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originally posted by: NightVision
originally posted by: Lysergic
a reply to: NightVision
Dear GAWD that video was supreme cringe.
The short balding weirdo in that video dates prettier women than you can imagine.
A bald head can be sexy.
originally posted by: Oathkeeper73
a reply to: BeyondBlessed
Go to the gym and get big and ripped. It will do wonders for your confidence and women will instantly be more attracted to you.
originally posted by: FlyingSquirrel
originally posted by: Oathkeeper73
a reply to: BeyondBlessed
Go to the gym and get big and ripped. It will do wonders for your confidence and women will instantly be more attracted to you. A poor man cannot support a pack, much less one offspring. The wealthy man can support several and give them the best. The female wants the best for her offspring, it's one of the most important things to her and a driving force in her decision making. It runs deep into the subconcious. A woman who says she doesn't even want children right now will be completely influenced by these tendencies.
originally posted by: cre8chaos
originally posted by: FlyingSquirrel
originally posted by: Oathkeeper73
a reply to: BeyondBlessed
That's really dependent on how you're brought up. My stepmother only cares about how much money you have because money equals success. She claims the tool that you use but it doesn't run her world. It totally does. My mom left someone that had a lot of money have a decent marriage and went to be with someone who didn't have a lot of money.
I really think it just has to do with your own confidence. I think that you needed to find who you are with you and that will change your overall energy. Sure money to go on a date or having a good physique might help your confidence. I don't believe but those are the defining factors of what makes some women attracted to a male.
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originally posted by: FlyingSquirrel
I'd agree that asking for a number during a "random encounter" in public is too forward; it'd be seen as desperate by the female. On the contrary, if she gives you signals via flirting and enthsiastic conversation, asking for the number is okay because she's interested. You have to interpret their reaction to you without letting your attraction to them affect your judgement.
You must remember, every attractive female has a handful of men that hit on her and try to talk to her regularly. If you did ask for her number, you wouldn't be the first that month in a "random encounter" at a public place. Men are thirsty.
Urban Dictionary defines thirsty as "too eager to get something; desperate." This desperation could be in reference to anything — compliments, validation, attention — but it is most frequently used to specifically mean desperate for sex.Nov 14, 2019
Now, women aren't attracted to thirst, quite the opposite. This is complicated. Being thirsty shows that you aren't attractive, because if you were, you wouldn't be desperate, you'd "know your worth". I don't have time to explain this in detail. It's an inexplicable can of worms.
It depends on what kind of women you are considering approaching. Their physical attractiveness equals how man meny are approaching them. Man of them, if single which is rare, already have guys who have gotten to the stage of texting and telephone. Women who ae single and even those who aren't but unhappily taken typically juggled some choices at any given time. At the same time, even physically unattractive women get hit on more than you'd think because they're considered easy targets due to low confidence.
Have you tried phone apps and websites like plenty of fish, tinder and stuff like that? It's easier to present yourself with a description of personality and pictures with messages to women being normal. They're on there looking for men too and getting messages from multiple men daily. The ball is in their court always and they choose based on different factors.
Money is more powerful than looks or personality, yet looks and personality need to be adequate for money to lead. The male needs to be able to provide a nest for offspring and security, yet he has to be acceptable enough in physical and emotional attraction.
originally posted by: underwerks
a reply to: Allaroundyou
Of course that’s a joke, but if I can help someone start a cult I feel I’ve done my part.
To OP: I met my current girlfriend when she randomly DM’ed me on Instagram. We started talking, and moved in together about a month later. I know it may sound counter intuitive, but the secret to finding someone is to stop looking.
Stop concentrating so hard on finding someone, and just leave it to the universe. As soon as you genuinely stop caring, someone will pop up in the strangest place. It’s weird that that happens, but it does.
Or you could do like one of my my role models, Jack Parsons. And be an overbearing asshole and start a cult. Do what thou wilt is the whole of the law.
originally posted by: BeyondBlessed
Yes, I have tried and am currently on 5 dating apps. It has not been helping. I'm at a point where if I push myself to initiate conversationwith a female, I internally feel desperate. And as far a going right for the number, I see guys doing this all the time, of course with good looks. And it works especially when they post these acts on social media as pick up advice. I'm really frustrated, downhearted, and overwhelmed. Why cant I say to a woman, you look beautiful today? I also know that in my experiencewomen seem to respond to me like if I'm a creepy guy or some old pervert. I'm only 29 and I've been told I look 40. My last effort a woman told me "dude your like 40, go find a boring middle aged woman." All I told her was that she looked beautiful. Just one of a few bad experiences. Also get ignored and sometimes just a really weird look from woman that I try to simply talk to.
originally posted by: FlyingSquirrel
I'd agree that asking for a number during a "random encounter" in public is too forward; it'd be seen as desperate by the female. On the contrary, if she gives you signals via flirting and enthsiastic conversation, asking for the number is okay because she's interested. You have to interpret their reaction to you without letting your attraction to them affect your judgement.
