I blame my five older sisters by the way).

But yea, that's my sense of humor sometimes...the problem is, I can't turn it off!

reply to post by nixie_nox


I'm a talkative idiot. (emphasis in the idiot) so I won't be wanting for a conversation starter, I can even deal with the awkward stuff...like, "Are you a dog or cat person?"

Needless to say…I’m screwed. I’m bound to end up in some transwarp slipstream.

I just know I'm going to piss her off over some slip of the tongue. That's been my life, sad to say.

TDawgRex
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I'm a talkative idiot. (emphasis in the idiot) so I won't be wanting for a conversation starter, I can even deal with the awkward stuff...like, "Are you a dog or cat person?"

Needless to say…I’m screwed. I’m bound to end up in some transwarp slipstream.

I just know I'm going to piss her off over some slip of the tongue. That's been my life, sad to say.

Be yourself. Always. Be. Yourself.

If you act like someone else, and she admires that, then it isn't you. It's someone else.

Be. Yourself.

*clears throat*

Sorry. Time to go back to bad advice.

(did I already mention bringing a small monkey?)

beezzer

TDawgRex
reply to post by nixie_nox

 

I'm a talkative idiot. (emphasis in the idiot) so I won't be wanting for a conversation starter, I can even deal with the awkward stuff...like, "Are you a dog or cat person?"

Needless to say…I’m screwed. I’m bound to end up in some transwarp slipstream.

I just know I'm going to piss her off over some slip of the tongue. That's been my life, sad to say.

Be yourself. Always. Be. Yourself.

If you act like someone else, and she admires that, then it isn't you. It's someone else.

Be. Yourself.

*clears throat*

Sorry. Time to go back to bad advice.

(did I already mention bringing a small monkey?)

LOLOL.

You know, I once talked to a guy on the Boardwalk, who bought a gorgeous himilayan kitten and would stand there and wave its little paw at cute girls walking by.

Best non verbal pick up line ever.

So you may be on to something with the small monkey.

That all being said, I have to agree with you. Be yourself. Either it will work or it won't.

reply to post by TDawgRex


It is that easy. You either mesh or you don't. As others have said, no one ones to get one thing and later find out it is another.

Are you a nervous or anxious person, is that why you talk a lot?

Just take a breather and remember to ask her questions and give her a chance to respond.

People always worry that they will not be liked and be rejected, but never consider the opposite. What if you don't jive with her and she likes you?

Even if you don't jive, it doesn't mean you may not have just met a lifelong great friend, that is option C that people never consider either.

If she doesn't want to see you again, don't be afraid to ask her why. Then you learn and grow.

You just can't force anything. Women can smell it a mile away. If you try to be too charming, too funny, etc. It comes off as fake.

So here it is in a nutshell:

manscape

listen to her and let her talk

be a gentlemen. Women like chivalry. If she doesn't like it, then she is too undereducated and inexperienced anyways. Don't be afraid to be a little romantic.

No horizontal tango if you like her and vice versa. Too soon is a relationship killer. I can explain it more if you like.

Basically first dates are just an abridged version of yourself.

BE CONFIDENT.

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Then there is the problem of asking too many questions. My husband is such a nerd - on our first few dates, he kept asking me these weird questions. We would drive by a windmill, and he would ask me if I knew what the purpose of a windmill was. I told him, and he was impressed, saying "you'd be surprised how many people think it's just for ornamental purposes." He once asked me how to pronounce the county that San Antonio is in (it's spelled Bexar, but pronounced "Bayer"). Yes, I knew the correct pronunciation. After we had dated for a while, I asked him what his deal was with all the educational questions. He told me that it was super important to him that a girl be somewhat intelligent, and he had recently dated several very pretty, but very dumb girls, and he was tired of it. I passed the test, I guess - we've been married for almost 15 years now. And yes, he's still a nerd. A tall dark and handsome nerd, but a nerd nonetheless.

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Well that too. Everything in moderation. You don't want the poor lady to feel like she is being interrogated by the FBI.

I love the story about you and your husband. I would of picked up on that instantly. Though I would of failed the geography questions. I need to brush up on that. lol

I would love a nerd too.

Happy Vday to you.

TDawgRex
reply to post by nixie_nox

 

I just know I'm going to piss her off over some slip of the tongue. That's been my life, sad to say.

Can you give an example?

You can always write it off as nervousness. If she likes you enough, she will get past it.

What do you look for in a mate, anyways?

nixie_nox
What do you look for in a mate, anyways?

Some one as smart, or smarter than me. Well travelled (you might fail the geography test on that one...lol) and most of all curious. I like curiousity in a person.

And travel. I want to get off my ass and travel again, but I would prefer that I had some one I could share the adventure with.

reply to post by TDawgRex


You know what would be interesting TDawg? If while sitting across from your date, in the nice Italian Bistro, you found out she was a member here, and had been reading this thread. That would be quite a conversation starter, wouldn't it....

Des

Destinyone
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You know what would be interesting TDawg? If while sitting across from your date, in the nice Italian Bistro, you found out she was a member here, and had been reading this thread. That would be quite a conversation starter, wouldn't it....

Des

And I thought I was nervous before...

Gee, Thanks Des! And here I thought you were here to help.

reply to post by TDawgRex


I am here to hep! If that were to be the case, she would see how dedicated you are to having a pleasant date with her. I would think you quite charming, if it were me.

I'm sure she's not a member here...if things click between you on your date, that will be up to you to bring her in as a new member in the future.

All is well in TDawg land....

Des

reply to post by beezzer


I will be myself. For better or worst.

Everytime I try to mold myself into her version of the guy she wants it never ended well.

I'm through with that.

I just gotta be me...baggage and all.

Though I am trying to hide the baggage in the closet. Think Monty Python, Zaphod Beeblebrox and Tony Stark all rolled up in one....but without the money.