a reply to:
GENERAL EYES
Only to clarify, I contacted you after you friended me, which I was happy about, and it piqued my interest. So, I read your profile, and saw we might
have a lot of things in common. But out of respect, as I very rarely contact members I haven't had an exhange with here, on ATS, publicly, first.
Then, in chat, one night, when you were there, I said hello, and responded to you friending me.
Then later, I admitted after a few years of being on this board, that I'd had a UFO experience. And everything changed, then. You and I had
contact, and at the same time, Skyfloating's thread, from a few years ago, seemed to experience a renewal, with people posting on it again. I read,
and didn't write. Just as I read the thread where I admitted my experience. But I wasn't physically feeling well, as I'm physically
disabled….I've been hospitalized in the last few months for shingles. I am not healed, yet. It's very, very painful. The nerves being affected
(3 or 4 nerve paths, unusually severe), are also the nerves affected by my ruptured cervical disc, which is putting pressure also, on my
spinal
chord. So, obviously, I am not well. At all.
My responses and the time I make them are dependent and influenced totally by that situation.
I told you privately I was unwilling to talk much about it here, on ATS. And that I preferred some other form of communication for that issue,
specifically. And you answered your husband required that you not give out your email to anyone here, which I understood, and still do.
You then told me you would be in chat that evening.
Frankly, as I stated,I was certainly unwilling to share that in chat, much less on the boards. I have been sleeping the last 12 hours because
previously I had nowhere to sleep and had not slept for many hours. So, when I finally got a place to sleep, I slept for quite a while. I am still
not feeling well: that means I'm in pain, though I'd like not to detail that so it won't get worse.
I found this situation when i logged on tonight. I have not reacted to it well. I am not special. But I don't think I'm schizo affective, either.
Nor do I think these are the only two choices. Because that is someone else's experience or decision doesn't mean it applies to me, and that
certainly doesn't mean I'm "special," either. '
I see a lot of if you aren't this you are that, going on. Because I had this happen to me and now translate it this way, and you don't, then
you're ___________…fill in the blank as you choose.
Why, WHY is this going on?
As for what transpired between you and I, GE…you communicate, I think, at least with me, with saying generalized things, which are supposed to apply
to me right then. As an example, you told me on the last page what it's like if you commit yourself, and you were directing that to me. That says
to me, that you are telling me I need to commit
myself, but you're doing it (telling me that), it seems in a passive/aggressive manner. At least, I didn't have to spend a lot of energy reading
between the lines. Unfortunately, or fortunately, depenedant upon what's happening, I am a mostly direct communicator. I don't know if it was on
the board, or in pms, that you gave, always prefaced with your vast experience (which I do not doubt at all, nor am I disrespecting here), of drug
addicted people you've seen in a treatment capacity, whom you've asked to detail their abuse experiences, but who become angry and defensive, and
won't do it. You extrapolated that it's because they are lying about their abuse, and then demanded "just one experience" being detailed would be
enough for you……if not, someone is lying.
I guess that someone was me. I'm not drug addicted, GE. I'm not detailing my experiences on a website. I shouldn't need to, either. I am 52,
it's not my first trip around the block, either, and I'm sick right now, physically have a very, very painful problem. Supposed to be stress free
right now, so I'll heal, so my cervical disc problems, on my spinal chord, can be addressed.
I'm sorry I took up your valuable time. I don't appreciate the indirect, nor labeling, nor the descriptions of what it will be like when I commit
myself, and then calling me "dear." I apologize, really, if it offended you I wouldn't share in public. What you shared with me, was really in
public, and we both know it. I assume you know the private message system here should not be considered "safe" nor "secure." Our private
messages are taken off the system over time if we save them, so as not to clutter the server. And mods look at them in times of dispute.
Sorry, I didn't tell you to share there. I wouldn't and probably won't. That doesn't make me rude.
I've taken quite a bit of my valuable time when I'm not healthy, and it hurts to sit and type a long time……but I'll do it. Because I needed to
apologize to you, and to WanDash, but I do take exception here, as I am not trying for anyone to believe me, provide proof, or wallow, either. Nor do
I consider myself special. I am truly sorry I offended both of you, defending myself. I posted that I didn't think that it was fair to tell anyone
if they hadn't followed a certain path, they choose to go through what they are, as though following that specific path will undoubtedly help
someone. It may. I've certainly gone down it. It didn't help me. That's all. That doesn''t necessarily mean I think I'm special, because it
didn't or I don't accept it will help everyone. Or that I'm lying because I don't want to share publicly. I don't think any of that was a fair
characterization of me, nor the trying to put me in that "box" tonight.
And it doesn't happen to any of you because it happened to me. I'm sick of being blamed, labeled, characterized, etc.
I have barely participated in this thread, anyway.
Regardless and despite all that: to you and WanDash I am sorry for offending you, and hurting your feelings. I mean this; it is not an empty
apology. The last thing I wish to do here is offend or hurt anyone. But I get it that my being here seems to be a problem.
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