posted on Feb, 20 2013 @ 12:43 AM
The problem really became evident to me when I moved to France. After a few years, going back home, I am always shocked by the obesity there, when I
didn't notice it before.
I am from southern California too, which is more health conscious than some other parts of the country, but still, the idea of a "regular" weight
there is very overweight compared to european standards!
I watched the living habits of my relatives and saw there are some that eat very healthy, but eat very large amounts. They are used to having their
stomach feel "full" at the end of the meal, whereas in europe it is considered a sign that you have over eaten if you get to that point.
But also a lot of snacking in between meals goes on, and particularly, I think there is some emotional bingeing some do with food and are in denial
about. I have a relative who is an athlete, and yet she is very overweight. This kind of confused us. She seemed to eat low calorie healthy food all
the time and got a lot of exercise. She claimed it was genetic.
But staying with us, we would find whole cookie packages crumpled up behind the bed, or chip bags. She once described how her mom and her would
sometimes have special moments when they would watch a movie and eat a whole batch of brownies together. This occasional bingeing she kept hidden, and
I think she even made herself forget it at times.
She also had one of those personalities that comes off to others as being arrogant- she actually said to some french people "of course I know
everyone wishes they were american...". Everyone experienced her as being extremely insecure and trying to compensate and protect herself. So when we
found out about the secret bingeing, it just wasn't a surprise.
Most Americans will tell you- there is nothing worse than being "mothered" (or "nannied", same idea) it is practically a sin there... and yet food
is the ultimate mothering experience and our attitudes towards it are representative of our feelings and needs in relation to maternalization. (why
eating disorders are always considered linked to the relations with the mother).
In that view, it would indicate, that despite our boastful assertions that we need no mothering, no comforting, no help from others, we might be in
denial about that.