I need all your love and prayer

a reply to: QueenofWeird

Dear QueenofWeird, I'm so sorry to hear of your losses! I'll continue to hold you up in prayer for as long as you need. You sound very overwhelmed at the moment, and understandably so. What I see from the outside is a strong person who has a storehouse of love inside that will help you get through this. You have so much love for your animal friends, and that says to me that this crazy world HASN'T flattened you into someone incapable of feeling. That is something big you can use as an anchor to weather the storm.

God bless and take care of you and your pets, dear one.

One day at a time keep putting one foot in front of the other. I feel for your loss and pray that you will find joy in the smiles they left you and you left them. Positive thoughts are headed your way and every new day is a chance for you to experience even more love and share your own. I love you my human sister/brother and am giving you a big hug with my thoughts right now. In the name of love

originally posted by: QueenofWeird
Life seems to be only about surviving the blows you're being dealt and I don't know how to cope. Buddhism teaches to get detached and loving at the same time but that to me is a contradiction.

Loss of a mother and a beloved cat in such a short time is a challenging lesson. My condolenses and hopes for you. It may be too soon to focus on gratitude for having both beings in your life but it will come. Try to focus on the lost loved ones and the good things they gave you during your life more then on the 'loss' you have suffered (companionship, love, money, etc). It may help.

I'm finding that terrible loss turns into gratitute much quicker with age and practise - everything in temporary - that's what the Buddists teach and why they recomend against attachment. Attachment is conditional whereas love isn't.

Do you have siblings or other family members to help with clearing out your mother's effects? My small family found it very healing - a couple of people came in from out of town - doing this chore. We laughed and cried, shared memories - good and bad - and passed on lore to the younger ones. It's become a very fond memory.

Blessings and peace.

a reply to: QueenofWeird

I just lost my own Mom and her funeral is Tomorrow morning. I have also lost many pets throughout the years. I know you are in much emotional turmoil and I know how much that hurts. You are not alone Sweetie. If you need to talk, just send a PM my way. We can be miserable together.

You have my prayers and I will be thinking of you at this dark time in your life. Wishing you much love, strength and comfort.

Sending good thoughts your way sister. Strength and love will get you through it.

I apologize for your loss my friend. It'll be okay, it'll be okay.

Try taking surveys. They'll help you with the vetinary costs.

I'm sorry.

Sorry for the sorrow.

My own mom's last act was helping me put down my 16 yr old doggy, then she died the next week, so your situation resonated a bit too much.

It gets better, but that doesn't help much with the time before it does. Just remember you aren't alone and the future always brings surprises... some of them are even pleasant.

All we can really hope for is that someone will feel miserable when our time comes... it's a sign of a well lived life. Seems your mom and kitty did okay.

a reply to: QueenofWeird

May the Force be with you and allow you to heal.

originally posted by: QueenofWeird
Mods, please move if the wrong forum.

20 September my mother died and today I had to put down my 18 year old darling cat. The one I have known since he was 3 months old.

I am so devastated and hurting that I don't know how to continue living. I have another sweet cat and I also adopted my dead mother's birds. So I need to be strong for them, but I don't know how. I am still in the middle of clearing out her appartment, luckily a friend will help.

Another issue, not trivial, is the huge financial cost of having had my love cat at the emergency vet. 300 euro's and them 100 more for the injection. It's so hard that pets who are my everything are so costly. It's my pets who kept me going when things, my life, spiralled out of control.

Please include me in your prayers because I am at the brink of despair.

That's rough. I understand about needing to stay for those who need us. I bet plenty of people these days are glad they have that motivation.
Once, I was kind of lost and just kept going through the motions. The stupid daily routine kept my limbs moving and offered some distraction. I don't deal well either.

a reply to: QueenofWeird

I am on the other side of the world, but know that right now I am sending as much love as I can muster and am willing it your way. I hope it helps to know so many people that don't even know you are sending love your way.

I lost my much loved kitten late last year and I am still devastated, but you DO get through it. Unfortunately, to give love is to eventually suffer loss, it's just the way things are. You have suffered a double whammy.

*Hugs from Australia*

a reply to: QueenofWeird

'One day some people came to the master and asked: How can you be happy in a world of such impermanence, where you cannot protect your loved ones from harm, illness or death? The master held up a glass and said: Someone gave me this glass; It holds my water admirably and it glistens in the sunlight. I touch it and it rings! One day the wind may blow it off the shelf, or my elbow may knock it from the table. I know this glass is already broken, so I enjoy it - incredibly.' - ajahn chah

It is so... that in this world... we love that which without a doubt will one day perish...

it is quite painful, to see them go, but remember, it was in their life, their living breathing life, that they showed you kindness, friendship, love.

it is in this very life here now, that we can come to know such beautiful things, so cherish it

in the seed exists the sprout, the blooming flower, the decaying petals... and vice versa, in it's passing, there exists the decaying petals, the blooming flower, the sprout, and the seed...

it is all connected, and only our discerning eyes, hearts and minds draw out the differences displayed by the passing of time, so we get lost in what we see now, and often forget, what once was, what will be again

life is a gift, a gift given to you many times over again, through the many beings you encounter

your life is a gift too, to those that you might not even know, don't forget that

much love to you my dear

a reply to: Ophiuchus 13

No I don't know the movie. I don't know what the purpose if any is of life and death. I only know that I need to continue.

a reply to: Benevolent Heretic

I am strong, but even that has limits. Thank you for sharing your mother's wisdom.

a reply to: research100

I feel for you, it's all so hard and cruel.

a reply to: ProsceniumProtagonist

Celebrations are not an option for me, if anything I want contact with my dead cat.

a reply to: CantStandIt

Yes I am not jaded nor bitter. And I understand the value in that. Yet death is the one thing I can't accept.

a reply to: Gumerk

It's remembering that joy that is so heart wrenching.

a reply to: FyreByrd

Most of it is done by me as my family is small and scattered.

a reply to: Night Star

O God how awful, I have no strength right now to send you energy. I hope you have support from loved ones. I keep the PM offer in the back my mind for now, thnks.

a reply to: ZacharyW

All I can is howl, but thanks.