I dumped my boyfriend last night.

reply to post by hombero

This thread is in the Relationships forum and is not part of the conspiracy side of ATS. This is in what used to be BTS and is now the General Chat forums.
Thanks for your valuable input though.
If it bothers you that much why even visit this forum?

Originally posted by hombero
This is a conspiracy site, not a relationship venting site. Correct me if I'm wrong but this thread doesn't belong on this website. Not to sound insensitive but users are here to read about non mainstream/conspiracy topics not people's latest relationship woes.

Having said this, I might as well put my (other) 2 cents regarding the OP: take it with a grain of salt, you are only hearing one side of the story and we all know how much of a twist people put on their own side of a story.

OP better luck next time, but you must have known this was a likely outcome? (Of a long distance relationship)

hey sparky.. this part of the forum is labeled Off Topic: Relationships...

reply to post by miss_sky

Since when did ATS become an Ann Landers weepy wining site for needy insecure females? He actually dumped you a while back he just didn't have the stones to tell you.

Did some of the posters not observe the forum this thread was posted in? Also if this discussion bothers you so much why are you here reading and posting?

reply to post by CrimsonMoon


He sounds depressed, maybe the issue is deeper than the two of you, either way, you deserve to be treated better.

Never thought I'd be replying to this sort of thing on ATS......In my opinion long distance relationships never really work, we are still too driven by the immediate, especially at a primal level.

Simple as that really.

sounds like he found someone closer, and didn't want to tell you.

good luck

reply to post by miss_sky


sounds like neither one of you were really mature about this relationship..

One of the things about being an adult is growing up...


Not sure what to make of your tirade about you relationship problems, its obvious thou you did not love the guy.... If you did you would not be complaining to strangers all over the world about him..

maybe the guy is sick, defiantly a communication problem, sounds depressed to me..


Learn from this I guess and grow up give yourself some respect and keep your personal affairs, personal...

I know....... Its tough being an adult.

reply to post by miss_sky

Take offense but unless he is a chatting machine I think maybe there is a change that he was just all chatted out and has little left to say. I mean is he supposed to be there talking to you and texting you for hours on end every single day about every single meaningless thing that crops up... It's not phesable. I mean what can anybody have to possibly talk on for so long, all the time? You should take offense once again but you do not seem like the type who would be all that interesting to talk to, maybe you should become more interesting.

Long distance relationship and all, and maybe he did not care and wanted it to end, but really sometimes people just don't feel like talking for any number of hundreds of reasons. For all you know a family member could of died, or he could got into some mess. So maybe hes just depressed, or maybe he found somebody else and is messing with you, or maybe he could of just been sick and tired of chatting you has nothing left to say and up and decided to do other stuff. Or any number of other reasons.

But Ahhh you see it works both ways, cant complain hes not doing his part when your probably not doing yours, whatever that part may be. Just pulling your leg, but seriously if not constantly chatting and texting you up is the reason you dumped him...Then....OK...Whatever, as good a reason as any.

Can't offer any useful advice with so little to go on except maybe this......

Long distance relationships almost never work when dealing with long periods of time. Skype, cell phones, texting cannot replace the physical aspects of a relationship (not talking exclusively about sex either), a simple thing such as holding hands or a brush of the hair off of a cheek, a pressing of lips in an area of subdued lighting can light a fire that burns a lifetime.

Somewhere along the line, due to one reason or another dishonesty was involved. When people are not honest with each other relationships fail. It sounds like he found someone else, or lost interest, or felt smothered, or had another reason to be dishonest, but you can bet somewhere in there lack of being honest is the culprit.

My honest advice is to hang in there and find someone local that you have a good deal in common with and take things from there.

I never viewed some on here as sharks swirling in the waters off a beach at the smell of blood......until now

Originally posted by Darkphoenix77
I never viewed some on here as sharks swirling in the waters off a beach at the smell of blood......until now

Oh ya! There is plenty of that, and I think it goes both ways, as some on here would not post there non problems unless they were testing the waters...And no, its not me. I am merely a passer by, a ghost bound for other shores.

Someone already pointed in this direction but OP, there is no valuable wisdom that can be departed here because we can only see the story through your filtered observations. If I had to be on the phone to you an hour a day It would be a weight! If I was an hour on the phone with you and enjoying it, I would quit my job, come home and marry you As it stands, I have only your filtered version of what actually went down without any representation from the other party. Your dumping this guy could mean many things and not all of them working in you favor but without the other sides input, it's guesswork at best...Just my 2c.

The saying "absence makes the heart grow fonder" is true, in my opinion, if one really wants to be with somebody else. If he was acting like he was tired of you during a long distance relationship, then you can imagine how it would eventually be, some years down the road, had the two of you moved in together.

He was probably hoping that ignoring you would make you just kind of fade away without him actually having to break up with you. But, you did the right thing and broke it off with him. I have seen way too many women stick with some guy because he promised to change, or she "loves him", or he promised to do this, or that; and before they know it, years and years have passed, and things are still the same.

Don't let that happen to you, and you'll be a much happier person.

reply to post by miss_sky


Maybe he developed a life threatening disease and didn't have the heart to tell you?

Originally posted by RobertF

reply to post by Darkphoenix77


Not a bad idea!
*shakes head in approval*

sounds like you got bored of him