How Do You Stop a Bully?

reply to post by survivaloftheslickest


When I was in high school you stopped a bully by breaking his nose. I don't feel the least bit sorry for all these kids getting bullied and all of a sudden its a big deal. Its Darwinism at work. Basic human behavior should be telling these kids to fight back yet they just off themselves because its the easy way out. If they can't handle the bullying in school what are they gonna do when they get into the workforce and realize that bullying will continue for the rest of their lives. Better to just get it over with now than to disrupt productivity of the rest of us who deal with it.

How to stop bullying?


How about better parenting? If parents were to properly teach their children respect, discipline and to treat people the way you want them to treat you then I truly believe we would have many less cases of bullying.

The problem is that way too many parents are still VERY immature and there are those parents that even encourage their kids to be bullies and fight.

Anyone remember the child fight club a few years back from the Tampa Bay area where parents were making their kids fight other children and were egging them on? It's ridiculousness like this why bullying will never stop.


I guess maybe it falls under peer pressure when trying to figure out why some 30 year old moms and dads can't properly raise their 15 year old children.

Originally posted by Domo1
reply to post by adnachiel21

 

Do you have a problem?I didn't specify when the bullying happened,only that is was in kindergarten

Can't tell if trolling. Apparently 'in kindergarten' which you apparently attended for a number of years isn't specific enough.

On a thread about bullying you act like one.

I take offense that you would call me a thread.


Is there some sort of real estate exam you should be studying for? Ugh, pre reqs. Kindergarten.

ETA: Look at me, all off topic. OP you can't stop bullying. It will always happens, always will. Yeah sure you can beat up a bully, but then what are you?

edit on 27-5-2012 by Domo1 because: (no reason given)

I cant remember last nights dinner
let alone all the big bad mean things
kid's said to me in kindegarten
I think I remember some kid taking
my milk and i kicked him in the cojones

You stop bullying by having self esteem so insults don't affect you and if you need to defend yourself learn karate.

Originally posted by Imightknow

I guess maybe it falls under peer pressure when trying to figure out why some 30 year old moms and dads can't properly raise their 15 year old children.

Don't think it has all to do with the parents,
sometimes you can be the best parent in the world
you can't make decisions for your kid's..
I think personal responsibility, a 15 year old
really is not a kid anymore.. Hell 100 years ago
and beyond you had to have kid's at 14 and 15
this is nothing new teen parenting.
If you were not married and started having kids
at 15 you were behind you didn't live to be but 35-40
Remember the oregon trail, people falling over dead left
and right from bad water a gimp leg or even a mosquito bite
to a bad tooth.

reply to post by popsmayhem

let alone all the big bad mean things kid's said to me in kindegarten

You have to start kindergarten when you're 9 months old to remember anything. I remember it, but I started kindergarten in utero.

Also, bullies. I always laugh when people say bullies are weak/dumb or fraught with emotional issues. That's all well and good, but it's not solving any problems now is it? Hey the guy that tried to rape and murder me probably wasn't held as a child... So what? This isn't about the bully, it's about you (or your child... does ATS breed?).

Originally posted by Domo1
reply to post by popsmayhem

 

let alone all the big bad mean things kid's said to me in kindegarten

You have to start kindergarten when you're 9 months old to remember anything. I remember it, but I started kindergarten in utero.

Also, bullies. I always laugh when people say bullies are weak/dumb or fraught with emotional issues. That's all well and good, but it's not solving any problems now is it? Hey the guy that tried to rape and murder me probably wasn't held as a child... So what? This isn't about the bully, it's about you (or your child... does ATS breed?).

Oh ya!!
Well, then you have an excuse to be a bully,
if your parents bullied you in the womb
i guess that could really affect you
years later.. Why did she not sing to you
in their domo OH WHY

As a forty year old woman of 100 lbs and 5'2 youwould expect someone as little as me to have been bullied...but I havent... Or so I like to think.

Quick tempered as a child/ teen I didnt handle being picked on nor did I handle others being picked on in my company. I was picked on enough at home by my two year older cousin. We were like siblings as we were raised together...

Anyway... I got in fights in school because I did not handle bullying/ picked on well. I learned early on in life to defend myself.

My kids are another story. Twice I have confronted their bully. My son in the fifth grade and my daughter this year from a girl three times her size and two grades up where she encountered a bully on the bus.

I say the only way to stop them is not to enable them to do it. Its wrong... Period. If kids are not taught at home its wrong or have consequences then it continues. If the school does nothing.... It continues. If the parents of children being bullied do not stand up....it continues.

