A Question About Girls (Not Relationships)

I once knew a girl who liked to flirt with guys. However, she would never flirt with me. When I asked why she said it was because she really liked me, but not in a romantic way. I never pressed the matter.

So the question I put to you is this: why would a girl flirt with guys she doesn't like but not with guys she does like?

And ahve you ever seen this yourself? Is this a common thing?

reply to post by EvilSadamClone


Yeah, it is common. I just can't get it. They all go looking four troublemaker guys! Can't understand them.

Welcome to the friend-zone, buddy. I think a girl like that's behavior stems from attention seeking, and if she already has your attention, why keep trying to get it?

Hmmmm I don't usually act this way, I usually only flirt with guys I like. But I might know the answer to your question. Maybe its because some girls flirt with the guys they don't like to "have some fun" knowing its not going to lead to anywhere serious and are more comfortable. With guys they do like, maybe they don't flirt because their afraid they will say something or do something wrong that'll turn the guy off?

reply to post by swan001


If she doesn't like you in a romantic way then she won't flirt with you. The evolutionary explanation I read about why girls want to "go out" with bad boys/troublemakers is that those kind of boys will play around more with other girls - seriously - and if they get pregnant with a son the son is liable to carry that playing around gene too, which means more offspring in the long run. Girls probably don't even know why they do it, but "life will find a way" and that way seems successful in evolutionary/passing along DNA terms.

reply to post by EvilSadamClone


I was in a pretty similar situation in highschool, but my predicament is that they would always flirt, yet none of them ever ended up going out with me lol. How's that for a mindf ck. What I gathered from it is they flirt as a means of having fun mixed in with a bit of emotional torture to boot. You should feel lucky that she's not flirting with you lol. My own advice is go and find someone who isn't like that, as flirty chicks are bad news to begin with.

reply to post by EvilSadamClone

she said it was because she really liked me, but not in a romantic way.

it means that if she were to imagine you naked, [highly unlikley]
you'd be smooth between the legs
like a doll

you have your uses
but as a sexual partner you're not even in the running

remember the above should you win the lottery
and she suddenly starts flirting with you

If a girl is friends with a guy that friendship is over the moment they have sex. Simple as that.

Originally posted by boncho
If a girl is friends with a guy that friendship is over the moment they have sex. Simple as that.

That freaking sucks dude.

reply to post by EvilSadamClone


Girls like that aren't worth your time. Or anyones time really.

Originally posted by TsukiLunar

Originally posted by boncho
If a girl is friends with a guy that friendship is over the moment they have sex. Simple as that.

That freaking sucks dude.

If you don't want to be in the "friend zone" don't put yourself in it. There are a lot of guys that want to be friends with girls because they like them more than that. It's a bad play on the guy's part because girls don't want to fool around with their friends and usually regret when they do.

I'm upfront in the relationships I have with girls and let them know I'm not looking for friendships. The relationships don't last that long, usually begin at flirting progress to a few dates or nights out and then disappear, but it eliminates all the awkwardness.

I do hear a lot of stories about their "friends" though, and how some embarrassing moments when they tried to make moves on them.

C'est la Vie

Originally posted by Aleister
reply to post by swan001

 

If she doesn't like you in a romantic way then she won't flirt with you. The evolutionary explanation I read about why girls want to "go out" with bad boys/troublemakers is that those kind of boys will play around more with other girls - seriously - and if they get pregnant with a son the son is liable to carry that playing around gene too, which means more offspring in the long run. Girls probably don't even know why they do it, but "life will find a way" and that way seems successful in evolutionary/passing along DNA terms.

I think in evolutionary way, they look for these troublemaker/mischievous guys to get the offspring but look for calm gentle guys to nurture/grow the child.

Every girl is different and everyone has different reasons for doing things.

Also whatever she told you might or might not be true, you know. Maybe she really likes you and wants you to be jealous? Maybe she doesnt like you at all and just wants to say something so you will not bother her anymore but doesn't want to be mean?

See, many possible reasons! Context is important, so the question is too difficult to answer....

Originally posted by fictitious
reply to post by EvilSadamClone

 

Girls like that aren't worth your time. Or anyones time really.

that's a bold statement. you don't even know the girl. what's wrong with flirting?

she's flirting with other guys because she liked the attention. you're just a friend to her and she probably doesn't want to flirt with you and give you the wrong idea.

reply to post by EvilSadamClone


She didn't mean that because she likes you she doesn't like the guys she's flirting with. When she says she really likes you it means she likes you as a friend, but is not attracted to you.

You are never going to get a straight answer to a question like that.

reply to post by ZiggyStardust


You're right, I don't know her. What I do know is, girls that constantly flirt want attention, like you said...people who want sexual attention usually have low self esteem. People that have esteem issues on that level usually have problematic relationships. And people that get married who have these issues find a need to be unfaithful since "attention" burns out after the honeymoon is over.

The best girls imho don't seek attention this way from multiple men. They naturally have confidence and know they can be well liked without leading guys on. Of course, this is all from my life experience and could be wrong.

Originally posted by Aleister
reply to post by swan001

 

If she doesn't like you in a romantic way then she won't flirt with you. The evolutionary explanation I read about why girls want to "go out" with bad boys/troublemakers is that those kind of boys will play around more with other girls - seriously - and if they get pregnant with a son the son is liable to carry that playing around gene too, which means more offspring in the long run. Girls probably don't even know why they do it, but "life will find a way" and that way seems successful in evolutionary/passing along DNA terms.

Ecclesiastes 1:31
Give her the fruit of her hands.
And let her own works praise her in the gates.

Is there anything to be learned from this? A woman shall be known by her own actions.
Do you really think that women, or "girls", as you so quaintly put it, want to have "romantic" relations with no prospect of actual love? Correct me if I'm wrong but where is FREE WILL in this instance? The problem is ignorance. The bible says: My people perish for lack of knowledge. You err because you know not the Scriptures NOR the power of God. It also says that people act like animals. Therefore, in a way, for the most part, you are correct with your idea of attributing actions to the passing of DNA.
And I must say, Passingofthunder, that was a great reply.

reply to post by Wonders

Do you really think that women, or "girls", as you so quaintly put it, want to have "romantic" relations with no prospect of actual love? Correct me if I'm wrong but where is FREE WILL in this instance? The problem is ignorance.

Where is free will when women are brainwashed by religion? Sorry that everyone wants to look at women as innocent virgins that only wish to stay at home and do laundry but for the most part, every one that I know like to play around just as much as guys.

A large percentage of women enjoy their lifestyles and they don't need biblical text to warp their thoughts.

Double Post.

Burt Bacharach

Originally posted by boncho
reply to post by Wonders

Do you really think that women, or "girls", as you so quaintly put it, want to have "romantic" relations with no prospect of actual love? Correct me if I'm wrong but where is FREE WILL in this instance? The problem is ignorance.

 

Where is free will when women are brainwashed by religion? Sorry that everyone wants to look at women as innocent virgins that only wish to stay at home and do laundry but for the most part, every one that I know like to play around just as much as guys.

A large percentage of women enjoy their lifestyles and they don't need biblical text to warp their thoughts.

So we are talking percentages now, within what vicinity of your country does this ring true for this large percentage of women?
To learn and make decisions based upon that which you have learned from, does not make you "brainwashed", it simply changes you as a person.
I think that a woman would at lease wonder why she does what she does.