I'm the complete opposite of a ladies man, need some tips

reply to post by Glass


According to my math, which is based in the Western Coastal areas of the United States, included but not limited to; California, Oregon, Washington, Idaho, Nevada and Arizona - 95% of women in the age range of 18-23 want nothing but alcohol and promiscuity.

This is not just my own personal opinion, either. This is the opinion of many. Even the cute nerdy girls at college can't commit to a relationship, they're cheaters.

Given said that, at the age bracket of 18-23 OP will have a 5% chance of finding someone worth being with, in my honest opinion, so he has a 95% better chance of being a "ladies man"(cough plural) by getting drunk with hot women.

Science Of Attraction with Derren Brown.

I've posted 2 of the videos below. The first shows how 2 different dating website profile videos, both done by the same guy using exactly the same words but said with different tones of voice, can have a pretty significant impact on how members of the opposite sex will view you as a person! The second could help you with dating techniques

Here's what you do:

Find a way to make them so frustrated with you they start crying.

Then say "Quit your blubbering"

Oh Wait! That's AFTER your married.

Never Mind. Your on your own kid.

reply to post by 0thetrooth0


Women SAY they want all sorts of things.

In my observation, they want a guy to love them, be wealthy, intelligent and chivalrous, in that order.

Looks are an initial attractant but actually rate low on the scale.

Guys look for different attributes in women.

My advice is don't follow any advice you hear on dating. Everyone has their own opinion and method. What I've learned from experience is that the right one will eventually find you. If they don't like you for who you are now, they won't later on when they find out your true nature which will never change no matter what you do.

There were alot of girls I used to like when I was young I never had a shot with too. Looking back I'm glad I'm not involved with them today. I found my perfect match almost by accident. Someone who I never thought existed. Someone who likes the person I always was. Its ten years for us in another month, we are still the best of frnds to this day. Something I wouldn't trade for anything.

Also, from what I've learned, there are probably people in your life right now that you are ignoring or who aren't on your radar. Pay attention, you will run into these people later in life and realize you have more in common with them than you think. Believe me you will kick yourself later when you find this out.

Don't rush either. You have plenty of time. You don't want to get into something that you will realize down the road that you regret.

If you want to make minor changes like get in shapewell that's fine but as long its a personal goal and not under the pretense of finding a lady friend.

Anyways good luck

Does that make you a man`s lady?

Be yourself, smile, be fun, look for someone you get on with at an intellectual level and can have a half decent conversation with, making a woman laugh has always worked for me, be honest, don't cheat and if things go wrong and you get hurt - DON'T GIVE UP! .

Love is a complicated thing... Women are more complicated than that.

Some advice from an old man.

Be yourself.

Yes, it's that simple.

Be Yourself.

Take it from someone who has been there, if she isn't liking you for you, then she 'aint worth it in the long run.

Looks are great, for about an hour, then you actually have to talk. Being cute, acting dumb, all the same, if you aren't yourself from the get go, you are just digging yourself a hole that one day will be too deep for you to get out of.

Lastly, enjoy being young. Get out. Do stuff. Drink with reckless abandon, try new things. LIVE!

There's plenty of time to go looking for Ms. Right in a few years, when you figure out where and who you are.

Good Luck

reply to post by 0thetrooth0


That is a step in the right direction,dating christian girls!

reply to post by 0thetrooth0

So what are girls of the ages of 18-23 ish looking for, should i just give up since every girl wants a bad boy or a guy with a nice card or muscles and whatnot..

That's just what they are..."girls". At that age, they don't know what they really want in a man yet, so they just want the pure physical ideal for the most part. They want the kind of guy who turns them on, and makes their girlfriends jealous, no matter if he's a nice guy, bad boy, or total butthead.

Please don't fall into the trap of thinking you're going to meet Mrs.Right in your 20's. That's why divorce rates are so high. NEITHER of you know what you really want in your 20's. Save THAT kind of thinking for your 30's and you'll be better off.

But, until then, nothing wrong with having fun, and LEARNING what you may want in a gal. Just be safe, don't be stupid and end up a daddy without planning, or get something you can't get rid of.

As a "nice" guy, you may find you'll have a dating lull in your 20's...but I'm sure you'll still do alright. Stay optimistic though, and work on building your life, and in your 30's, you'll likely find you're quite the catch.

