The Shed 17

OH...Mark is home. I hope they didn't send him home too soon. He will have visiting nurses, Doctor's appointments, new meds...

He is exhausted and sleeping right now. Now...because he let himself run out of meds, his Brother had to straiten all that out, or is in the process. He was supposed to get some through the mail and had them on hold so didn't pay for them. It would have been cheaper for his insulin that way. We could have payed for it but he waited. Now we are waiting for them to transfer over from the mail order to our local pharmacy.

His biggest problem is that he doesn't tell me anything. I had no idea he was out of certain meds. When something is wrong, he will minimize the symptoms, hide them or says he is fine when he isn't and I have to go by subtle clues and then force him to go to the emergency room or dial 911 and have the ambulance come. Sigh...very stressful! Saved his life a number of times now.

a reply to: Night Star


Some mellow music with fond memories.


Enjoy.

One more just for the sax.

Ok one more maybe. They be just jamin.

a reply to: Night Star

Oh hon, haven't been around, but keeping you in my thoughts, and hoping everything is going to be ok.

Why are most men (including my hubby) so stubborn? Even under the guise of "I'm Fine" or "Don't want to be a burden"?

originally posted by: chiefsmom
Why are most men (including my hubby) so stubborn? Even under the guise of "I'm Fine" or "Don't want to be a burden"?

None of you are going to like my theory.
In this question there are two separate concepts that collide.
One. Patriarchal societal structure discourages "weakness" in males.
Thus from a very young age they are deprived of the natural need to express discomfort that could detect an illness before it becomes fatal.
Two. They are sublimating their suppressed need for the mother they were deprived of. She may have been physically or emotionally distant. Same spiel. They want a Mommy.
Don't we all, the difference is awareness.
It is a conundrum that can't be solved with the wave of a "dish rag".

Chief it is so nice to see you. ]]]]]]HUGS[[[[[[[

a reply to: Night Star
Dear Night, I was thankfull when I found that Mark is alive. It has worried me all day.
But I am less happy to see how stressed you are.
You can't take care of your self and another person. You will burn out.

Hugs dear, now be nice to yourself and convince him he has to communicate.
]]]]]]HUGS[[[[[[[

a reply to: Night Star

I am glad you got him back home! That indicates that the acute crisis has to be over. You take it easy now, both of you!

Not much to update about myself. Calm and steady and it feels good. Drinking coffee now, then shower, then i will visit a friend and his girlfriend, i owe them 10 euros and will pay today.

originally posted by: WalkInSilence

None of you are going to like my theory.
In this question there are two separate concepts that collide.
One. Patriarchal societal structure discourages "weakness" in males.
Thus from a very young age they are deprived of the natural need to express discomfort that could detect an illness before it becomes fatal.
Two. They are sublimating their suppressed need for the mother they were deprived of. She may have been physically or emotionally distant. Same spiel. They want a Mommy.

Yeah i didn't like them but they are true nevertheless. Part one is frustrating at times. I hug and i cry and i talk about emotions. And been told to "be a man!" because of that. Pffffft....

Part two does not apply to me, i have a great mom who raised me alone, and without those lessons and that love, i would have been much worse human being.

Weekend is starting, you all have a good one!

a reply to: Night Star

Mark sounds kinda like my Dad who also had (type II) diabetes. He would feel ill and either stop eating while continuing the insulin or continue eating while taking no insulin. "I'll be fine, I just need to sleep..." 3 days later he is in intensive care. I saw him in that state and hospital department a few times over the years. It's weird looking at your Dad when he's shaking and sweating and appearing like he's high on some weird drug, quite frightening too because then you realise just how close he came to not coming back.

I blame his military background (he used to be in the medical corps) and rudimentary medical experience. Well, that and being a man. We like to walk stuff off...

Thank you so much to everyone for the replies posted to me, and the PMs as well. I hope I answered all the PMs, but if I didn't, I read them and I'm grateful.

Right now, I just want to post a video. It's from America's Got Talent and it includes what the uploader feels were three of the very best child acts. I just cannot disagree. The video includes Celina Tam, Angelica Hale, and the winner of the last series, Darci Lynne.

Why am I posting this? Because they are all prodigious talents and uplift us. I think back to what I was doing at 9, 10 or 12 years of age: they are light years beyond me and I'm grateful that we can hear them.

And Darci: she is singing this song as a ventriloquist... That is just utterly, utterly jaw-dropping.

This afternoon I slowly work up from a much-needed nap. I had my Pandora songs playing while I sleeping. The following were the last three songs that played before I got out of bed. I realized how much my song selection reveals about my personal life and what is going through my head.

a reply to: chiefsmom
Why are most men so stubborn?

Because we were raised that way.

Not your fault and not mine. It's just "socialization".

