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Originally posted by Killface
If he does it back to them, they will know they are failing to make him uncomfortable and the behavior stops, or continues but in a context of humor, trumping the awkwardness.
Originally posted by thecinic
I'll tell you what to do, all of them!!!! Don't forget to bring a towel, and quit being a wuss, if the women want you give them what they want don't you know manners SIR!!??
Originally posted by LadySkadi
Originally posted by Killface
If he does it back to them, they will know they are failing to make him uncomfortable and the behavior stops, or continues but in a context of humor, trumping the awkwardness.
This presumes it's not all in his head - and given the OP has said he suffers some form/degree of "social awkwardness" then it just might be.edit on 8-11-2010 by LadySkadi because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by Killface
reply to post by cupocoffee
You are assuming that they are all really interested in a relationship with him, you ever consider they may be doing it to mess with him??
Originally posted by cupocoffee
Originally posted by Killface
reply to post by cupocoffee
You are assuming that they are all really interested in a relationship with him, you ever consider they may be doing it to mess with him??
They would not be doing the kind of posing/preening/attention-seeking behaviours he describes if they didn't want something....
You say you are good with women, you should know that by now
Originally posted by LadySkadi
reply to post by Killface
Not questioning your credentials (student, right?) what I am saying is that if the perception is off, the OP may misinterpret the entire situation and if "social awkwardness" is playing a part in the misinterpretation, than it's plausible that relatively typical office interactions are being mis-cast.
Only the OP knows whether this is relevant observation and thus, the OP will have to decide on his own what to do. However, I think the advise of "give it back to them" is really inappropriate from a variety of stand-points.
BTW - I have credentials too, actual credentials that apply in the professional world. It means naught, when the discussion is online and one has no way to evaluate or reference anything that is being claimed in this situation. Don't over-step, it's bad form...
edit on 8-11-2010 by LadySkadi because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by cupocoffee
Originally posted by thecinic
I'll tell you what to do, all of them!!!! Don't forget to bring a towel, and quit being a wuss, if the women want you give them what they want don't you know manners SIR!!??
Yeah, but how are we supposed to "give them what they want", in the middle of a workplace, where you CAN'T have sex? Please explain oh wise one!!
Originally posted by Killface
I do know that very well, but again you are not considering the possibility that the "something" they want is simply a reaction or to play on his "social awkwardness". I see women do this ALL the time.
Originally posted by schrodingers dog
The chances that many individual women in the OP's workplace are behaving the same towards him are remote ... chances are much higher that he is picking up on something that isn't there because of uncalibrated sensitivities.