Why are Some Men so....Just come in and read this :=(

reply to post by AGENT_T

Ohhhhh, but your pictures DO help You have no idea!


Semperfortis' pictures too!

I have no doubt that you'd lend a helping hand.

(I better keep it clean) Its raunchy enough as it is. *hangs head down in shame*

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Hehe.. pictures can't do my trick with the whipped cream,ice cubes and the bungee rope.



(You can replace the whipped cream with low-fat yoghurt if you're on a health drive... but the bungee rope stays. )

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You poor dear, are you married? If i werent i'd have an all-male party and invite you!

Thanks for the offer dg, but no thank-you. My guy and me are soulmates. We've been through the worst of the worst. I nearly lost him once. He shows love for me everyday. He cooks, cleans, and would take a bullet for me. And I would do the same for him. Plenty of hugs and kisses. I can live with that. Yes, we've been married since you were pooping yellow! lol I'll Alway's Love you Big Jim kiss!

DG,
I don't know what to say other than I am sorry, and my heart goes out to you.
To me it isn't about the act, but about intimacy, it is,
About sharing,
About finding peace in your home.
About resting with the person you love.
About becoming one.
Again and again.



May you find some comfort, with out compromising your self dear.

Hugs
WIS

All the men I know are running at the chance to get laid. Maybe your man is faulty. Just start ***snip*** him in the middle of the night and he will have no choice but to accept.

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reply to post by whitesatan

Lets not make this thread into another casualty, ok? Please. If you want to talk dirty, there are other websites to go to.

Thank you much.

Is he under any medication? I know from personal experience that certain kinds of medication can put a serious damper on things. It sounds to me like he's had a number of traumatic things happen. This can affect a guy for a long time. in fact if he's worried about not being able to perform that can lead to a serious cycle. Worry about lackage of performance leading to loss of performance. A self fulfilling cycle. I know this from experience.

Originally posted by whatukno
After a while sex gets boring. It really does. It becomes more of an obligation than an act of love.

I went through this exact same thing with my now ex wife. It wasnt romantinc or exciting anymore, and to be honest I felt no desire for her anymore. I didnt cheat on her I just didn't care.

She would make no attempt NONE and so I felt that she felt the same way about it.

Along this same line of thought, sex is not the only thing men think about believe it or not. Some men I am sure do, but this is stereotyping and there are ways to get us passionate but it isn't the same as what makes a woman passionate. This is why each must give a little and learn to be 'like' a part of the other to truly care about what the other likes and then sex will start to happen again.

Foremost, sex is for procreation and this time in history is unlike any other in the sheer availability of contraceptives and sex in the media. This causes us to also believe that sex 'for fun' is natural. It is, but not as a routine like we would like it to be - like x amount of times in a week, etc.

WUK is right, anything can get old after a while, and if a woman doesn't share other interests with a man, then men will cut you off the same as women cut men off if they don't receive enough romance.

You have to understand that to men, it is important to not only be loved for looks and appearances but their efforts as well, and this includes their jobs and the stuff they do around the house and their plans. They do those things for you so that you can be comfortable and share in the comfort of the mans provisions, if that makes sense. It's hard wired into us and we need women to understand that part of us so we can feel like we are appreciated.

I think if you do that in time and find out what and why your man is into stuff, the sex part will come naturally.

reply to post by ben91069

I hear you ben. Sometimes i feel i'm acting like Peg Bundy. Inuendos and little comments from me relating to lack of sex i'm sure are not helping at all. I already told him i'm going to the doctors with him when he has his appointment.

He wont talk about it except to say that he's very tired and agravated at work. I'm not perfect, but i dont deserve this. I've been sleeping on the couch for about a year
:shk:
He constantly tells me he loves me. Just a handshake will do fine, maa'm.
:shk:

I think this is what sucks most about the whole sexual prime business.
Men go through theirs early on when we are just along for the ride and by the time we hit ours.. they have puttered out and do nothing for us.

sad state of affairs honestly. I don't know what to tell you hon other than get yourself a younger man.

Your not married to him right? Get out of the relationship now, the very least he could do is make sure YOU are satisfied even if he can't perform. If he is not willing to do that.. move on. He obviously does not consider your needs enough to be bothered.

DG. Hey there...

It surely sounds like he's got some issues to deal with...whether physical or psychological. You're doing all you can...urging him to go to a doctor, etc... The next step is all his, I don't see what else you can do, other than be there for and with him...