@ WIS Big HUG to you too!
As to your theory, and Mike too...

I do agree that it is a "Societal" factor.
I am married to one of those "tough" guys, (Although the mother theory is different for him, as he is the youngest, and was the "favorite" according to his siblings)

Crashes his golf cart, says he is fine. (even with cracked ribs)

But catch a cold? LOL he's dyeing.

Sorry I'm popping in so late! Loved the posts and videos very much!
I got to go out for a little while for a late breakfast and then to the grocery store to get Mark some things. I was with my friend Diane who lives out near the ocean. To me, she is an ocean of calmness and always brings me such peace and joy even through my storms. Too bad she is not into forums, you guys would love her!

Good Day My Lovely Sunshines!

I was surprised to see no one had been here since I lasted posted. Am I the only one without a life or what? Sheesh!

Though it is cold outside here, it is a beautiful day in the Shed lands. Please join me and have a bite to eat and we can chat and watch the faeries play in the garden and watch the creatures run free and the dragons soar.

a reply to: Night Star

Good morning! Where's the coffee? All I see is flowers... Are we supposed to grow the beans ourselves? Coffee and cigarette is my breakfast of choice, extremely unhealthy I know. Food comes later.

a reply to: LightSpeedDriver

You must be my Brother from another Mother. I'm the same way! LOL


Something really cool to share with everyone...

originally posted by: Night Star
a reply to: LightSpeedDriver

You must be my Brother from another Mother. I'm the same way! LOL


Something really cool to share with everyone...

I've seen that vid before and it so cool! How are you feeling Night ? I hope the worst is behind you concerning Mark's health.

a reply to: Sheye

Thanks for asking Hun! It's been stressful. With him, being diabetic, it is essential not to skip meals and he would go all day and not eat until night because if he wasn't hungry he wouldn't eat. That is a major adjustment he is trying to make, but he has been told this for years. He can't let himself run out of meds and just get them after a week or two of being without. He is what doctors have called noncompliant with his health at times. When I used to get on his butt about the importance and not even yelling or anything, then he would resent me and I was always the bad guy. Well, like it or not, I have to get after him again because you leave him on his own and he ends up in the hospital. I have been checking his blood pressure and making sure he is checking his blood sugars and eating.

Been catching up on housework I hadn't been able to do, so I am pretty sore, but now relaxing until my buzzer for the dryer goes off and makes me jump. LOL

I'm also pissy because he has shown love and appreciation to others, especially his young beautiful women friends for years, yet if I even wanted a hug I'd have to ask for one so I stopped asking, yet he says he loves me. He must have felt bad for a change and actually gave me a hug on his own yesterday. Today he was short tempered just asking him the simplest of things, but I am sure he is overwhelmed right now so I get that.

Then I find out he is Mr. Bank lender and I wonder if he put off getting meds because someone either didn't pay him back or he was waiting or if they even paid him back. I have no clue. I put a thing on both my facebook page as well his about that. I told everyone that he is generous and would never say no to someone in need, but we are both on limited incomes and his insulin is extremely expensive, that he needs his money. I told them that he would never say this, yet it had to be said.

I have mild depression and anxiety and live with chronic pain. I am on a bunch of meds myself and have to be careful and make sure I am taking my own meds at the right time. I now have to go to all his upcoming appointments with him to make darned sure he understands everything and does what they say. I have my own appointments and tests to deal with as well. Nurses and physical therapists will be in and out of my home for a while.

Thank you for letting me rant! It feels good to things off my chest!

a reply to: Night Star

Please, if physically capable to do so... make an appointment for a float therapy session.

It pains me to see wholeheartedly good people suffer at the expense of being a loving person. As we age, there are an ever growing number of outside influences that peck at our energy... like pigeons crackers. At the same time, we see infants soak in vast amounts of magical learning so easily. One would think that the human would get better at learning as we age.

Float therapy allows for a set amount of time for the mind to unwind. There is no way for outside influence can grow when isolated with no inputs beyond thought. Most people that find float therapy under the terms of finding physical healing by being alone with our thoughts/mind, with no pecking inputs from the outside world, find the quickest healing capabilities of float therapy.

The larger and longer the life lessons without the inclusion of float therapy, and I am witnessing the largest emotional reactions once float therapy is found. Empathetic people such as yourself, I strongly encourage to take advantage of the balancing affects of float therapy. Whether it be rest, stress reduction, or physical pains... float therapy will help heal it.

Best wishes to all workers of light!!!

a reply to: Night Star

😕... sounds like Mark needs to grow up a bit and really start appreciating what he has in you. Someone who cares deeply about his health.

Hang in there hun... he'll come to his senses at some point.

Rant all you want... we're here for you just like you are ALWAYS here for everyone else.