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I sacrificed having a "paying job" for that, WILLINGLY, because parenting IS THE MOST IMPORTANT JOB IN THE WORLD.
I chose parenting over money and wealth. Too many people have children just because their biological clocks tell them to - then after 6 weeks they give that precious new life to a relative stranger to raise....so they can keep their "careers" and "wealth." I think it's a travesty.
In Islam the 1st right of the children begin even before they are concieved. Their 1st right is that a person chooses a good mother/father for them. i.e. I choose my wife with care, a spouse who wants to have and raise kids and who loves kids.
i pointed and questioned the wisdom of degradation of motherhood and praising of highly educated/career women!
That's why I keep saying it's about PARENTING, NOT about religion.
Women have the power to go against it and neglect their children and prefer forwarding their career etc and that is disobedience to Allah as its injustice to the children who have a right to get good parenting.
(except for the Catholics who toe the line on no contraception and having babies every year - how exhausting!)
My opinion is that women who want a "career" in the workforce or by focusing on their own interests should not be having children to begin with. And men should not be "forcing" them to. It is irresponsible to have children and then not raise them oneself.
My opinion is that women who want a "career" in the workforce or by focusing on their own interests should not be having children to begin with. And men should not be "forcing" them to. It is irresponsible to have children and then not raise them oneself.
Sadly most women are fed the idea that they can "achieve everything" and so they go for kids and career and most fail in at least one.
Someone needs to erase the idea of being the "Super Woman" from their heads.
While that may be the official stance of the church, I think you might be quite shocked at how many Catholics completely disagree with that in the privacy of their homes, especially today. It may be different in particular regions of the country but around here there are only a handful of Catholic families who have more than 2 children, and that certainly didn't occur due to abstinence. Gone are the days of squeezing out as many children as able, even most of the Mormon people in the area have jumped off of THAT bandwagon!
Sorry for going off topic WT- just felt the need to throw it into the mix.
That is EXACTLY what I did when I was a counselor and women who were depressed, overwhelmed, disappointed, confused and exhausted came to me for help. EXACTLY what I told them.
Originally posted by pthena
reply to post by wildtimes
That is EXACTLY what I did when I was a counselor and women who were depressed, overwhelmed, disappointed, confused and exhausted came to me for help. EXACTLY what I told them.
Too bad my ex-wife went to a different counselor, as relayed to me, she advised "take a vacation from being yourself" so they went clubbing together. The counselor ended up divorced too.
Originally posted by wildtimes
reply to post by logical7
What a completely mysoginistic and arrogant thing to say. "Poor helpless women, they're nothing but trouble and weak and depraved if left to their own deviced. They need us to keep them in line." Pthena's ex and her counselor have nothing to do with the attitude of men being "superior" thinkers.
Not.
:shk:
it would be nice to seprate inherent human behaviour from the religious association of that human.
The religion actually discourages these actions but how effective it becomes depends how truthfully the human is following the religion.
We can continue to discuss if you agree to make that distinction and keep it in all moods.