reply to post by SaosinEngaged
I am a caucasian who has worked in a 99.9% black school (there were a few other white faculty members) and have indeed also been on the receiving end
of racism. It is never comfortable when it happens to you.
Despite this, I think it's important to understand the historical context of Dr. Laura's remarks.
We white people have always been the dominant race in this country. We do have a long history of racial hatred and discrimination toward minorities,
that's a fact.
While I don't dispute that there are black people who dislike and even hate us because we are white, they have never passed laws preventing us from,
say, eating at restaurants where they eat or shopping where they shop or riding on public transportation with them. They just have never had the
power to do that, and most would probably never do it if they could.
Among other things, Dr. Laura seemed incensed that racial tensions have not magically disappeared just because we have a black (or if you want to
nitpick, half black) president. That's like people in my parents' generation claiming that since Sammy Davis Jr. was a star there was no longer any
racial prejudice in this country and African Americans should stop pressing for integration.
There are a few hundred years of bad history that must be overcome if blacks and whites are to live peaceably with each other, and that is happening
in increments, but it IS happening.
While I take Schlesinger's point about the double standard around the "n" word I do believe her diatribe was out of proportion to what the caller
was saying. What I heard Jade saying was that basically her husband was insensitive to, or at least blissfully unaware of, the racially biased (or at
least tone deaf) comments of some of his friends. That seems to be a real problem that could affect their marriage, and telling her to "get over
it" (which is basically what Laura said) and thus denying the seriousness of the hurt was less than no help at all to the caller or her audience.
It's going to take years of concerted effort on the part of all races to bridge the gaps between us, and Dr. Laura's advice to someone who was
asking her question in all sincerity was about as helpful as telling a rape victim to excuse her rapist because there are also women who abuse men.
[edit on 19-8-2010 by Sestias]