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originally posted by: InTheLight
originally posted by: theabsolutetruth
a reply to: InTheLight
I have been in that situation often, I can vouch for that.
It's happened to me too often, though I wish it were not the truth.
Dating is not a science it is a natural mating ritual which needs much thought and work (by the male).
originally posted by: InTheLight
It seems this thread is more about men without game, or men expecting games, or women being game.
originally posted by: MimiSia
a reply to: Entreri06
I am confused
1. what are you trying to say personally
2. what is this scientific advice..
is it to
not to make man jealous? ok that is common sense if you want to be in a relationship
if a woman is trying to make you jealous that means she is insecure
originally posted by: MimiSia
a reply to: TruthLover557
Also ever think about the possibility that no one is trying to make you jealous and you are just jealous?
I thought the same thing!!!
originally posted by: Entreri06
Just out of curiousity who is the bargain bin, second rate females in this conversation. I forget?
originally posted by: ladyinwaiting
a reply to: MimiSia
I am confused
You finally said something I agree with. Just be careful to speak for yourself, and not all women, okay?
can I as a lesbian ask you what do u find attractive ?
originally posted by: Cancerwarrior
I haven't really dated alot in my lifetime, but I have been married to the same woman for almost 15 years now. we have been together for more like 17 but here is my observations on it all:
If somebody hits on my wife when she stops at the gas station or wherever, thats the first thing she tells me about when I ask her "How did your day go?" when she gets home. Its like she literally cannot wait to let me know that there was another guy that found her attractive (whether real or just perceived by her as such) I always tend to downplay or ignore it when she tells me and she seems to get irritated when I do. The thing is when I observe and point out this behavior its like she really doesnt notice it at all.
And this is something else I've noticed throughout the years, if you ask a woman what kind of man she wants, 90 percent of the time they will all say the same things: They will tell you they want a nice looking guy who treats them like a lady and takes care of their family and has a good job and is a good provider and doesnt cheat on them etc. etc. Then many of these very same women I see get men like this, exactly as they describe them. Then (I think unconsciously) its like they purposefully sabotage their relationships with the guy. They'll do and say things to distance themselves from him, or make him distance themselves from her. Then I see many of these same women get with a guy who treats them like a doormat, talks down to them, uses them for money while they never work, on and on and they stay together for years.
I know I cannot say that about all women for sure. I do know some women that actually have a good man and have been happily together for many years, but that does'nt seem like the trend to me at all.
I was home schooled for most of grade school and I went to a public high school becasue I wanted to play sports. So when I hit 9th grade, I felt like this total weirdo becasue all of a sudden I was thrust into this environment where all of these social factors(that I had never really thought about or considered unimportant up until then) came into play over who your friends were, what group you hung out with, how to talk to girls was a biggie too becasue it seems most people start flirting/learning how to talk with girls in jr. high and I had skipped all of that. I had always assumed "Well, if a girl is interested in me, she will find a way to let me know if I just be Mr. nice guy like girls say they want."
I was 21 years old and in college when I finally lost that mindset. A cute redhead girl started going to classes there and she always hung outside in the smoking area after tests, bumming cigarettes off of me and talking non stop (usually about her ex-boyfriends). I wanted to ask her out but figured I'd get the awkward "Sorry, but....blah blah I like you as a friend" speech that I had gotten from practically every woman I had ever asked up until then, so I did something that I just generally don't do to people. I started to make fun of her and say stuff like "damn, looks like you need to lose a few pounds" or "Do you consider getting botox to get rid of those lines around your eyes." Within a day....A SINGLE DAY she was waiting for me by my car to leave one day and wanted to know if I wanted to get a drink with her after class. I could'nt believe it.
So I guess some dating advice to guys would be talk down to your woman, treat your dog better than her, let her know shes fat and ugly and hit her up for money all the time!
(I'm joking by the way, I would have not been married to the woman I have for as long as I have if that's how I really was. Still does'nt mean I don't see it all around me though.)
originally posted by: ladyinwaiting
In answer to the question what do I find attractive? Johnny Depp. : )
But seriously, You'll be fine. Maybe stop focusing so much on what others want, and focus on what you want in a relationship. Once you know that, you'll know what to look for.
originally posted by: theabsolutetruth
a reply to: Entreri06
I don't do the dating scene thing, though if I did and thought a man had 'game' I would think him a 'player' and as such unattractive.
originally posted by: MimiSia
a reply to: KnightLight
ok so why are u single lol