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Originally posted by darkbake
So I was getting on the case of my room-mate for being controlling of his girlfriend, and he told me "Baker, why don't you do things the way you want to do and I'll do things the way I want to?"
I don't understand why his same logic doesn't apply to females... I thought they were people, too. Could just be my opinion.edit on 18-1-2013 by darkbake because: (no reason given)edit on 18-1-2013 by darkbake because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by darkbake
So I was getting on the case of my room-mate for being controlling of his girlfriend, and he told me "Baker, why don't you do things the way you want to do and I'll do things the way I want to?"
I don't understand why his same logic doesn't apply to females... I thought they were people, too. Could just be my opinion.edit on 18-1-2013 by darkbake because: (no reason given)edit on 18-1-2013 by darkbake because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by chiefsmom
Well, as a woman, thanks for stepping in and saying something.
It may or may not do any good, but at least you tried. There is such a thing as mental abuse, as well as physical.
And if it does ever get physical, please step in again.
Obviously somebody raised you right.
Originally posted by chiefsmom
reply to post by resoe26
Maybe she should. But there are many women out there that have been raised to think it is ok to be mentally, verbally and physically abused by men, so they won't.
Originally posted by Ireminisce
Of course women are people. People that can make their own decisions about how their relationship works.
I get a lot of crap from other women about my relationship with my husband. They think they're helping me by trying to force me into these masculine pants that I would rather not wear. They ignore the fact that that respecting your husband has been an honorable thing to do up until very recent historical events. I get looked down on for being a stay at home mom. I get looked down on for understanding that I have my own equally important role in my marriage. Hell, I've even been ridiculed just for getting up to grab my husband a beer!
Very rarely my husband will make a decision affecting myself or our family that I don't agree with, but it always turns out to be for the best. I wouldn't have married him if I didn't expect him to be capable of filling a husbands shoes. Women often make decisions based on emotions. That's not sexist, it's just the way we're wired. Men are wired to be more effective leaders. I don't believe my beliefs make any other woman better than me. I'm just choosing to go the route that has been proven to work for thousands of years. Divorce and fatherless children are a recent development. I think there is a reason for that.
I don't know how this girl is being treated, but ultimately it's her choice. Sometimes you think you're helping, but you're really not.edit on 18-1-2013 by Ireminisce because: (no reason given)edit on 18-1-2013 by Ireminisce because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by chiefsmom
reply to post by resoe26
Yeah, that's why I said, at least he tried. I wouldn't expect him to jump into everything, unless it was physical. He really doesn't give us enough info though, like was she present? Was SHE objecting? Does he have a crush on her?
Hey OP, can you give us a little more detail about the circumstances when you said what you did?
Thank you