Blah, Blah, Blah...Ya-da, Ya-da, Ya-da!

How many times have you been among people and there is always someone who when they start talking, your eyes glaze over and you just really don't want to listen to them...but you are kind of stuck.

What I do is...I smile and nod...say yes...oh...un-huh...etc. every once in a while to pretend I am interested. The reason I do this is because I don't want to hurt their feelings; and I figure they need someone to listen to them.

But...sometimes I just want to look at them and say: "I really do not want to listen to you; you are very annoying and I am not interested in what you have to say." I have never done this; but sometimes I am tempted.

On the other side of the coin...I know sometimes people get sick of me...and I accept that fact.

So...I am wondering...in order to keep the peace in many social situations...what do you all do?

And...what really just drive you up the wall!

Everyday.....

Gosh, where to start.


Sometimes I wish I just took an icepick to my ear and jammed it all the way through so I don't have to hear this bitch of a world.

Bitch, moan, complain....


Blah, blah, blah, blah blah....

This is awesome, I just refreshed the page and I was talking on the phone with some I feel like that about.

Here is my usual out...

If my phone hangs up it just needs to charge.

If in person, Ill be right back, I'm not drinking enough for this, and then laugh like its a joke.

And my classic NRE (shhh dont tell anyone)..... Are you serious?? Serious?? Then let them think about it and walk away! With laughter of course.

I have made it my business to no longer be around people that can get me into that mode, but every once in a while, someone gets through my radar. BTW, I never dismiss anyone who really needs to talk, just those that like to hear themselves talk

Good luck, and yes, we have people that might not want to hear us, but I give an out for everyone just in case

Peace, NRE.

reply to post by Manhater


I am wondering...do you have someone in your life that you love; but don't always like and a lot of what they say and how they say it...drives you up the wall?

Originally posted by caladonea
reply to post by Manhater

 

I am wondering...do you have someone in your life that you love; but don't always like and a lot of what they say and how they say it...drives you up the wall?

Yes, that and work...

Just can't get away from it.

reply to post by NoRegretsEver


Yes..there are those that really don't need us to listen...but they love to talk and they want an audience. I know the type...very self-centered...it is all about them.

This reminds me of this guy that used to come in my work years ago.The man would talk my ear off every damn time.I'd go in the back for ten minutes or so than come out hoping he would be gone.Was he? NO! He'd continue yapping and I wouldn't say a word.Like you,I didn't want to hurt his feelings so I'd let him babble.

Well one day I couldn't take it anymore. I said "Look dude! I got work to do,I can't stand here and talk all damn night.I don't care about your ?!?!?@@ dog or what your mother had for breakfast.If there's something I can help you with,I'll be glad to,otherwise leave me alone". Man,that felt good,but at the sametime I felt horrible having to get angry to help him get the point that he was bothering me.Looking back I think he was probably just lonely.But still,I don't want to hear your life story. So,yeah,I know how you feel

reply to post by nightstalker78


You were at work...and you needed to continue doing your work. You listened for a time...and then you told him what you needed to. Some people when they were growing up were not taught social boundaries; about what is appropriate and what isn't.

reply to post by nightstalker78


I'll be sending one person your way. I deal with it 24/7

But I always get this excuse...

"I am just trying to have a conversation"

My life, I want to live in nothing but quietness. No.........That will never happen.......If only I could turn back time.

reply to post by caladonea


Yeah,but I always felt horrible about it afterwards because I don't think he really had much interaction with people.After I went off on him he never bothered me again,which really wasn't my intention.

But I've dealt with people outside of work,who think the world revolves around them.They think they're more important than everyone else.I've even had a few dates where I've tuned them out and just responded "Yeah" to everything they said.

I think the worst are those that not only dont have anything good to say, but are utterly depressing. Nothing ever goes right in their lives, or even when they talked your head off before and you gave them advice, they didn't listen and are still complaining about the same things.

These are the ones that you have to let go. If its someone that you love, then by all means let them know, gently of course, but you cant fix everyone, and frankly I take someone listening to me as a gift, not a right.

Peace, NRE.

Originally posted by Manhater
reply to post by nightstalker78

 

I'll be sending one person your way.

I deal with it 24/7

But I always get this excuse...

"I am just trying to have a conversation"

My life, I want to live in nothing but quietness. No.........That will never happen.......If only I could turn back time.

I hate when people say they're just trying to have a conversation.That goes both ways..if I'm only responding with one word here's a hint..it's not a conversation! It's reached the point where you're annoying me!

reply to post by NoRegretsEver


I know this woman...and 9 times out of 10...when you talk to her she has to tell you all the bad news...sometimes I just have to make up an excuse and get away from her...all that negative input...I think can be toxic.

Are you one of those people that for some unknown reason, complete strangers feel compelled to tell you their life history? I am. It's always pretty much driven me up the wall. Standing in line at the grocery store, it happens anywhere really. Sometimes I feel like my ears are melting and running down my neck.....

I've found sometimes saying "I find that hard to believe" will shut some people up. When it's a phone ear abuser, I admit, I've put the phone down and walked away for a bit. They never knew I was gone for 5 mins. It's not like I was ever a part of the conversation.

I do the best bobble head impression ever....usually my mind is somewhere else, as I bobble away.

I need to work on saying no....

Des

Originally posted by NoRegretsEver
I think the worst are those that not only dont have anything good to say, but are utterly depressing. Nothing ever goes right in their lives, or even when they talked your head off before and you gave them advice, they didn't listen and are still complaining about the same things.

These are the ones that you have to let go. If its someone that you love, then by all means let them know, gently of course, but you cant fix everyone, and frankly I take someone listening to me as a gift, not a right.

Peace, NRE.

Oh then we need to let ATS go. pretty much whats on here even this thread is complaints. Maybe we like it more then we let on..the negative is so much stronger and entertaining then the positive.

Personally I HATE the sunny sunny lalala life is so SUNNNY! People.

reply to post by NoRegretsEver


I hear that man.I have a friend that if you casually ask him how he's doing,he'll go on about how terrible his life is and how everything is going wrong.It's gotten to the point where I don't even ask anymore.Now,mind you,I care about the guy,but I don't need to hear the samething you told me last night.I was asking to be polite! He actually reminds me of "cousin gerard" from everybody loves raymond!

reply to post by Char-Lee


Your response made me laugh! Point taken...life is not just a bunch of roses and lollipops.

reply to post by Char-Lee


I think you missed his point.There ARE people who do nothing but complain about life all the time.And yet they refuse to do anything to change it... I don't think anyone's life is perfect and full of sunshine

reply to post by nightstalker78




Yeah, I don't know how many times I have said that "Annoying". It goes in one ear and out the other.

She is getting better at it though. It was way double worse when her child was here.

Originally posted by nightstalker78
reply to post by Char-Lee

 

I think you missed his point.There ARE people who do nothing but complain about life all the time.And yet they refuse to do anything to change it... I don't think anyone's life is perfect and full of sunshine

I get what you are saying. I swear, there are some people who could win the lottery and still complain about it.

But, the Suzy Sunshines can be just as much of a drain. They live smack dab in the middle of that silver lining in the cloud.

Happy medium people, those I like the best.

Des