Empaths and thier "powers" fiction or reality?

Does anyone else get "butterflies" in their stomach before something bad or uncomfortable happens? Not when you know it's coming like going to a party and meeting people or going to the docter etc. I mean out of the blue, everything is normal then bad nervous feeling and BAM....phone rings with bad news, car accident etc?

That's actually a problem that I had and have still today. I bough a tigers eye gemstone, which helps you feel grounded and eases the anxiety. It's the gemstone for the solar plexus chakra, i would highly recommend it to everyone that has this problem. It's pretty cheap too and does the job. I got it like a week ago.

Tigers eye

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Like I said everyone has a story to tell...crazy people too. It's my own fault though as I firmly believe everyone is worth at least an acknowledgement. Most crazy people though can't read body language and have to be verbally told to leave off. Heck some sane people do too!

The trick is not resenting people...that I grapple with daily. Not their fault most times that I pick up their issues or see their baggage...

As for friends well I am emotionally agoraphobic...my body left the house and took my mind with it begrudgingly.

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It's worth a try...anything at this point.

I happen to have an old ring of my dad's that is tiger eye, just have to find it.

Thank you!

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I understand what you are saying, I gave up on having close friends.

The pain isn't worth it.

You are right about not quite sane people....they do seek us out...they must sense who we are.

But they don't when enough is enough....

It's worth a try...anything at this point. I happen to have an old ring of my dad's that is tiger eye, just have to find it. Thank you!

Anytime. Unless you are planning on wearing the ring if it's a legit tigers eye. I just keep it in my pocket wherever I go.

You are right about not quite sane people....they do seek us out...they must sense who we are.

I met a couple of "energy vampires" myself where they just suck the good life out of you. Some are not even aware of this, and it's happening on a more subconscious level. Remember to shield yourself when you go out. I also stopped talking to my old friends for these same reasons.

I'm also very sensitive to weather, and for sure, when it snows, I ALWAYS prefer the calm after it snows. I go out and do a snow dance to beg for it to dump every year cause it seems to calm the masses for a few days. I also noticed that they stay calmer till it all melts, then they get all worked up again. Odd...

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I am trying to learn, it is not easy because I have always been a talker etc...but I am now realizing what damage that is doing to me.

I always attract friends who want something....the users....so it's easier to just say "no". I socialize (rarely) with my husband's friends and their wives and I don't get close. I try not to let them draw me in to the problems and drama. If they want advice, I give it sparingly anymore. I even discussed with my husband why I don't get involved anymore...even though he doesn't know all this empath stuff, he is getting better at understanding my anxiety etc and working with me instead of forcing me to go out and socialize more. That took 15 years to get across....whew!!

I actually ran away from a grad party this summer, that didn't go over well.

We drove up to the house, I saw all these cars I didn't know and started thinking about all the people there, a bunch of them divorcing and having problems.
My husband got out of the car, I got in the driver's seat in hysterical tears and said "I can't do it". Just drove away.

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To elaborate further on that, my wife is an unmedicated, diagnosed bipolar and my schizo friend wasn't diagnosed with any mental disorder except ADHD until a few years after I knew him. Today, I'm one of the few friends my schizo friend has outside of the internet.

Originally posted by timetothink
Does anyone else get "butterflies" in their stomach before something bad or uncomfortable happens?

Not when you know it's coming like going to a party and meeting people or going to the docter etc.

I mean out of the blue, everything is normal then bad nervous feeling and BAM....phone rings with bad news, car accident etc?

Yes, I always attributed this to instinct or something but that feeling has saved my ass from getting in trouble a couple times. I trust it a lot.

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Thank you, it's nice to know you're not alone! It also helped me win $800 in the casino once too....how bad is that??

Originally posted by GrimReaper86

I have to turn off electronics sometimes too.

I find this interesting, I have had odd experiences with electronics from time to time but I hadn't realized that the two things could be related. I especially find that fans or things with electric motors seem to be influenced by my "energy" if I am feeling particularly energetic. On one occasion I even found that I had to leave a room to stop a television from blinking and making odd noises, after leaving, it stopped, if I came back into the immediate vicinity it did it again. This particular type event isn't a constant for me however, and has only happened on occasion.

Okay, this is very odd...as i too have had various problems such as...

Headaches from sleeping with my head near my xbox which was connected to the wireless internet at the time. And ive had problems with feeling a vibration from my cellphone after it being silenced or before receiving a text, only to look at it and then have it receive a text.

