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and yes, it's likely that would've been the response, had i made no effort to look like i was at least trying. low energy levels and chronic illness does not equal vagrancy, but somehow, that's how it appears to be translated in wider society. eh, whatever.
originally posted by: galadofwarthethird
a reply to: Bluesma
Your whole premise is so full of conjectures and projections really were would one even begin to start sorting through all that mess.
But ya! Cool story. I like the way you tried to do the whole Socratic approach to things, but completely and entirely missed.
originally posted by: galadofwarthethird
a reply to: Bluesma
I suppose I could. But really it would take way to long, and probably take at least 2 or 3 pages worth of me writing stuff explaining things in a way you may get it.
Really its just to much work. I am sorry but, no offense. Even among females I seriously theories and advice would work. Among men, ya. What world do you live in. Don't take this the wrong way, but you do come across like you have been indulged by men throughout your life. Just saying you know. I could be wrong you know, so dont get all weird and stuff, not attacking womankind or any of that, merely you, and even that only on somethings.
I even read you other post some pages back, even that part about how your husband wrote you a letter explaining how he is going to make the relationship work. The only thing I can say on that...Oh great so now were supposed to write up a thesis on how were going to deal with the stranger in front of us...I mean jeezz there, arent dates and first few encounters a headache enough, but now were supposed to write out notes and jargon explaining things and how and what were going to do and achieve it?
What is the matter with the good old fashion guy meets girl, guy shows girl porshe and fat bank account, isn't it all saying the same thing? And it just may be easier some days then writing it all out in a letter, or at least much more realistic and effective. But ya! Assurances, I noticed females like there assurances.
I could go on. But really there is no point to it. Stupid ATS whats wrong with them, they need that dam ignore button. Or else I would be here on the internet explaining to people all day long just how wrong they are.
If you are unable to discuss a topic without falling back on personal slurs, why bother? The questions posed were not posed to you in particular.
For one, when going out with someone for more than a year, they are hardly "a stranger".
Two- you can do whatever you wish and whatever works for you. If a big wallet and a Porsche is easier for you and you prefer it, then go ahead! It will attract and get a certain type of woman though, who is primarily materialistic. There are women who are not primarily materialistic, and they will not show up to your wallet and Porsche- which could give you the false impression that "all women are materialistic".
For some men, expressing that they are aware of the challenges involved in engaging in a committed life and building a family, and that they feel confident in facing them is easier than filling their wallet and buying a Porsche.
Yes, I guess I like assurances in forming partnerships. I like to know they are entering the partnership willingly, with realistic expectations, and confidence. I don't expect any guarantees, but I like to know the other is choosing willingly to give it a try. I don't think I am alone in this.
You can choose to ignore anytime you want. No one put you in charge of telling everyone how wrong you think they are. Though I wonder how you can feel you can tell people who have been successful in relationship and marriage, that they are wrong, when you have not done it yourself?
originally posted by: ghostrager
a reply to: Aazadan
Women were (and still are) social creatures, while men were (and still are) solitary creatures
originally posted by: galadofwarthethird
Interesting thing to say. But you know I can still go back to some threads and link them to were you said the exact oposite, in fact you were going on about how men with money and power were a big turn on for you.
But what does anything you say about you...Have to do with me or any other guy really? I mean I get with other females. But ya OK. Assurances women like that...You dont say. Got it, it totally makes sense to me now. Like totally it was like something I would have never thought off.
I pointed out that often, men with a strong will happen to often end up being financially successful. I pointed out a correlation. (because filling that wallet and buying that Porsche is not as "easy" as that). Correlation is not cause.
If a person tends to be superficial, they confuse the two.
Like a woman that thinks having a Chanel purse will make her classy- because she observed classy women often have Chanel purses.
A woman can also assume that a man who has a Porsche is strong willed, because she observed that many strong willed men have Porsches. But those people are superficial, materialistic- they focus on the most visible appearences and do not go deeper.
But those people are superficial, materialistic- they focus on the most visible appearences and do not go deeper. People without class or will often find a way to buy expensive objects. They could be born into rich families, they could be crooks, they could sacrifice their basic necessities for that object.
I had said that women are attracted to men with a strong will. I said I am attracted to men of strong will, but perceive that it is not necessarily the source of financial success.
YOU brought that letter up, and it was from a post in another thread.
originally posted by: Bluesma
a reply to: undo
Where do the women who work, who have few children, fit into this?
Where do the men who have children with one woman, and have a lower salary than their mate fit in?
Where does relationship- two people caring for each other, fit in? Why is it all about money anyway?
It wasn’t the first time that such an event had lost a scheduled venue. The Radfem 2012 conference was to be held in London, at Conway Hall, which bills itself as “a hub for free speech and independent thought.” But trans activists objected both to Radfem’s women-only policy—which was widely understood to exclude trans women—and to the participation of Sheila Jeffreys, a professor of political science at the University of Melbourne. Jeffreys was scheduled to speak on prostitution, but she is a longtime critic of the transgender movement, and Conway Hall officials decided that they could not allow speakers who “conflict with our ethos, principles, and culture.” Ultimately, the event was held at a still secret location; organizers escorted delegates to it from a nearby meeting place. Radfem 2013 also had to switch locations, as did a gathering in Toronto last year, called Radfems Rise Up.