Whether you are a fighter or not....someone should be willing to fight the fight. In my case....i am more than willing.

With my son....when he was in the fifth grade I walked into the lunch room, noticed he was about to cry when he saw me, his friends told me what was going on. This big fat bully was continuously calling him a faggot. The school had mot done a damn thing. So..... I whispered in the bullies ear that my son had been working out on a punching bag( which he had) and he would kick his ass after school with my blessing if this is what he wants, otherwise keep ya trap shut about my kid. Never had another problem!!!

My daughter was being bullied by this girl on the bus. Big girl who just came back from suspension due to fighting on the bus. I met the bus driver at the stop, told her I wasnt having it, told the bully my daughter was not scared, neither was I.... We are fighters til the end and go for the neck...lol so.... She ended up getting suspended and my daughter has not had an issue with her since. The girl wont even make eye contact with my daughter.

Kids need to know the boundaries. If they are not being taught...eventually they will be taught. Either by force.....or by showing them there is another way to direct their anger.

Overwhelming and unequal force. If a bully pushes you, punch them. If they punch you, break something. That's the only thing they understand. But it stops them cold.

/TOA

Originally posted by MamaJ
As a forty year old woman of 100 lbs and 5'2 youwould expect someone as little as me to have been bullied...but I havent... Or so I like to think.

This big fat bully was continuously calling him a faggot. The school

Big girl who just came back from suspension due to fighting on the bus.

Sounds like someones got a problem with fat
people, and that only big kid's bully little kid's.
Weight issues a struggle?
Kid was probably calling the big kid fat,
bad mistake. Seeing how much implied
hate against fat people, I could see the son
picking on this fat kid.

My son is in grade 3 and gets bullied somewhat at school, Im teaching him how to stick up for himself. As far as his bully's go, the teacher's are so buddy buddy with the bully's parents through sports outside of school. The school ran this fancy anti bully campaign, nothing became of it, the bullying continues. My son defends himself, he gets in trouble for defending himself and the bully goes free most of the time when the teacher only catches the tail end of thing's...its crazy.
The teacher says, walk away from him. Ya right! walk away as the kid jumps on my sons back and sucker punches him in the head. I told my son, you dont walk away and turn your back on them, just to get sucker punched again. I don't want my son getting a concussion.
I was bullied in high school by this one guy who was big, a champion boxer in his division,and a black belt.
I was not his only victim though. I would be in the locker room changing, and as I would start to pull my shirt over my head he would run at me and drop kick me in the chest, Or if I was leaning against the wall he would swipe my feet out from under me, so on, and so on. He was nuts, out of the blue one day he sat next to me in the lunch room and wanted to have lunch with me and act like we where buddy's. Freaky. The bullying still continued. Our gym teacher was a big guy who let the bully decide what activities we where going to do in gym(most of the time), quite often catering to the bully, so there was always a lot of murder ball (dodge the ball). The bullying wouldnt stop, I was being pushed to the edge, I told the gym teacher that if he doesnt do anything about this I am going to stab the bully...lol. Of course there where no answers to my desperate call for help. As the bullying continued and I did not want to go to school anymore, I started to think of doing the wrong thing. I started to fantasize about taking this bully out permanently. Maybe I could possibly get in trouble for telling this story with big brother probably reading all of our threads...lol, but anyway, Luckily my Dad happened to get a transfer with his work and we moved to a different area. Everything was suddenly awesome. I used to have trouble in school, but after the move and being able to focus more on my everyday school work I ended up graduating on the honour roll, (I know who cares,bla bla bla..lol,) My point is, instead of possibly ending up getting in big trouble, things went the other direction after getting away from the bully. My friends back in that town tell me that today that guy (my old bully) is one of the key coke dealers for some bike gang. Maybe he will get whats coming to him yet by someone who is crazier than him. Things on my end became pretty good, had a great time playing in a band in LA for years, moved back home, now married with a couple of kids, things are good...lol.

I see a lot of comments advocating physical violence against bullies to stop the bullying.

Well...some kid I knew in school hit a bully back once. All it did was slow the bully down and bruise his ego.
5 seconds later the kid received a severe beating.

End result: The bullying became even worse as the bully started going out of his way to pick on him...and the poor kid had things go from bad to worse.

