Lost my Little Bro and my Big Sis in 24 Hours

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No words.


Time is the great river that carries us through all things.


Peace to you.

I want to thank everyone who responded so kindly.

Which was every single reply on this thread.

I don't know any other website with such classy people.

A couple people ask...My Sis had a stroke 5 years ago, she was compromised.

It helped to cry out into the wilderness and have so many caring replies.

I will write a little about both when my strength returns...

ATS Thank You.

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Best of luck and look forward to your write-up about both your sis and bro.

ATS RULES!

My deepest sympathy to you. Life can be cruel, just be thankful for the time you had them. God Bless.

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Sorry for your losses seems not enough, but I truly am.

We live in a world that many times leaves us with a heavy heart. I've had my share of family losses, but what keeps me going is the connection and time I spent with those family members.

Keep the happy memories alive and they will always be in your heart.

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Stay strong, man. We're all here for you.

I am so incredibly shocked and saddened to read your note.

Remember how they lived, not how they died.

I think I can safely speak for everyone in thread when I send you an enormous ATS e-HUG

Zazz.

It's a terrible thing, I am sorry it happened that way. Some very thoughtful replies, I agree with all of the points except for "Everything happens for a reason". This is highly debateable, and I do not accept this assumption, for myself. Bad things happen to good people, in droves, there are regional disasters and it's hard to find meaning in a tsunami or holocaust. And this is akin to a personal tsunami for you. Searching for meaning in a disaster is a dangerous and unyielding mental exercise.

This is a serious topic for me too, as I have been in a period of extended mourning and depression - I am just rising out of now, after 18 months. Sometimes hearing of others loss reduces alienation, so I will summarize. 18 months ago, my '2nd mom' from childhood,as we called her was shot to death with her fiance, the day before their wedding. Then my 2nd dad, the shooter, killed himself in prison, within a month of my grandfather passing. After suffering several digestive orders, financial ruin and depression, my girlfriend left me for a mutual friend she swore no interest in, and has denied me visitation rights to visit her children I helped raise for nearly 5 years.

Luck comes in bursts; both good and bad. For me, I am left with one clear burning question - what is my purpose, for the rest of my time? I have finally started to obtain clues to my true potential and direction. I wish you the best of luck in finding yours, with a loving Brother and Sister watching over each shoulder. Peace & Love

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Hey, how's things? Just to let you know I was thinking about you earlier - it's good to see you've been back since. Hope all is well,


B x

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You take care of YOU - we'll still be here.

I'm just stopping by to see how you're doing. I hope all is well as can be.

originally posted by: Skid Mark
I'm just stopping by to see how you're doing. I hope all is well as can be.

Trying to get back to what is my new normal.

I've looked at this thread a few times and started to write.

It's still too soon for me. I have been distracting myself with my hobby.

Thanks for checking on me. My real life friends don't know what to say to me.

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It'll take time to get back to normal, whatever that is. I don't think anything really is after you lose someone close, just altered. Distracting yourself with a hobby is good. What is it, if you don't mind me asking?

Just take care of yourself.

originally posted by: Skid Mark
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It'll take time to get back to normal, whatever that is. I don't think anything really is after you lose someone close, just altered. Distracting yourself with a hobby is good. What is it, if you don't mind me asking?

Just take care of yourself.

I own a couple of racehorses with a few of my buddies. Not the super expensive ones.

I started a partnership group that has done pretty good.

It's something I have always wanted to do. So, I'm doing it.

It helps to have a distraction and I'm crazy about all my animals.

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Good deal! Working with animals is relaxing. Have you won any races?

originally posted by: Skid Mark
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Good deal! Working with animals is relaxing. Have you won any races?

Won 12 last year. By far my best year.

But, it costs a minimum of $80.00 a day to keep them at Santa Anita.

That's before the Vets and the State get theirs. Last year I broke even.

In this game, that's about as well as can be expected. Unless you get a Super Horse.

The horses are magnificent creatures. They have their own world going on.

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When there isn't anything to say. I look for something to play.

" Do not cry because something is over, but smile because it happened"