How can you being gay affect me being straight?

Originally posted by Battleline
There is no sex act that I am aware of that Homosexuals practice that is not also practiced in the Heterosexual community.

Thus the only difference is Gender match up.

I would say that is not a significant enough deviation from the "average" to warrent as abnormal, especially when you take into account bi-sexuality.

Just because some heterosexuals have anal sex means nothing as far as if it's abnormal or not. A straight couple who has anal sex often is abnormal.

Originally posted by Helmkat
See but the argument is wrong. I am Gay but I have had sex with women. I know men who are Gay but are married to women.

You want to make something that is every shade of grey into something that is black and white. Not going to happen.

So?

Most gay men reject women as potential sexual partners because they aren't attracted to them. The fact that you've had sex with a woman means nothing and my point stands. You're apparently not sexually attracted to women, only to men, which is abnormal.

Originally posted by Battleline

Originally posted by Helmkat
•In behavior, normal refers to a lack of significant deviation from the average. The phrase "not normal" is often applied in a negative sense (asserting that someone or some situation is improper, sick, etc.) Abnormality varies greatly in how pleasant or unpleasant this is for other people.reply to post by Battleline

 

There is no sex act that I am aware of that Homosexuals practice that is not also practiced in the Heterosexual community.

Thus the only difference is Gender match up.

I would say that is not a significant enough deviation from the "average" to warrent as abnormal, especially when you take into account bi-sexuality.

That's one definition I guess but it is obvious you will continue to spin away from the question with semantics and push the idea that two wrong's make it right.

Good debate but no answer..................moveing on.

Ah now I see where you stand. Its not about normal and abnormal, it is about "right and wrong". Normal=right, abnormal=wrong. I cannot correct this lapse in logic, you will have to come to that realization on your own.

Good luck.

Originally posted by SevenBeans

Originally posted by Helmkat
See but the argument is wrong. I am Gay but I have had sex with women. I know men who are Gay but are married to women.

You want to make something that is every shade of grey into something that is black and white. Not going to happen.

So?

Most gay men reject women as potential sexual partners because they aren't attracted to them. The fact that you've had sex with a woman means nothing and my point stands. You're apparently not sexually attracted to women, only to men, which is abnormal.

And to you Abnormal automatically=Wrong.

Got it. Understand where you are coming from.

I agree to disagree.

Originally posted by Helmkat
And to you Abnormal automatically=Wrong.

Not at all.

Everyone is abnormal in one way or another, not the end of the world, so I'm not sure why gay people get so up in arms when people call their sexualitly abnormal (since it very obviously is).

Originally posted by G.A.G.
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You could have said "because they love each other." Or I could have said that they are fags, but a 5yr old knows little about words "love or fags"

So... your kid was five years old and didn't understand what "love" was? I guess you are right; it would be hard to explain to a five year old why two people are holding hands if he does not understand love. I would imagine, though, that if you are skipping teaching your kid such broad concepts as "love" then seeing a couple of men in love on the street should be the least of your parental concerns.

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Wrong, most fags are that way due to childhood trauma and or a poor relationship with the parent of the opposite sex.

JAden

For you, OP, to tell your son, "I don't know", was indeed the best possible answer -- for you.

Children internalize the feelings and attitudes of their parents, and your son will be growing up on the planet earth, as far as I know. To best prepare him for the world he is entering, such explanations are best left to those who are better suited to explain them from reality, from what is true, and without prejudicial implications.

Is it not true we want our children to be better than us? Then leave this instruction to one who can provide a better explanation. Don't prepare your child to enter a world where he will be perceived as narrow minded, prejudiced, and bigoted.
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At five, a very simple response would have been appropriate. He's was not asking for, nor does he need a sex education.

"Some people like to hold hands with girls, and some people like to hold hands with boys", would have sufficed.
He would have said "oh", and that would be the end of it for a couple of more years. No harm done.

If you want to turn him into a prejudiced individual, you can do that. I hope you choose not to.

I have a 5 year old boy now, and he's very aware.

I understand your dilemma, not wanting to have to explain more than necessary, but also wanting to answer honestly.

I still hold my son's hand occasionally, like when crossing the street, or walking through a busy parking lot.

I will even hold his hand when maneuvering through busy aisles in stores, much like a busy supermarket aisle.

My father-in-law has Parkinson's disease, and doesn't move around to well.
I go down to his home about every other day when he's not doing so well.
My son will come with often enough, and he sees me holding his grampa's hand or putting my arm around him when helping him get around the house or getting in and out of cars.

In my case, if asked the same question, I think a reply like

"I don't know why they're holding hands, why do I still hold your hand?"

would have probably ended it, and been truthful.

I mean, we are all making assumptions that because they were holding hands they were gay, aren't we?

Maybe they were European.

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