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Everyone knows lying is wrong. And most parents try to instill in their children that this behavior is unacceptable. But new research has shown a vast majority of parents will actually lie to their children in order to get them to behave.
Lead researcher Gail Heyman, of the University of California, San Diego (UCSD), has found certain variations in the way parents from the US and China use untruths and white lies when dealing with their kids. The research is published in the International Journal of Psychology.
Heyman and colleagues found the percentage of parents who reported lying to their children for the purpose of getting them to behave was higher in China (98 percent) than in the US (84 percent). The researchers believe the reason parents in China lie more in this manner is due to the fact that demand for compliance is greater in China than in the US, and parents will do whatever is necessary to make their kids conform.
Other types of lying, however, were similar between China and US parents. In both countries, parents seem to be comfortable lying to their kids to promote positive feelings and to support belief in the existence of fantasy characters, such as the Tooth Fairy.
Originally posted by predator0187
I have two children ages 5 and 7, and they know the truth about most. They do not believe in Santa, the tooth fairy or anything else that we lie to our children about. We do not celebrate Christmas, although we do appreciate the time off of school/work so we can spend more family time together.
I have tried to be as truthful as I can to my children; they understand consumerism and the fact that we are a throw away culture.
Originally posted by rival
When you play the Santa and Tooth Fairy game what you teach your children is that it is okay to lie.
They will learn to mistrust even the highest authority.
I would say these are critical thinking skills, but for me I learned not to trust my instincts. For
instance when I was young I had a problem with the logistics of Santa and all his deliveries
and I was told that he was magic....that pacified me for awhile...then I had a problem with
the different Santas at the shopping stores. I was told there were Santa's helpers...and that
pacified me for awhile. But in essence it quelled my critical thinking skills.
When my daughter first had doubts about Santa I listened to her questions (which were valid)
and then confessed and told her "good job" with figuring that out.....her mom was mad.
Originally posted by predator0187
reply to post by LennayTheUndead
I turned out to be a good person as well. That's not the point.
Point is, your parent blatantly lied to you, about multiple things, while I would imagine, trying to instill that lying was bad.
I wonder how many people actually give their children coal if they are bad....
Pred...
Originally posted by rival
When you play the Santa and Tooth Fairy game what you teach your children is that it is okay to lie.
They will learn to mistrust even the highest authority.