This is odd,
Mike

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Wow. sounds very creepily like my mother. She just cant deal with crowds and always complains about the way people are nowadays and she has had quite a few incidents that ended up in her looking crazy or just (beeping) away from the problem. Feel quite sorry for her too because it's really caused her to become quite isolated

Originally posted by PurpleVortex

The sucky thing is that, sometimes I can't tell the difference between my emotions and the emotions I'm picking up. It can be tough, but I learned to work with it.

EXACTLY!

Yeah - - born this way - - weird childhood - - like "can I go home now" - - I don't belong here.

I thought I had learned to work with it too. I didn't realize how bad it was - - until I relocated.

Originally posted by justgeneric
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Like I said everyone has a story to tell...crazy people too. It's my own fault though as I firmly believe everyone is worth at least an acknowledgement. Most crazy people though can't read body language and have to be verbally told to leave off. Heck some sane people do too!

The trick is not resenting people...that I grapple with daily. Not their fault most times that I pick up their issues or see their baggage...

As for friends well I am emotionally agoraphobic...my body left the house and took my mind with it begrudgingly.

You hit the nail on the head with that post! I rarely leave my house if I don't have to, and I certainly don't make new friends anymore. I'm not young enough to enjoy being the star of the show anymore and "showing" my abilities off to others. Now when someone learns I'm gifted, it just becomes a domino effect - especially when people learn I don't believe in charging money for a gift meant to be shared with all.

So isolation is the way to go. Or else it is a NEVER ending, do this for me, talk to this person, what feeling do you get off that object, do you think he is cheating on me? Should I take that new job? Talk to my mom for me, she doesn't "believe". It doesn't end. Domino's.

People don't know, you don't want to know, how ugly inside we can be. How ugly we think - even of our loved ones, and we are entirely clueless of our negativity. I guess I'm suppose to be one of the lucky ones, and not consider myself cursed, cause I get to see that negative energy project outward and affect everything it is around.

Phew. I feel better. I guess I needed a little rant.

I actually ran away from a grad party this summer, that didn't go over well. We drove up to the house, I saw all these cars I didn't know and started thinking about all the people there, a bunch of them divorcing and having problems. My husband got out of the car, I got in the driver's seat in hysterical tears and said "I can't do it". Just drove away.

Pretty intense. I once was chattin with a friend in her car, she ended up talking about her problems and her family problems, the problems of her friends and in very detail. The type that doesn't stop talking, and usually about negative stuff. It was boiling up for me pretty bad, told her to pause while i stepped out to throw up. She thought it was weird, i thought it was too much. We don't talk anymore, you can understand why.

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Hi just saw your post here and would like to give my side. I'm very introverted and also labeled as an empath.
My experiences from this is that I do definitely pick up on others feelings and emotional energies, and it is very uncomfortable in crowds of people, especially if there is a lot of negative feelings or emotions going on or judgmental attitudes. I can walk in a room, and instantly feel the energies/ emotional states of the other people.

As far as the emotional manipulation, I think its a possibility to some extent with practice of body language, Neuro Linguistic Programming, and matching mirroring.. but even in that it is very limited, and you can't really completely manipulate anyone in my experience, only influence to some extent. I think that anyone can do this though if they are intuitive and can change their emotional state. If you think about it being around someone positive and encouraging kinda changes your mood and allows you to feel more comfortable with that person, so im guessing this is more likely what is being experienced in that aspect.

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My daughter is bi polar and unmedicated, husband is anxiety ridden and my younger brother is schizo affective....maybe dealing with mental illnesses (and having one myself with PAD and Agoraphobia) make us more sensitive to the plights or we're recognized as being aware...we recognize it therefor it recognizes us?

I do root for the underdogs in life I just wish they didn't always seek me out...I don't always have the energy to deal with them...

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I get visuals to the ugliness...an aura usually is infinitely beautiful even if slightly damaged...some baggage however is quite nasty and gives a "creeping" or "oozing" visual and sensation. I cross the street and have been known to get off the bus if it's too close to me.

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You know what I mean then....wow, tough to deal with.....inside I am screaming "shut up" sometimes.
At least with my family I can stop them and say enough I need a break.
I know you said you meditate, I usually go to a quiet room, have a good cry then a nap. That usually cleanses me for a while.