So, what works on a TV / Movie script may not always work in real life.

reply to post by mobiusmale


I take issue with your assertion that High School is not real life. The psychological pressures of adolescence combine with the structured environment to create a "quick setting" effect on the consciousness of everyone that goes through it, which is why life always seems to resemble high school afterwards. If you doubt my claim, either go look up some of your classmates on Facebook and see how well they have re-assembled the same cliques that existed in high school, or go to your next class reunion and see how quickly they devolve into essentially the same people that they were. I would say that High School *creates* real life, by creating the people who go out into the world afterward. Going to college may or may not affect this process.

I was bullied from time to time as a child, especially when your the "new kid" in school. All you have to do is confront them, you might get a bruise and bloody lip as well, but from that point on the "bully" realizes that every time they are going to engage you, they risk a confrontation. You've taken the "fun" out of it for them.

Originally posted by CodyOutlaw

These kid's weren't bullied. Both had parents that worked within the military industrial complex, they were forced in and out of government run medical institutions their whole life and both were on Zoloft. But that has nothing to do with it, it was the bullies right?

Watch the movie "Zero Day" that shows the home videos the Colombine kids made, they don't single out anybody, they hated everyone. Not to mention bullets were found in some of the bodies that didn't match any weapons they had, but did match the weapons the swat teams were using. 100% psyop.

reply to post by Konduit


Neither of them were on Zoloft.
Harris was on Luvox.
Klebold was not on any psychiatric medication.
It is undeniable from student statements that these boys and their friends were bullied by the meathead jock white hate brigade.
The sad thing to me is that douchebag Hoffschneider is still breathing.

Zero Day does not show the home videos.
The home videos, "The Basement Tapes" have never been released.
Jeffco has refused to release them, and has tried to put in court orders to destroy them completely.
They singled out plenty of people on their hit lists. Unfortunately, the public are only able to read "redacted."
Although, out there in the Wild World Web, there is the unredacted 11K floating around.

I stand by my posts.

In the USA, lawyers and the legal system have made it that, if anyone commits an act like this you'll go to jail, get sued, lose your right to buy firearms, and need years of court ordered psych treatments and medications.

Well unless you live in the ghetto's, then no one gives a crap either way.

Originally posted by Xcellante
My son was being bullied for a few weeks. Whenever he came home with a bruise I asked where he got it from and he went very quiet.

So the next day, I took the day off work and went to collect him from school. No sooner had I pulled up when I saw my son surrounded by these little *INSERT SWEAR WORD HERE* pinned against a wall. I went up and pulled him away and asked my son who was giving him the bruises. He pointed to this one kid and I told him... Go back and smack that egotistical moron.

Problem was this kids dad saw what happened and marched up to me screaming like a madman. So I laid him out. When he was on the ground I told him straight "Everytime my son comes back home with a bruise in the future... You will have three to take home." Needless to say that ended the bullying and also taught my son to stand on his own two feet.

So take out the parents. Take out bullying. Thats how we do things in Ireland.

How do you stop bullying? Brute force and make sure they get it through their heads you aren't an easy mark.

Some people would say it is parenting, but those people fail to recognize that there are a lot of # parents out in the world.

Originally posted by Sinny
Depends if you've got brains or brawn....

I have both

...

I was always taught a good punch soon shuts em up, but if that's not your style, use your brains, pick up on their insecurities, and a quick silver tounge to hurt them deep inside.

But if your a big believer In being all sentimental and emotional... You Could try talking about feelings lol

edit on 26-5-2012 by Sinny because: (no reason given)

If you're hitting people to "shut them up", you are a bully.

If you are hitting people that are physically attacking you, you are defending yourself.

You are right, talking to bullies doesn't usually work, but I usually give it a try anyway. It's the principle of the thing.

I was taught how to fight. I never start a physical conflict, but I will do my best to finish it.

Originally posted by kimish

Originally posted by sith9157
Look, bullying has to be reported in order to be stopped. A lot of children that are bullied are afraid of tattling, fearing that the retaliation would be much greater than if they just stayed mute about it. To stop the bullying parents and educators must act, and punish the bullies severely. It has to begin with the parents

More often than not the tattling makes things worse. Like the bully getting his/her friends and finding you after school hours.

I hate to say it but violence or physical self defense is the single best way to handle a bully.
Been there, done that.
Now my kids are experiencing the same. You'd better believe I've taught them my signature left hook.

Kimish, sometimes you just have to fight fire with fire...I applaud you for teacing your children to defend themselves. I am also teaching my eight year-old boy to take care of himself...he is small for his age, so he will be a target as he advances in grade levels.

reply to post by survivaloftheslickest


You break their legs. Kinda hard to be a bully when you can't even stand up. Seriously though beat them down.