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Abusive posts proliferated on Twitter and, especially, Tumblr. One read, “/kill/terfs 2K14.” Another suggested, “how about ‘slowly and horrendously murder terfs in saw-like torture machines and contraptions’ 2K14.” A young blogger holding a knife posted a selfie with the caption “Fetch me a terf.” Such threats have become so common that radical-feminist Web sites have taken to cataloguing them. “It’s aggrieved entitlement,” Lierre Keith told me. “They are so angry that we will not see them as women.”
OK, Ladies? If you want to stay alive, you'd better respect these dudes because not following the orders of men's rights activists will result in your possible (but not probable) death. I don't know what this guy and his friends have got going on over on Manbook, but it's so secret that just trying to sign up might cost you your life. It's probably pictures of baby animals and gay porn, though. I mean that's why I'd go to a site called Manbook.
According to a study of relationships that engage in nonreciprocal violence, a whopping 70% are perpetrated by women. So basically that means that girls are beating up their BFs and husbands and the dudes aren't fighting back. With Amy Winehouse busting open a can of whupass on her husband last week, we decided to conduct an informal survey of the Jezebels to see who's gotten violent with their men. After reviewing the answers, let's just say that it'd be wise to never ever [redacted] with us.
One Jezebel got into it with a dude while they were breaking up, while another Jez went nuts on her guy and began violently shoving him. One of your editors heard her boyfriend flirting on the phone with another girl, so she slapped the phone out of his hands and hit him in the face and neck... "partially open handed." Another editor slapped a guy when "he told me he thought he had breast cancer." (Okay, that one made us laugh really hard.) And lastly, one Jez punched a steady in the face and broke his glasses. He had discovered a sex story she was writing about another dude on her laptop, so he picked it up and threw it. And that's when she socked him. He was, uh, totally asking for it.
originally posted by: galadofwarthethird
To them there is no difference or do they distinguish between the two, in fact the thought has not likely entered in the majority of there head. That is all there is to it. Appearances are everything especially to them, there are just merely levels of appearances.
Class and superficial appearances are one and the same thing in pretty much all cases out there. After all how can you impress somebody with your class, if they are not able to see it? There is nothing deeper to it.
Nope there the same thing. Most especially in the mind of women
For instance how many strong willed men have you known who life in a cardboard box and do not have any monies or anything. None right? Because it does not exist, and in a females mind the two are not only tied together they are the same thing.
I ask yourself why are you arguing these things with me? Then you will have your answer. I mean no for real? Why are you arguing with a strange dude online about this? You have to realize that none of it matters even if we all reach some sort of conclusion. You keep trying to convince yourself of something...Well OK! How about this, just tell me what it is...Then I will agree, OK.
Yes I did. And yes it was. What of it?
Ah you see there I to can turn things around...Round and round we go. Now who is right and who is wrong? I off course chose myself as being right. And you off course chose you as being in the right. But off course that is silly, and its obvious I am right.
Right? Round about and Round about it goes.
originally posted by: galadofwarthethird
a reply to: undo
But the truth is that one persons socialism is another communism which is another's capitalism even in that they speak a different language and see things differently in there minds eye.
How can you make such claims about women, what they feel and think inside, when you are not a woman? When a woman honestly describes to you what she feels and thinks, an it is not what you are claiming?
Class is a description of a personality characteristic, or behaviorism. It is a sensitivity to others around that allows them to be respectful of others in widely varied contexts. A friend once said, "She is someone who can be gracious and kind and considerate when in the midst of the poor or rural people, as much as when she is in the midst of the rich or urban people. That is class."
It is a sensitivity to deeper and unverbalized movements going on in those around- their values, morals, ethics, and particular sensitivities. This is often what allows for someone to interact with different sorts of people, from different cultures, and be able to act in a diplomatic function. Once considered essential for those in positions of leadership or higher social status, in order to have effective relations with other countries or groups, it became associated with high social status and financial abundance. Though someone of lower social status and financial means can have class, just as someone with a higher status and financial status can be lacking in it.
But most often, being classy is knowing how to be careful not to intimidate others with your financial status- not being too flashy. (thus, women who have class are less likely to assume the man with the Porsche has it, they will be more likely to take a closer look at the man driving a less visible expensive car.
We obviously disagree there then. Some women may share that view with you, and others won't.
There are strong willed men who have no money- it all depends upon what their will is focused on. If they are focused on not conforming to societies expectations, for example, they can go very far to resist it. There are young men who are strong willed, but do not yet have a "goal" or desire which they have chosen to focus on.
I don't need or want you to agree. Your arguments lead me to make effort to formulate my thoughts in the simplest fashion possible, that is an interesting and useful exercise. You may never understand what I say because you simply do not want to- but in the future I could run into someone who would like to comprehend what I am saying, but needs it whittled down to statements easier to digest. This exercise with you will have helped me to be able to do that for them.
You asked me why bring that up in this conversation, what does it have to do with you or anyone else here? I answered, I didn't bring it here, you did, so only you know why you did that and why you felt it was relevant.
Yes, you do that. But I am already familiar with that habit of yours, it doesn't surprise or irritate me at this point.