What would you do if you catch her(him) in bed with another?

Originally posted by diamondsmith
Yes,you come home unexpectedly from your delegation,(you forget to call before),in the middle of the night,and in the bedroom there she(he)is,in bed with another person!

Your first reaction will be to:

I would probably feel like I have to throw up(or may actually throw up). But, depending on the situation would determine my actions. If it was 'my place"(just a gf).. I would grab both of them by the neck and throw them onto the side walk. And then proceed to dump all her stuff outside/change the locks.

If it was a joint apartment(joint lease), I would pack up my stuff and walk away. Then I would sue them both for forcing me to break my end of the lease.

If I was married(doubtful, but stranger things have happened), I would probably walk away as well. But, if either of them became argumentative. And especially if the person she cheated on with(dude or chick, doesn't matter. I don't view homosexuals as inferior so I can't play the whole bi= fine attitude) tried to either mouth off in my face or become violent..

I would probably go feral. I am not that strong of a person.

reply to post by Adyta


Cheating is awful, but relationships are not so cut and dry.

Been there. All I will say is that the police were called.
OH and I terrorized people for a few months.

reply to post by korathin

I would probably go feral

The important thing is to think such a hypothetical situation,that will make us control if an event like this will occur.

reply to post by nixie_nox

Been there

I am sad to hear that people have experiences like this,but at least we heal our souls in time,they are also part of our life, if we like it or not.

I don't view homosexuals as inferior so I can't play the whole bi= fine attitude) tried to either mouth off in my face or become violent..

In no way do I think that it is "inferior". The reason I'd be more accepting of it is that a) my wife may on occasion enjoy being with a woman also, but when it comes to relationships, she's all about being with a guy (so it wouldn't be emotional cheating)...and b) having another gal involved wouldn't be exactly a new idea with us, so there's that...

If it turned out that the girl-girl thing was more of an actual relationship, yeah, I'd be just about as upset as I would if she was seeing another guy.

caught ex-wife in bed with another man years ago.. turned around walked out volunteered for 2nd of four tours in vietnem with s.o.g . had lawyer serve her the divorce papers.. never looked back.

reply to post by Expat888

never looked back

I thank you for that answer,worth millions.

Happy New Year to you.

Well, from an ex army, ex-fighters view, the guys gotta go down. Every ratbastard who does this knows that we are hard wired to protect our immortality via breeding. A bit coarse perhaps, and some say well what about the woman, it takes two, etc. I cannot imagine her being happy, with a sneak, who will likely do same to her.

Trust lost can be debilitating, and follows you forever. So I say...Adios to her, and I hope he has good dental coverage.

reply to post by diamondsmith


Thanks Brother ExPat. I was taught many things, retreat was not one of em. Happy new year, and to give my long gone but not forgotten Grandad his due....the sun dont shine on the same dogs ass everyday, shake er off.

reply to post by randysanchez

good dental coverage

I don't understand this thing with dental coverage,a kiss goodbye?

reply to post by diamondsmith


That the other guy has good dental...for all the teeth that will be knocked out of his head...is where I'm assuming the poster was going...

reply to post by Gazrok
Aha,now I understand,he needs the dental coverage of the guy to pay the dental damage of the girl!Thanks.

Originally posted by diamondsmith
reply to post by korathin

 

I would probably go feral

The important thing is to think such a hypothetical situation,that will make us control if an event like this will occur.

Hey, that feels like that was taken out of context. I said I would probably go feral if I was attacked or if the the stranger got in my face or something. Not like I would walk in and go into a rage or try to start something.

One of my greatest fears period, is going feral. I don't like hurting others as it causes me a great deal of pain(and I also just don't like hurting others), but yet I have always had a great amount of strength compared to many of my peers.

In order for me to become violent, the very composition of my being/soul has to change. And such a process feels like I am being spiritually raped so I seek to avoid it at all costs. I am proud of that fact that I have been able to use limited force to avoid full blown violent confrontation's my entire life.

Originally posted by Gazrok

I don't view homosexuals as inferior so I can't play the whole bi= fine attitude) tried to either mouth off in my face or become violent..

In no way do I think that it is "inferior". The reason I'd be more accepting of it is that a) my wife may on occasion enjoy being with a woman also, but when it comes to relationships, she's all about being with a guy (so it wouldn't be emotional cheating)...and b) having another gal involved wouldn't be exactly a new idea with us, so there's that...

If it turned out that the girl-girl thing was more of an actual relationship, yeah, I'd be just about as upset as I would if she was seeing another guy.

Gotcha, I am just a super monogamous person so that is the drop off in opinion(to each their own).

reply to post by korathin

use limited force

Use of force physical in certain situations may be necessary but not on the front, there are other ways and means of solving the problems.