You must remember, every attractive female has a handful of men that hit on her and try to talk to her regularly. If you did ask for her number, you wouldn't be the first that month in a "random encounter" at a public place. Men are thirsty.
Urban Dictionary defines thirsty as "too eager to get something; desperate." This desperation could be in reference to anything — compliments, validation, attention — but it is most frequently used to specifically mean desperate for sex.Nov 14, 2019
Now, women aren't attracted to thirst, quite the opposite. This is complicated. Being thirsty shows that you aren't attractive, because if you were, you wouldn't be desperate, you'd "know your worth". I don't have time to explain this in detail. It's an inexplicable can of worms.
It depends on what kind of women you are considering approaching. Their physical attractiveness equals how man meny are approaching them. Man of them, if single which is rare, already have guys who have gotten to the stage of texting and telephone. Women who ae single and even those who aren't but unhappily taken typically juggled some choices at any given time. At the same time, even physically unattractive women get hit on more than you'd think because they're considered easy targets due to low confidence.
Have you tried phone apps and websites like plenty of fish, tinder and stuff like that? It's easier to present yourself with a description of personality and pictures with messages to women being normal. They're on there looking for men too and getting messages from multiple men daily. The ball is in their court always and they choose based on different factors.
Money is more powerful than looks or personality, yet looks and personality need to be adequate for money to lead. The male needs to be able to provide a nest for offspring and security, yet he has to be acceptable enough in physical and emotional attraction.
originally posted by: eletheia
a reply to: BeyondBlessed
I'll just leave this here......
Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all
originally posted by: AutomateThis1
a reply to: BeyondBlessed
Hey, feeling any better man? Had some time to think about things?
originally posted by: AutomateThis1
originally posted by: BeyondBlessed
Yes, I have tried and am currently on 5 dating apps. It has not been helping. I'm at a point where if I push myself to initiate conversationwith a female, I internally feel desperate. And as far a going right for the number, I see guys doing this all the time, of course with good looks. And it works especially when they post these acts on social media as pick up advice. I'm really frustrated, downhearted, and overwhelmed. Why cant I say to a woman, you look beautiful today? I also know that in my experiencewomen seem to respond to me like if I'm a creepy guy or some old pervert. I'm only 29 and I've been told I look 40. My last effort a woman told me "dude your like 40, go find a boring middle aged woman." All I told her was that she looked beautiful. Just one of a few bad experiences. Also get ignored and sometimes just a really weird look from woman that I try to simply talk to.
originally posted by: FlyingSquirrel
I'd agree that asking for a number during a "random encounter" in public is too forward; it'd be seen as desperate by the female. On the contrary, if she gives you signals via flirting and enthsiastic conversation, asking for the number is okay because she's interested. You have to interpret their reaction to you without letting your attraction to them affect your judgement.
You must remember, every attractive female has a handful of men that hit on her and try to talk to her regularly. If you did ask for her number, you wouldn't be the first that month in a "random encounter" at a public place. Men are thirsty.
Urban Dictionary defines thirsty as "too eager to get something; desperate." This desperation could be in reference to anything — compliments, validation, attention — but it is most frequently used to specifically mean desperate for sex.Nov 14, 2019
Now, women aren't attracted to thirst, quite the opposite. This is complicated. Being thirsty shows that you aren't attractive, because if you were, you wouldn't be desperate, you'd "know your worth". I don't have time to explain this in detail. It's an inexplicable can of worms.
It depends on what kind of women you are considering approaching. Their physical attractiveness equals how man meny are approaching them. Man of them, if single which is rare, already have guys who have gotten to the stage of texting and telephone. Women who ae single and even those who aren't but unhappily taken typically juggled some choices at any given time. At the same time, even physically unattractive women get hit on more than you'd think because they're considered easy targets due to low confidence.
Have you tried phone apps and websites like plenty of fish, tinder and stuff like that? It's easier to present yourself with a description of personality and pictures with messages to women being normal. They're on there looking for men too and getting messages from multiple men daily. The ball is in their court always and they choose based on different factors.
