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originally posted by: infolurker
a reply to: satellite1
Oh, I forgot to ask the big question....
Are these friends of your wife who are undermining your relationship... are ANY of them men by chance?
If so... you know the deal.
Friends my @ss, more of a weasel waiting for the opportunity.
originally posted by: TDDAgain
a reply to: M5xaz
If it's EXCLUSIVELY a woman's decision to keep the baby or not, FINE.
Then, it is EXCLUSIVELY MEN'S DECISION whether to financially support that baby or not.
Can't have it both ways.
Men are human beings, just like women
We are not mere disposable wallets.
I agree with this to a point but life is not as simple as that. What about a mother left pregnant when it's too late and both agreed before but then the father bailed with a five year younger? Letting the pregnant woman sit there alone.
What about these acts of men? See? It isn't that easy.
Yes men should be included into the decision but ultimately it's her decision. There's only so much your opinion weights in that situation. She will be pregnant, give birth and everything that comes after that. Don't get me wrong, I understand you. And I can imagine the excited feeling about becoming a father! It can not be much different from the feeling of knowing becoming a mother. This is one of the things the becoming mother should take into consideration but it will never be a heavy weight on the scale that determines if she aborts or not.
You can not fathom the changes the body goes through during and after pregnancy as a man, and I am not saying that because of beauty aspects.
Personally, I only support abortion when there are medical reasons but it's not my right to interfere with other's decision. I think self responsibility should go so far to consider like: "You can have sex, you had sex, you knew possible consequences, deal with it like a responsible adult, just like your own parents did".
originally posted by: TDDAgain
a reply to: M5xaz
You don't need to scream at me lol.
Yes men should be included into the decision but ultimately it's her decision. There's only so much your opinion weights in that situation. She will be pregnant, give birth and everything that comes after that. Don't get me wrong, I understand you. And I can imagine the excited feeling about becoming a father! It can not be much different from the feeling of knowing becoming a mother. This is one of the things the becoming mother should take into consideration but it will never be a heavy weight on the scale that determines if she aborts or not.
You can not fathom the changes the body goes through during and after pregnancy as a man, and I am not saying that because of beauty aspects.
Personally, I only support abortion when there are medical reasons but it's not my right to interfere with other's decision. I think self responsibility should go so far to consider like: "You can have sex, you had sex, you knew possible consequences, deal with it like a responsible adult, just like your own parents did".
My opinion that nobody will change with all the words on Earth. Before that I was against abortion. Then I faced medical issues during birth and reevaluated my viewpoint because I did not have medical reasons in mind. I could not abort my child back out of emotional reasons back then, but I took the consequences and raise it alone, mainly.
I get zero financial support, the guy is always just poor enough. And I am too proud to go to the state and ask for support, as long as I can provide everything to my daughter, this will not happen.
And the emotional connection being pregnant is something that some men just like to forget about.
Children are used as weapons by too many women and the "justice" system treats men as mere wallets.