If you love your lover, would be ok with them having sex with another if it gave them joy?

Your moral value system must be highly compromised if you think its ok for your partner to have sex with another!

This is what wrong with society these days, its Sodom and Gomorrah all over again!

And we all know how that worked out!

Originally posted by winofiend
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That's quite sad really. To have no emotional attachment to something so intimate.

No wonder the world is in such a shambles. Such a torchwood attitude.

Might as well be humping mrs palmer if the only one there is you.

I was quite a wild younger man and had loads of sex just for the fun of it. Some of the girls I knew were just as bad, sex for the sake of sex ? Hell yeah Then I matured and found love

Sad hell no !
I was a young man getting laid and free to get on with my life, learned many sexual gymnastics and lived life to the full, I was as they say young,dumb, and full of cum. My life was full of fast women fast bikes and friends (most of whom) that are still here & maturer (well for the most part) . Those memories of that reckless kid still inspire me to make difficult decisions that others shy away from and suffer for.

If living life to max is sad then hell I loved being sad

Originally posted by arpgmemaintain their relationship with you because they find your "bond" special but this is other person is just sex...

It really isn't that special then, is it? No, that is not a relationship I want to be a part of.

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It is special because the bond is with that other which is the whole point of the relationship, even though sex is happening with others, there is no bond like that one person... so yes, it is special.

You are just greedy/jealous and wanting to control a human for yourself alone.

Absolutely not, but its entirely up to you and your partner.
If an open relationship is suitable for both of you then have at it.
For me personally, I say no and its not being selfish.

If you aren't satisfied with your current partner and need to go to another for pleasure then do the right thing and break up.

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Do "the right thing" and break up? What if the relationship IS sexually fulfilling but that other person is just hot and you wanna have sex with them just for fun?

And how is it not selfish to try to keep a person all to yourself?

This thread is funny. All these posters feigning disgust at sleeping with a person outside of their relationships. We all fantasize about people we are not with and if you say you've never done that then I'm going to go out on a limb and say you're lying.

The only reason men AND WOMEN don't sleep with other people is because they're afraid of hurting their partner or they're afraid of being called some not very nice names.

Personally, I've never cheated on a woman and wouldn't but it doesn't mean I haven't thought about having sex with another. The only reason polygamy is rarely practised in western society is because you've all been told from a very early age that it's wrong.

The truth is, nature tells us that it's right.

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If the person I fell in love with wanted to have sex with another; I would say go ahead...but we are as of now just friends and our sexual relationship is over; you want to live a single life; go ahead.

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You must be young...lol.

Most women get emotionally involved having sex. If someone wants to have sex with someone the chances of emotions getting involved are pretty high up. Lets not De-evolve to the state of rutting.

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Most women get emotionally involved having sex.

So do most men, we are the same species you know?

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Just because you have sex with different people that doesn't mean you want to be single.

Originally posted by arpgme

Just because you have sex with different people that doesn't mean you want to be single.

I myself believe in fidelity...If I have mistakenly chosen a partner who does not believe in fidelity; then I will not have sexual relations with them any longer; and they will remain (most likely) a friend.

I believe that if people what to have sexual relations with various people; then they are choosing to live a single no commitment lifestyle.

This is what I believe; and these are my opinions; and I am entitled to them. You will never convince me that sleeping around is ok.

NO Because along with some "JOY" They may brin ome some herpes.....or wuss

If the "love of your life" is feeding you this BS, she's probably been cheating on you for soo long, that she doesnt even bother to lie about it anymore, and now she laughs because you have now justifyed it in your own mind.

If she feels the need to have sex with others, then what does she need you for? Some day she will sleep with a person that gives her more then you even could and she will leave you.

In closing, she is a whore, and you are just dumb.

Your view of love is so twisted.

Because if you really love someone, then you only want to sleep with them. Therefore, if your SO wants to sleep around, she/he doesn't truly love you.

Honestly, I have no problem if couples agree to it. I'm not going to try to outlaw it. But don't try to tell me it's normal.

I myself believe in fidelity...

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I think you just hit the nail on the head caladonea


Let's face it people.......................If you are genuinely in love this whole thread is mute .
Fun to take part in though

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Good for you H, great perspective. I caught my woman getting naked the other day with friends
... Drunk.. I almost pulled my gun and pistol whipped and killed..

Easy!!!! I was more of a man then I have ever been.. I was Disappointed to the fullest extent.
I love her so much that I look pass her stupidity and emotional BS, every single person out
there has secrets, the ones who do it hide it, at least my love displays it in a sense
where I have a say... I'm no where perfect, when I screwed up, she was there for me 110%.
I feel to do the same for her, effffed up I know but it takes %110 from both partners to make
love work.... Ugghhh

Fu$&9@ up thread, but I give you a S&F friend

Learning to love is like learning to let go, if I feel hate towards her an we can't Compromise, I'll let her loose
And move on

My happiness is all I've got. And I would do damn near anything to keep her and love her. Question is are you willing To go to extremes to keep the one you love around??


Good thread you got me thinking!!

reply to post by arpgme

If you love your lover, would be ok with them having sex with another if it gave them joy?

If my lover loved me should they even want to?

I've had open relationships in the past where we were not exclusive or in love but I could never be OK with someone I was truly in love with or committed to do such a thing.

I don't think what I have to say will be very PC, and this is my opinion so here it goes. The premise to the OP is very immature. When one marries another, you are making a commitment to that person. A commitment which is binding emotionally, spiritually, intellectually, and physically. You are coming together as one with seperate personalities. Why would someone's partner seek sex outside of the relationship? Because of selfishness. That person is so selfish they will use the love of their partner for their own wants. That is not love either. It is a sign that something is wrong with the relationship and that both individuals are not on the same page.

Would it be ok for you lover to shoot up heroin, because that would make them happy? How about spending the entire bank account in a casino? The fact is, sex outside of the relationship, heroin, and gambling your account is all distructive behavior and leads to unintended circumstances. To think otherwise is to delude yourself. How is it loving to let someone do distructive behavior because it makes them feel better? It also not about being jealous, its about being a stand up person. Mean what you say and be an honorible person. There is no honor in having an affair.