Money is more powerful than looks or personality, yet looks and personality need to be adequate for money to lead. The male needs to be able to provide a nest for offspring and security, yet he has to be acceptable enough in physical and emotional attraction.
Duuude, You CAN tell a woman she's beautiful. If she gets butthurt by it well then good riddance. If she get's all pissy and says you look old and says rude # to you then whatever man. Why are you going to get bent out of shape over some rude ass chick?
Do you want to be with someone like that?
originally posted by: 35Foxtrot
a reply to: BeyondBlessed
I'd agree with the confidence advice. It not only attracts women, but it makes you likable to males as well. As long as you don't over do it.
Also, 2 things that worked REALLY well for me when I was looking:
1) Act disinterested. Not too disinterested but don't be needy.
2) Do a "Columbo," as my college roommate and I named it. Make up an innocent and platonic contact with the female of choice. Ask for directions or maybe a light if you smoke. Thank them and start to walk away. As you're leaving turn around and say something that Columbo would. Like, "Oh, one more thing..."
Then invite her to some activity that is non-threatening. Like a group get together or a park or something. Just say, "Oh, by the way. I was headed to -insert thing or place- maybe you'd be interested?"
I'm very happily married now but back in the day, I... Well. You know.
I realize I'm an old guy so some of you younger people may not know Columbo
originally posted by: KKLOCO
a reply to: BeyondBlessed
Looks like you’ve received some good advice already. I’m just going to chime in and summarize this useful echo chamber.
1. STOP thinking so negatively of yourself. Women have an instinct to smell out confidence, or a lack thereof. If you’re a good person as you state, use that to build your self esteem.
2. DO give a fu## about what you look like (Cleanliness, grooming, workout cardio and weights). You will get natural confidence from feeling better off the workouts and looking better.
2. Don’t give a fu## about much anything else. Be calm. When men are calm, their voices tend to deepen — which is also something women like. Many times I’ve walked into an establishment, not receiving any recognition. Then I speak, and heads turn. Women are very attracted to cool calm and collective. Most importantly, have a good sense of humor (trust me, this will come if you truly DGAF).
3. You seem lonely. Do you have a dog? Dogs are not only a great companion for you but also — Women LOVE dogs. Go to dog parks with your dog. Take it for regular walks in your neighborhood. You instantly have a connection with a person then. You will find it EASY as hell to talk to women with a dog next to you. In fact, they will approach you. When they do, make it light. Talk about the dogs and make some funnies.
4. Friends, got any? Women aren’t particularly attracted to loners (for the most part). I’m sure you’ve got to have at least one. Go out together, AKA wingman. Make sure this person has some level of confidence. Or else it won’t look good on you. Find a local neighborhood bar. Start going somewhat frequently. You’ll make other friends there that will widen your sphere of influence (more girls to chose from).
5. Absolutely STOP going in to this endeavor with the thought of finding a wife. Test drive some cars (get laid) before you buy them. This will also really build your confidence. You’ll also be able to discern what personality types you’re attracted to. It’s not about just finding a woman. It’s about finding the right women. Trust me, locking yourself into the wrong woman — is a trillion times worse than being alone!
6. You’re not old. Have patience (which is also a form of confidence). I’m 40 and dealing with this new world of dating. It’s a sh!t show. For the most part, You’re not going to find a quality girl on a dating app. Meeting someone organically is the only way to go. You just have to put yourself in the position to do so.
7. Oh yeah, if you’ve got any hobbies, seek those out. Maybe join a group geared around your interests (not geared around dating). Most the women that are REALLY searching for a relationship— you don’t want to be in a relationship with. We must first be comfortable being alone, before we can truly give in a relationship.
reply to BeyondBlessed
Yes, I have tried and am currently on 5 dating apps. It has not been helping. I'm at a point where if I push myself to initiate conversationwith a female, I internally feel desperate.
And as far a going right for the number, I see guys doing this all the time, of course with good looks. And it works especially when they post these acts on social media as pick up advice. I'm really frustrated, downhearted, and overwhelmed. Why cant I say to a woman, you look beautiful today? I also know that in my experiencewomen seem to respond to me like if I'm a creepy guy or some old pervert.
I'm only 29 and I've been told I look 40. My last effort a woman told me "dude your like 40, go find a boring middle aged woman." All I told her was that she looked beautiful. Just one of a few bad experiences. Also get ignored and sometimes just a really weird look from woman that I try to simply talk to.