Just lost my baby girl and want to vent.

just left my baby girls funeral. my wife lost her at 39 weeks. I am not religious, but if I hear "its gods plan" one more time I am going to slap someone stupid. or some other #-tastic sayings "god needed another angel". or "she is in a better place"

Are you #ing kidding me? what a great plan, take a baby girl from a loving family. what better place is there than the loving arms of the family? i know i am angry and grieving, but a god that would take a child from a loving family is some # i dont want to hear about

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ATS' thoughts and prayers are with you. Youre not alone.

May she RIP.

I'm so sorry..................

Hya

I felt the same when my daughter was 12 wks old
It was a routine check up and the next thing we know she was diagnosed with ventricular septum defect(holes in the heart)
Spent the next 4 years in and out of hospital, my partner and myself had to train to tube feed her (nazal gasteric)

Today she is well and happy at 6 yrs old.
But my goodness it was horrible, so i could understand what you are going through (to a degree)
I know you dont want to hear this but..Time is a great healer,along with the support of family and friends.

hope this helped a little bit
dave

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I'm so sorry!!!!

Know you are not alone... even on ATS there are many of us who have also lost children. I can relate to all the feelings and feelings you will have after today. My hope is you and your wife will get through this together and you will find peace within to cope with this tragic loss. ((((HUGS))))

I am so very sorry. What a heartbreaking loss. Please take care of yourselves.

There is nothing harder in this life than the loss of a child, especially when young. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Try not to be angry with friends. They are offering comfort the only thing they know while at the same time trying to convince themselves it is true.

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So sorry... thoughts and prayers are with you. May your little one rest in peace.

This is heartbreaking. My condolences. Thoughts and blessings to you and your family Tracer.

Cirque

You have every right to vent, life really sucks sometimes. All you can do is love and support your wife through this.
Nothing can replace this loss, but you can always try again.
Family and friends are only trying to help, no words can heal your pain, only time.

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So very sorry to hear of your terrible loss. Life can be so unfair.
Vent as much as you need to and take care x x

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The pain must be terrible....I am so sorry for your loss

I'm so sorry to hear that, as a parent it brings tears to my eyes. nothing anyone can say will make it any better, but their hearts are in the right place,not that it makes it any easier for you to hear. Honestly, you have every right to be angry. It's an important part of the grieving process.
I know it doesn't help anything, but I give you my most heartfelt condolences. It won't ever go away, but someday it won't weigh down on you as much as it does right now. Just hang in there, You're wife needs you to be strong for her too.

I am so sorry ... and surely nothing I can possibly say will comfort you, there is no comfort in death
there is only pain on every part. I can't speak for my self I have never lost a child and I can't imagine losing the only one I gave birth to. I feel for you and your family and I will be lighting a candle for you today that you can manage to try to go on through this hard time together.... strenght is with your family now! Bless you my friend.

very sorry to hear about yo and your wife's loss..

very sorry to hear about yo and your wife's loss..

I am so sorry to hear that.

I agree with you 100%... what better place than with you & your wife!

as hard as it is for you to hear it, they're only trying to help... words are pretty useless in a situation like that, but they clearly want to offer some words of support, except none exist to soothe a parent after the loss of a child.

my heart goes out to you for your loss, no parent should ever have to bury their child, .. but what else can anybody say to somebody grieving like you are other than the words they've used?

i understand your heartbreak and pain very much, but i also understand the need to offer some words of support, pathetically inadequate though they may be.

*hug*

I'm so very, very sorry. There's nothing anyone can say, no words at all, to alleviate the pain you & your wife are feeling. You will never forget your daughter, you may, in time, go on to have other children but none will fill the void of this loss. Of course you will love others as much as you do this little mite but she will forever be your first child who will live on in your hearts. I'm not a religious person but I will pray for you to receive some peace of mind & soul. Until that happens go on & rant. Yell, cry, scream, get it all out, hold your wife & cry together. Don't get lost in your grief & forget one another, don't forget that the other is in as much pain. You created a life together & lost that life together. Peace be with you both.

There's no better place for a child to be than with the're mum and dad.
So sorry for your loss, stay strong, and if you need to talk or rant, then U2U me anytime.

Peace.