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originally posted by: ksiezyc
a reply to: dr1234
...no sexual contact. Maybe hand holding or a hug. Why oh why. Please let there be innocent girls and not that..
originally posted by: ksiezyc
a reply to: dr1234
I think even waiting a month to kiss is fine. Why rush things. I'm really hoping there are innocent girls out there...Even the second date is quick for a kiss. In my opinion Maybe older relationships go faster.
originally posted by: ksiezyc
a reply to: dr1234
What do you think of asking a girl out who you have no contact with essentially. Specifically. A friend's sister. I'm trying to figure out how to make it more like a date. Assuming she says yes. Depends on the girl with the speed.
originally posted by: TrueBrit
a reply to: Quantum12
Wow...
How did I miss this thread?
There is, however, something that really troubles me about dating. Seems to me that many folk date to see if some spark exists between a pair of people, either that or to facilitate mindless rutting, either way.
I, personally, would not consider dating someone unless I was already head over heels in love. Why would I waste my time? None of us have very much of it, and some of us only have slim reserves of sanity left to spend on maybes and possibilities. I have to know what I want, if I am ever going to have a hope of being able to service anyone else's needs, or at least, that is how I think of it.
Thus, I never date. I may, after a while, declare that I have feelings, the sort of feelings that a man gets for a woman when he is damned sure that he has been waiting for her since both he and she were just sparks of an idea in the mind of God. I have wasted time dating before, with disasterous consequences, huge losses and wastes of time, enormous anguish, near bottomless singularities of despair and torment....
It simply is not worth it. Now, meeting a woman in the normal flow of life, becoming close through circumstance, actually developing a relationship naturally...that seems much healthier... Of course, I am old fashioned that way, and no one else my age is. That also has some disasterous implications, but damnit, if I cannot do this love thing how it is supposed to be done, I will settle for never having any again. It is, despite being an extremely desolate and harsh way to live, somewhat less terrible than the alternative.