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Originally posted by Crakeur
Employer's point of view:
Employee is pregnant and, therefore, cannot be around the chemicals used in cleaning the dogs. Easy route, switch the employee to a position she can fill during her pregnancy.
You sound like you want to be paid for the cleaning and not clean as a result of the chemicals.
While that would, of course, be ideal, the reality is, your employer is providing you with a paying gig and finding a way to have you earn your keep. As an employer, I would do the same thing. I wouldn't pay someone to sit around and do nothing.
The fact that your employer is a guy has nothing to do with it. He's a business owner, he needs to have employees that do the work he's hired them for.
You cannot do it so he's finding you an alternative.
I would be surprised to learn that this was a fully on the books gig and, if not, be happy he doesn't cut you loose which he could easily do if the gig is "freelance" or outside the realm of payroll.
Originally posted by nixie_nox
You can buy a mask to filter the fumes. Or maybe invest in green products.
Originally posted by Mrgone
Alright ladies, please don't crucify me
OP, I know your venting but you brought your story here so I believe you know what you were in for by posting this.
You make $100 a week plus tips. I know that must be hard to live on. Believe me,I do. What made you think that bringing a child into that situation was a good idea. You undoubtedly struggle with food for yourself, how are you planning to pay for a second mouth? I sincerely hope that you weren't expecting more money from your dog grooming job.
I hope venting here helped your mood a bit. It does a sound like you should change jobs. Your boss is crap if your version of the story is true.
Don't quit until you have something else locked. No rash decisions, your making them for two now
Good luck, sincerely
Originally posted by dollukka
reply to post by Mrgone
You made assumption she is raising child alone ?
We shouldn´t judge anyone by the few lines written here at ATS, cos we don´t really know anything about her or her hubbys or anything what comes to her family and finacial issues.edit on 13-12-2012 by dollukka because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by MountainLaurel
Good Luck with your upcoming "bundle of Joy"......as wonderful as it all can be, lol, this is just starting... having to make decisions between your child and your career is a VERY difficult challenge for all concerned......it sucks !
I do agree with others that say try and seek employment more compatable to being a Mommy too....your employer doesn't sound like he's going to be cool with all the demands a new baby needs, and if you decide to nurse your baby, it's important to have some flexability in your schedule....trust me on this, it will tear your soul out to have to choose between your baby and your job.
Maybe start your own little business? Dog sitting, house call grooming....? Take Care....eat healthy and try not to stress out....your going to be a good Mommy.......
Originally posted by mblahnikluver
I can't lift or be around heavy cleaning, that is it.
Originally posted by mblahnikluver
I am only paid if my hands are on a dog so yea anything I do in that shop is for free and to their benefit not mine.
Originally posted by Mrgone
Originally posted by dollukka
reply to post by Mrgone
You made assumption she is raising child alone ?
We shouldn´t judge anyone by the few lines written here at ATS, cos we don´t really know anything about her or her hubbys or anything what comes to her family and finacial issues.edit on 13-12-2012 by dollukka because: (no reason given)
Like I said, she brought it
And in her own words she really needs the job. Doesn't sound like her man is all that financially present
How about it OP? Care to elaborate on your plans?
PS. I'm off to the store so I'll be back later to catch up on the conversation. OP, don't be shy.edit on 13-12-2012 by Mrgone because: groceries
I was told not to lift or be around cleaning products per my doctor and well now it seems my boss has a problem with that and has thrown it in my face. I have since been pushed out of my position as bather and been told i have to "groom" now and well that is money out of my pocket i really need
Originally posted by SimKey
The author of this thread made choices which lead to consequences not entirely unexpected. Author wants special treatment for a common condition. Employer does not have to accommodate.
Author has the option to find other work.
Originally posted by lobotomizemecapin
So you made the choice to get pregnant. Why should your employer have to pay for your mistakes. should they have to still give you a pay check when you are obviously unable to do the work? Should he have to pay to support you? Its not that I dont understand bc I do but there are consequences to your actions. You are there to make your boss money not for them to take care of you. Just bc you are pregnant doesnt mean the world needs to bend over for you and take care of you. Get a job that you can do in your condition and stop whining about not getting handouts. Pregnant women are terrible company as well. There is a lot of whining a huge amount of bathroom breaks and the gas is awful.edit on 13-12-2012 by lobotomizemecapin because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by gwynnhwyfar
reply to post by mblahnikluver
Mblah,
When I was in my early twenties I was a groomer and I can relate to every single thing you just said!! I went through my first pregnancy while I was grooming. Wait until you come back afterwards and they expect you to be 100% right off the bat. It took me months to recover after my first baby. Not to mention taking breaks to pump milk - I got lots of eye rolling on that one, too.
I know you are upset about having to train another bather, but the good thing is, at least your shop believed you when you said you can't lift any more, and didn't ask you to carry on as usual.
At my shop, my friend who taught me how to groom was like an amazon, she was tall and strong, and she had done everything she normally did while she was pregnant, plus the owner didn't have any children, so she had that attitude like you mentioned, that it's like having a minor illness, just inconvenient, nothing more. I luckily didn't have any problems with my first pregnancy, but the next is another story.
After I had my first son, I got pregnant again. The way I found out I was pregnant the second time is that I was lifting a large dog into the tub (I worked for a small shop where the groomers bathed their own dogs) and I started bleeding, and it wasn't my period. The bleeding stopped right away, I took a pregnancy test and it was positive, so I thought it must have been implantation bleeding. I told myself everything must be ok, since the bleeding had stopped.
I made an appt to see an Obgyn, but they couldn't get me in for my first visit for a few weeks. Before the date of my appt, I miscarried the baby. I think now that when I lifted the big dog, it damaged something and that is why I miscarried a few days later.
I would stay away from the flea dip, too. I always thought it was probably terribly unhealthy to breathe that stuff, even when you aren't pregnant.
I'm sorry to hear how how you are being treated, it seems to be par for the course at some of these places. My friend and I started a grooming association thinking maybe we could work together with other groomers to try to get better treatment from shops, but it didn't go anywhere. I eventually went back to school and got out of grooming.
Take good care of yourself!
Gwynn
Oh wow! Finally someone who understands and knows I'm not asking for special treatment or anything of the sort! It's just called respect and human understanding!
Most of the commenters clearly don't know anything about grooming. There are things that good shops can do that help protect their employees health and safety, regardless of whether they are pregnant of not. They can use safe products and ventilate the bathing area well. They can have ramps to walk large dogs into the tub and up to the grooming tables. They can keep enough people on staff so that you can assist each other. It is any employer's responsibility to provide a safe work environment.
I never worked in grooming before and the whole business needs stricter rules and better guidelines and some kind of actual pay scale. I am doing this job til I can get something more suited to myself and school was an option til I found out I was pregnant so I will have to put it off for another year. I am more than likely moving back to where I grew up after discussing with my fiancee about what happened. I know I could find a better job there and be much happier. I haven't been happy in this area since I moved here so I think a change is definitely needed. I can't "grow" in this area so to speak and i need that.