I've seen your pictures, girl...trust when I say, it ain't you.

Tank you Seagull, as always, you know how to make me feel good.



I just cant leave him- he needs help and i'm going to try to get to the bottom of this. Nothing like begging for it, huh?
We have been married since we were kids- we have grown kids- grandchildren, property, friends, bla bla bla.

He did spend some time in the Marine Corps (as he calls it, not me) "nut ward. He did see something he wasnt supposed to see, although i'll be damned what that was because he's never ever told me. I can sympathize, be patient, wait, but i just cant help myself saying stuff to him.

Beleive me when i say i've done EVERYTHING my imagination can conjure up, things i cant sayhere. Nothing works so far, but i will hang on sex is not the most important thing in the world by a long shot, but he doesnt like to hug me because it may (God forbid) lead to sex!!!

Time for the doctor.

Sometimes well most of the time, i'd settle for cuddling and a hug.

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Try this game :

It's really interesting and you will get to know your partner better.

Canoodling


FYI, that link is to part of MSN - not and adult shopping site.

reply to post by elevatedone
Sounds like what he needs. Thankyou!



I will send away for it soon as i can! I should have looked for stuff like that but this sounds like a great idea!

As a male growing older, I for one am happy to have less of a sex drive!
I cant wait till Im an old man who cant get turned on at all!!!
That to me is the ulimate freedom! Being slave to sexual desire can get you in some big trouble, and just me personally Ill be glad when its over.
call me jaded..

For most guys we are sexually crazy from 13-28. And most women I know are sexually crazy from 28-45.
For me sex was such a driving factor that Im happy its not as powerful as it once was. And then over the years it just kinda faded, and didnt loom over me every morning, every afternoon, every evening 3-5 times..

Some guys are crazy sexual addicts, and are addicted to porn, and other simulants..

Prehaps try some porn with him.. As maybe thats why he is worn out by the time you get to him, as he is already fullfilled threw porn.

Talking and getting to know eachothers deep desires is the only way to have a healthy sexual life.
Having a sound understanding of what floats their boats. What they like and what they dont like.

If a guy is young and not into sex as much, he could be deeply depressed.
Or is watching alot of porn. Or has someone else on the side.
Or even agin another idea is that perhaps its a medical issue where the man doesnt want to talk about not being able to salute.

Also many men get what I call whisky dick. When they drink they can not perform. Any drinking at all will put a damper on the sexual drive of some people..

Yet everyone is different..
I liked what Grady had to say..
He is a very helpful guy, and honestly he has helped me in the past with an issue I faced.

Best of luck, and if all else fails, go with what others said..
Buy yourself a boyfriend that runs on batteries!!!

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Hang on before you order that... I can help you save some money on it.



I'll U2U the info to you.



On another note, this game isn't just about Sex. You really will learn something about your partner, I was very surprised when I bought it that my wife was looking forward to playing. Even more so, when a couple of months later, she brought it up out of the blue and wanted to play it.

I really hope that everything works you for you.

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I had a girlfriend for 4 years and I think the reason why we lasted so long is because of how sexual we were.

For some reason everytime I hugged her i was instantly turned on...couldnt help myself even after 4 years.

I never ever want any other females ever...and now I am single...every girl is just not up to standards.

What was our secret you ask?

1. Our confidence as a couple sexually...I slapped her ass when she walked by, I made sexual comments on everything she said etc...treat each other as your personal s*uts (I know that sounds bad but you guys are a couple! enjoy each other!)

2. Have to communicate and be willing to try what the other wants to try or at least compromise because if you are not willing to fill a jacuzzii with green jello and lick her feet while wearing an indiana jones costume ...Well someone else will.

3. Be attracted to your partner...I know its like DUH but seriously look at him or her like you just want to grab em and throw em on the bed right now all the time! Even at her parents house...look over at her and Bite your lip and whisper dirty stuff in her ear.

4. Ok ladies...wanna know a secret to dressing sexy in the bed room?? Its not panties or outfits...because lets face it, unless you are a victoria secret model you prolly wont feel very sexy in that kind of dress...seriously...then you wont perform like you want to and things will just fall apart when you start crying and lock yourself in the bathroom...Here is the secret...CORSETS!!!! oh my god who ever invented them should be given a noble peace prize...they get rid of everything you dont want and amplify everything you want...

Just some of the things that helped us...