Just be yourself son. If its meant to be, it will happen if not keep moving forward. One cannot live or experience life through the words and sentences of others. It has to be experienced (Good or Bad) which is more fun when you'll get older and look back upon yourself. Only thing is be careful and cautious with respect to casual sex and money. Both can produce negative results if not kept in check (too much or too little)

Originally posted by Sinny

Women want a dominant man, some one to challenge them, and yet someone who knows how to take their orders too lol.

Now THAT'S honesty for ya.

To the OP.... you sound like the kind of guy who isn't very good at the "game". I'm the same way.

My advice, just be yourself. That will attract someone like you, you can start off as friends, just be natural around each other, and see what happens from there. It might be a little awkward at first, but that only means that you're doing it right. It means that you're being youself and keeping your emotions vulnerable. If that makes any sense. You sound like a good guy and if there's any one thing that good girls want from a man it's honesty and sincerity.

Remember too that you don't always have to be on the lookout for a relationship to start. Sometimes things like this just happen. Without any warning. If it does......see above. It still applies. Hopefully it will work out for you both to where THIS applies:

Develop a penis that shoots money and tastes of chocolate...

That is all..

You should be yourself to a certain extent - but if you're naturally insecure or have issues with yourself you need to work on yourself first.

Also,

1) Don't be needy, ever. These girls are lucky to be in your company, not the other way around.
2) Don't get drunk around females you like, at least at first. If you booze, you lose.
3) Try not to speak about conspiracies or anything 'outlandish' until they know you MUCH better
3) Never, EVER, stick your d**k in crazy.

reply to post by Internet Explorer


You may not like the sound of this, but I have been studying seduction for a while now, and you don't have to use it to "bang chicks" nessecarily, but its a good way of learning how women work in general

I would suggest at least having a glance at something like
reddit.com/r/seduction
or seductionreviews.blog.com

And having sex with women a lot isn't bad either haha

reply to post by Agent56

And having sex with women a lot isn't bad either haha

I'm thinking that's his goal rather than the method, hehe...

Confidence is the key, if you're a virgin (and you don't have to answer here)...once you get that out of the way, you'll likely find the confidence you need (so don't get all caught up thinking your first has to be THE ONE).... Get that under your belt, and get some swagger in your step. Plus, I think women can sniff out virgins (subconsciously), and it's like a natural female repellent.

(and if any of them say otherwise, they are full of it)

reply to post by 0thetrooth0


Just be a cool guy ya know? I mean when i look for a guy i really look for one that isnt afraid to really talk to me and treat me like his best friend. Of course before you are dating the girl you are pursuing its not really good to act too much like you are looking for a friend. When you are reeling a girl in, just try to be cool and romantic. And just make it clear what your intentions are or you will forever be in the friend zone. Also I have learned that it really doesnt matter how beefy or handsome a guy is as long as he just acts like a man and knows how to treat a woman. But it definitely is a good sign that you have been called handsome cuz girls dont usually tell ugly guys that they are handsome or even cute lol.

reply to post by 0thetrooth0


Get some muscle tone! I want to feel a man and not a woman when I am getting frisky. Going to the gym is also a good way to release tension and meet other people (not just girls but maybe also male friends). You don't need to become an Arnold Z. but get a bit of biceps, a bit of toned stomach (this drives me absolutely crazy).

Be confident re who you are right now, including the things you're sure about and the things you are still exploring. Don't reveal too much (hell, that's my problem and guys later on resend me for it).

And then: go with that proverbial flow!

reply to post by EvanB


Can I market that?

I find it interesting that you mentioned you were looking for a Christian woman.... my first and foremost advice is to seek Christ God bless! Personally, I am not interested in romantic/carnal relationships, and I am 19. ( been there, done that, moving on :lol

2nd advice: Nice guys get trampled on. It's really inevitable, especially in the westernized world we live in; even the Christian women may not be the type of women you think they are, but this is just from my experience.

3rd advice: From a description of yourself, you seem like a well mannered, respectful gentleman, a rare occurrence nowadays. Don't let bad experiences taint you, but what is on your path, i don't know.

4th advice: There is a role being played between a relationship: The Trophy and the Pedestal for the trophy to sit on top of. Usually, "nice guys" are the Pedestals and the Trophies are generally the good looking females, which the nice guy would bend over backwards for. You must reverse that role, as a man. There is a difference between being a supporter, and a pedestal.

5th advice: You are going to learn from personal experiences. I think that the age group you are looking at are interested in one thing: sex. What are YOU really looking for? Got to be honest with yourself...