I dumped my boyfriend last night.

If you find the guy that treats you like a princess run the other direction. That is something that should come with time, affection and respect. My best relationships were all built on friendships first. Everything beyond that is icing on the cake.
You sound quite young and perhaps a bit dependent. Guys don't want to talk or text several times a day. Good luck on finding the right man, he's out there.

Originally posted by miss_sky
reply to post by EnoEht

 

As for not meeting his sexual needs you are dead wrong. Our sex life was great.but a relationship isn't all about sex. Its also about going out and enjoying other things together.

yes this is 100% right, eventually when the "spark" runs out of the sex life it is the other things you share with your partner that keeps the relationship alive..usually however this applies to couples who have been married for several years..

im guessing you are younger maybe early 20's or early 30's and as much as we like to deny it, sex is a very important part of any relationship...especially when its fun, and you STILL get to do other cool things and have fun.

either way im sorry this happened to you, before i met my wife she was in a long distance relationship..until i came along and stole her from him...10 years later and shes never looked back

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Originally posted by EnoEht

men are adventurous creatures...you need to change things up every now and then..yea sure you could be "meeting" his needs..but just laying there and taking it, wont cut it...you gotta switch things up, otherwise we just get bored and look for a female that is willing to go the extra mile.

i'll scratch your back if you scratch mine

What makes you so sure that your opinion is one that is shared by ALL other males? It's not.

Not everyone views sex from a selfish point of view. Pleasure can be derived simply from knowing the satisfaction that one has given to the other.

reply to post by miss_sky


You can be pretty sure he had someone else on the side....you did the right thing.

reply to post by BrokenCircles


yea you are correct not everyone thinks like me, i was just giving some input and insight into an honest males mind.

reply to post by CrimsonMoon

There are guys out there that dont have the spine to tell a woman they want to split up. So what they do is treat them bad or ignore in the hope she will finish with them. Your best rid, pick a man with backbone next time

Let's be fair. Such behavior isn't exclusive to men.

In such situations, our imaginations can often be our own worst enemies. Communication is very important.

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we are both 35.

and btw...this might be too much information but im not one of those girls that just "lay there"!!!!!!

Originally posted by miss_sky
reply to post by EnoEht

 

we are both 35.

and btw...this might be too much information but im not one of those girls that just "lay there"!!!!!!

ok ok my apologies for the misguided comment. its a shame that this had to happen to you, based on your posts you sound like a caring and dedicated person, why dont you try to meet someone closer to you?

and one more thing, between ages 30 and up if someone is single it gets increasingly harder to find a good person that will stay by your side, because usually by this age people have grown accustomed to living by themselves and find that its hard to kick old habits..
this is personal and you dont have to answer but are you interested in having kids?

reply to post by EnoEht


apology excepted, and no i have never wanted kids. Just not for me, i'll stick with my cats

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lol

well...best of luck to you missy, and heres a little pick me up for you, for tomorrow

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awwwwww!!!!thats adorable!!!

2nd line.

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Now you are almost boasting about dumping him on the internet,I think he is well shot of you.

Lol, yea I bet shes eatin up the attention from her FB friends

To me as a guy it is obvious he wanted to end it but hadn't the guts to so it himself and you had to do it for him. At least you found out now and not later on in life. Not very man is like that as you probably know and someone out there is,the right guy, just that you haven't as yet found him, but you will and maybe you will come on here one day and say you are getting married, you never know. At least you got this all out and haven't just kept it to yourself.
Best of luck until you do find him.....

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I saw this pic and couldn't help but think of this thread.



Sorry, couldn't resist.


From what I hear, you probably did the right thing though. If you have the long distance thing going on, he should FIND the energy to spend quality time with you.

Now get back out there and find a new guy. A GOOD guy this time.

Originally posted by miss_sky
we were together a year and a half. it was a long distance relationship but things were great. we would spend every weekend with each other, go out and enjoy each others company. during the week we would text all throughout the day and every night we would either skype or have long phone conversations. we were serious and planning on moving into together and getting married.

well things got very stagnant. everytime we would see each other he was either too sick or too tired or just didnt . feel like doing anything. so for months on end every visit was in bed the WHOLE time while he either slept or we would rent movies.

the texts went down to maybe 3 a day...the phone calls maybe twice a week for only 15 minutes

ACK!!

Okay.. Im female first off... but I dont get it. You mean texts 3 times a day and calls 2 times a week werent enough?? Previously he was calling and texting all day and for HOURS... skype too..???

Holy hell! That sounds SUPER high maintenance to me. IF a guy did that to me Id have dropped him in the 2nd week of not being able to use the toilet without the guy calling, texting, skyping, etc. If that was what you were demanding of him... I can see why he got tired of it. When my husband was deployed we didnt talk near that much and didnt really require it.

I dont know, to each his or her own, but that seems an extremely excessive demand concerning the blabbering all day and night.

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I'm single. Hehehe.
On topic, all of the other posters are offering great advice. The advice I will give you was best said by Chris Rock. He said that when a woman meets a man, she actually meets his representative. So very true and it takes some men longer than others to ditch their representative.
I also agree with the poster that said your bf had no backbone, that he was acting the way he did so you'd cut ties with him. Smh.
Good luck next time around, I hope you meet a man that is right for you.

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It seems as though to me that they were in a honeymoon phase and it slowly weened off courtesy of the bf.

for a long distance relationship where couples only see each other once a week yes i do think texts throughout the day, even if just to say im thinking about you, and no i dont think an hour phone call each night is too much to ask for either. but thats just me. to each his own. im not the type to be a part time girlfriend.

reply to post by miss_sky


He lost interest. I was going to ask you if your name was desirae because that is exactly what happened with the last girl i dated before i got married.

Except in my case i broke up with her.

This is a conspiracy site, not a relationship venting site. Correct me if I'm wrong but this thread doesn't belong on this website. Not to sound insensitive but users are here to read about non mainstream/conspiracy topics not people's latest relationship woes.

Having said this, I might as well put my (other) 2 cents regarding the OP: take it with a grain of salt, you are only hearing one side of the story and we all know how much of a twist people put on their own side of a story.

OP better luck next time, but you must have known this was a likely outcome? (Of a long distance relationship)