I am in the hospital

a reply to: TechniXcality

Get well. We wouldn't want to miss that smile around here.

leolady

a reply to: TechniXcality

I came from a long line of alcoholics.... My father became sober after 50 years on the bottle and it took some time before he realized he had a serious problem even though he was 100% disabled. When he was sober he was mean but when he was drunk he was the devil and when he was drunk he enjoyed beating my little sister and I a pulp.

I use to fear alcohol after seeing what it did to my grandmother and father. I remember one horror after another..... once when I was five and living with my alcoholic grandmother..... she stripped off all my clothes and stripped off the clothes of my little sister (she was 3 at the time) and threw us out of the house and locked the doors.... and then passed out. I picked up my little sister and carried her to the neighbors while walking in snow up to my knees.....

Alcohol and drugs ruin lives.... I hope you defeat it.

Been there...done that. OP wanting accolades for being homeless & in the hospital for alcohol related problem. Wow, just wow. aa reply to: Justso

a reply to: openyourmind1262

Maybe he just wanted a bit of support from the members who like the guy?.

a reply to: openyourmind1262

I don't think he his looking for accolades, he's simply telling us what is happening with him, he's obviously worried about his situation and the vast majority of members genuinely care and want to wish him well. You see it has him having caused all of his own problems, maybe so, and that is your prerogative. However, I find that in someone's time of need it is probably best to stick to the old adage, that if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all...

To TechX Sorry to hear what you are going through, I've always loved your posts and positive outlook, you can get through this. Wishing you all the best xxx

Sorry to hear about your circumstances, been homeless at times when I was a kid because my parents also liked a drink WAY too much, my old man fell unconscious from too much vodka in front of a 3 bar electric fire, it melted his fake leather coat and most of his back with it, he didn't even know until he woke up...

Do NOT get to that level EVER...

I know its damn hard and I can't pretend it will be easy but use that training you had to focus the mind, drink will simply deny focus as much as it feels good at the time, however as you know the drink won't put a roof over your head especially if people see you in that state.

I already started to sense a weakening of spirit but Soldier you must must deny it, if you could fight for your country then you can fight for yourself, as much as the nurses are sweet they want to see the back of you for all the best reasons, don't let them down!

As they say, s**t happens, I've gone from being a very active bloke to crippled with arthritis and numerous other problems BUT I refuse to let things like drink kill me, a glass at the weekend but the medication does not even like that so I simply look at my wife and daughter and use them to channel some happiness back.

I wish you all the best and hope to see you back on here in better times ASAP, just don't give in or up...

Paul....Cold and sore in the UK...

a reply to: openyourmind1262

Honestly, if you don't want to help the guy, why bother posting negative stuff, when you see trough what he's going trough?

Sometimes, all that we need is to know that someone cares about us. ATS obviously cares about you OP. No excuses anymore. You still got a whole life ahead of you, don't waste it

a reply to: openyourmind1262

He might be feeling a bit alone right now. Have you ever felt alone during a really low point in your life?

Well, I'm here to tell Tech that he is NOT alone, and with the exception of you, the ATS community is thinking of him and pulling for his success.

a reply to: TrueBrit

That's a very profound and accurate statement of the human condition. I'll remember that.

Hey every one of you....help aint sugar coating a problem. There's times when you need that other voice (mine). THat other voice that want sugar coat a damn drinking problem. My dad was a drunk, my older brother as well, and my 29 year old son fights it on a damn dailey. I detest alcohol and it's effects on society. I guess cause it's legal we accept the damn horrors it lays on us all. Go ahead, pat him on the back and support his hospitalization for doing it to himself. No one wrenched his arm behind his back and made him drink...he choose to, he also choose the consequences of that decision.

Drinking because your homeless is a cope out, another reason to drown the sorrow in a bottle of booze. I'll stand by my first post in this thread. His problems are self imposed.

a reply to: TechniXcality

I hope you pull out of this!!! There are so many resources for veterans helping veterans and I'm sorry it's come to such a dire circumstance for you.

Please don't become another causality of war. I hope there are people nearby in Texas who can visit you.

Peace.

a reply to: openyourmind1262

Of course no one forced him to drink. We all know that. He knows that. But he says he wants to quit and set himself right again, and you want to put him down for that?? No one is patting him on the back for being an alcoholic. We are supporting his desire to kick it. We are letting him know he's not alone.

Telling him he's a lousy drunk who doesn't deserve support is certainly NOT going to help him go down the very tough road of conquering this problem.

a reply to: openyourmind1262

dude, not now, go home. You are just irritating.

I'll offer you something I learned a while ago, and hope it sinks in.
Knowledge is knowing what to say, Wisdom, is knowing WHEN to say it.

Wisdom is never sugar coating a problem...any problem. I leaned that " along time ago".a reply to: network dude

a reply to: openyourmind1262

I remember you now. You are the one who posted about dying with ALS. It felt good getting some support from others on ATS, didn't it? Don't let this negative energy of yours be your final legacy.

I don't know if you are familiar with Tech's history, but he went through a nasty divorce with his wife leaving him for another man. He's had a hard time getting to spend time with his kids. I don't agree with his politics at all, but I think he's a decent fellow who is going through a really rough time right now. I don't think he'd mind me saying this, as he's been pretty open about it.

We all respond to bad situations differently. Yours is apparently to be grumpy and negative. Tech's is to self harm. But if he says he wants to fix that, I'll be supporting him. If you make an effort to be a little more compassionate, I will support you too.

Chin up man, get your Mojo back, you'l find it in time

a reply to: openyourmind1262

I think most people have been affected deeply by a drinker/alcoholic and the devastation which ensues. Two of my sisters destroyed themselves with alcohol. The reverberations from their self-destruction reached far and wide.

I understand what you're saying and it's unfortunate the OP did not reach out before it came to this because your voice may have been a boost for him then. Right now he's in ICU and hopefully he will make it out of there. Your voice/your personal frustration with alcoholism may be very helpful when he's feeling a bit stronger. Sometimes people need a boot camp sarge to help then overcome.

a reply to: openyourmind1262

when he's healthy and out of the hospital, that's the time to kick him in the ass and steer him in the right direction, right now, he needs to know there are a lot of folks who care about him and he has a lot of support. Put yourself in his bed, though it sounds like you were there already.

Compassion first, then discipline. He's a good person, those are hard to find these days.

originally posted by: Tempter

originally posted by: intrptr
a reply to: TechniXcality

Detox is a nightmare. Hang in there.

No, the REAL nightmare is not hanging it up.

He must take it one day at a time and NEVER take it for granted again.

In fact, he needs to take it out of his own hands. HIS hands can't manage. God can help, and also making things right in your life.

Almost one year for me. # alcohol.

That comes later. For now he is in detox. Thats why I said "hang in there".

a reply to: TechniXcality
OMGosh Tech! You need to take care of you!!!!!
Please take it easy and do as they say!!!! Detox can be very dangerous so please be careful!!!! We are preparing you a sickbed in The Shed. And the pixies are serious when they tell you do as the Dr's and nurses say (you don't want them working any of their magic on you!). We are all here wishing you well and sending you a million positive thoughts!!!! Please keep us updated!!!!