Top ten myths about introverts

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That fits me to a tee. I guess I'm an " Introvert " I have no problem with it. The way I see it is that I just don't need a group of people to validate who I am as a person. Others do. I don't.

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Wow! That is soo me.

Except for the second last part:

Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.

I love adrenaline. Hell I've even jumped out of a plane before. And I don't really mind a lot of noise or talking going on.

I would also disagree with this part:

Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.

I believe anyone can "fix themselves". It just takes a different mindset and discipline.

Thanks for post all this stuff. Now I know a lot more things about me and others.

I can almost guarantee you that most if not all CEO's of companies are introverts.

Could the OP please post the direct link, I cannot find the actual source on the listed blog. Thanks.

Ok, I found it doing a Google search:
10 Myths about Introverts

Describes me to a 't' although I have probably known this for at least the last 5 years. Echoing everyone else's posts - I was labeled shy by others as early back as kindergarten. As a female, it was especially rough because girl's can be so brutal about something that is supposed to come so natural to us. I eventually learned to fake it just to get people off my back, but of course doing so never felt natural. I was always labeled being 'extremely intelligent' by teachers, but not having the 'motivation' to complete tasks. I often wonder if ADD was/is truly my problem (of course, they slapped me with that label), or if I just found certain assignments to be incredibly redundant and not worth my time or energy. Much like the distaste for engaging in mindless chatter as so many have mentioned above.

Flash forward to my late teens/early twenties, and I somehow managed to get into a somewhat successful career with peers who were 20+ years my senior. It was then that I REALLY picked up on how much I despise being around the majority of people. Women especially seem to trigger me, so I still tend to gravitate towards friendships with men. I am incredibly blunt, which isn't something many women are fond of. I am now 25, and married to a professional geek who happens to enjoy socializing. It surprisingly works well for us, and he is respectful of who I am. We have a young son (and a girl on the way -scares me already! ) so I have forced myself to once again 'fake it' for his sake. We just bought a house smack dab in the middle of suburbia, and there are lots of young children and moms around, so it can be exhausting. Anyone who is an introvert, knows exactly what I mean. You'll literally do anything for your children, although I have to admit that I long for a day when I can live in the middle of nowhere surrounded by nature. It's the only place I don't see ego everywhere I look, which seems to be a major factor in my dislike for surrounding myself with people. It is incredibly comforting to see there are so many of us out there, because it's pretty easy to feel like you are sometimes literally the only one who feels this way.

Wow haha! Every single myth and truth on the list applied to me. My family and close friends understand these qualities, but most people don't and assume I'm some kind of werido for not blabbing my mouth and being sometimes hurtfully honest. If only everyone understood those things..

This was very interesting to come home to and read. Actually, it made me feel good that there are so many others out there similar to myself

I've found that many are 'fake' and say a lot of empty words.(just my experience)
Keeping a bit of a distance from the social butterflies has helped spare me some drama and helped me to enjoy the authentic people in my life more.
I don't like having to 'play the part', don't see the point. If you can't be honest and real with someone, why bother? Sometimes when your busy trying to please people their just busy trying to please themselves.
I do however agree with that comment about stereotyping a stereotype.
When situations allow, I can become 'extroverted'. If a conversation with several people is blah, I'll start on a deeper subject to get their minds rolling and it always gets them talking.
But I would much rather be with my family or close friends at home talking politics or science or just reading,watching a doc, evening gaming then out getting plastered.

*Sniff* *Sniff*, finally someone understands me.
In all seriousness, you just described me to a tee. Couldn't have done better unless you had read my future. A voice for the voiceless, good job I am thinking about adding everyone on here who is just like me to my "friends" list so that we can all just be anti-social with each other.

I always had a group of friends as a child and in high school, but I was always on the introverted side. I too enjoy social activities, but have always had difficulty with making small talk. Yah, I will talk a lot if it's something that interests me. Posting on the Internet has given me an outlet to express my ideas and thoughts. It is easier to write than to talk.
I also have a deep meditative side of my character. Started meditation in high school. Perhaps introverts often tend to be intuitive as well.

I think introverts make better lovers too. We focus on fewer and more meaningful relationships.

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I would agree with all of that list apart from point 9.

I'd say i was an introvert, and relate to all those points, but, I LOVE my motorbikes, have been skydiving and bungee jumping, done track days, raced karts etc.

i think I love adrenaline rushes, they are just not people based though, they come from me pushing myself and equipment as hard as i can, in a way, enhancing myself, improving myself, getting better at doing certain things.

but yeah, not a fan of busy clubs, bars, bowling alleys etc, melts my brain

Reading other posts has raised something I have always been curious about - children.

I'm still young yet [23] but a lot of people my age and younger seem to be having kids, and always asking me when I'm going to have some. My ex raised the issue with me in the past, and found my answer a little upsetting - I don't see myself having them. My space is so important to me, and not being able to have that because I would have to be there on call for someone 24/7 I'm afraid it would drive me back into a depression. I can't see myself being any kind of parent with that outlook - I can't fathom giving up my peace and quiet, particularly my late nights, because it's something that means so much to me.

So how do you cope with that? I don't mean to make children out to sound like some kind of plague here I'm just honestly curious. I know it's a decision I will have to make one day and if for whatever reason I decided to have kids, I would hate to think I could ruin them with my introversion.

Im absolutely an introvert, but I am absolutely an adrenaline junkie as well.. blasting down a road at 180mph on a motorcycle is BLISS to me. but I also find bliss in meditation or developing ideas.

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co-signed

im an introvert.

That ticks all the boxes for me aswell, allthough one strange thing in my case is that ive only ever met one other introvert in my life, which i now cannot understand because of the amount us that have replied to this thread.
Maybe its just where i live but near all my friends i would class as extrovert, which really feckin annoys me, but there still friends.

Wish i could meet some nice introverts such as myself

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Good post SavedOne.

People on here seem to want to automatically label introverts as good and extroverts as bad. It isn't a matter of right and wrong. And being an extrovert doesn't mean you are any more dumb or smart than an introvert. It's just another myth like the ones posted. Being socially aware and savvy is as much of a skillset as being quiet and contemplative. Ideally, you should be able to recognize both the introvert and extrovert within yourself and apply each to the proper setting. Anyone who is too extreme in either direction could probably use a little balance.

Originally posted by Death_Kron

Originally posted by scobro
Just to add to my previous post,i have recently been getting stick for failing to have a Facebook page!

More irrelevant small talk!

Your my new best friend, I hate Facebook with a vengeance!

No problem pal!
But seriously,i cant believe how many people i know that have been sucked in by that tripe!
And i am the one being called a "wierdo!"

I wouldn't say I'm an introvert, but I have become more introverted as I've gotten older, maybe I just have less tolerance for other people's BS tho

I came across this on a friend of a friend's facebook page ... I LIKE IT, this is me ..

If you think I'm a nice person, its only because I like you. If you think I'm not, you're probably on my bad side. I love people, but have little tolerance for them.