I'm Scared of Death.. Im Searching For Soul And Life after Life.

If you could feel what it feels like to be alive you would not fear death, it is because we already feel half dead and are waiting to find out what it is all about that we fear the end, we don't think we will make it in time!!
Is life that good that you never feel you want a break? When i was living with anxiety and fear and depression i wanted it to end and thought the only way would be death.

Dear OP,

I understand what you are saying.

It is not your own death that you really fear, for you had come to accept human mortality.

What you truly fear is the death of loved ones.

And that' s because of LOVE.

Billions of words in prose, verse and songs had been written about it. Philosophers attempt to theorist it. Scientists try to rationalise it. But it is only a feeling that lives within all humans and burns strongly in each of us, to care for another.

In this instance on the topic of death, it is love you feel, and its eventual loss that is troubling you.

You are not alone.

No mortal lives forever. Once we in this life passed on, we don't return.

All I can say is to treasure every moment you can with those you love, as well as those whom have yet to know your first world of 'hello' to them. We may be strangers today, but we need not be enemies, and can be friends with each other. This journey of life far more enjoyable and meaningful with love and friends, than to be alone.

There will be times for eventual goodbyes, and we must never be teary eye, but be with joy for the times shared and memories that will be the one that lives forever, giving us strengths to renew our bonds with others for simiar outcomes of companionship, care and concern in this journey of life.

Cheers.

I know where you're coming from. I used to be afraid of dying because I was afraid of simply not existing anymore. I did some research in the paranormal and had some interesting experiences with what I would consider to be "lost souls". Then I became afraid that when I died, I might become one of these lost souls. What's the benefit of life after death if you spend eternity wandering around lost, sad and alone?

I had two interesting "dreams" that have really helped me to deal with death. I can't prove that they were anything more than dreams, but they comfort me nonetheless.

The first dream occurred in the middle of another standard, run-of-the-mill dream. I was dreaming something very forgettable when suddenly I was in a completely different dream. This new dream took me to a place outdoors in a country setting. I was standing in the middle of a country road with hills and beautiful trees/landscape. This young guy was walking briskly with a walking stick towards me on this road. He looked up, saw me, smiled and said something like, "Well, hi there." I became very distressed and proceeded to make myself wake up, heart pounding. After waking up, I wondered what the heck scared me so much about this dream? The guy was totally non-threatening. I didn't recognize him at all, but there was something somewhat familiar about him.

A couple of years later, I was at my parent's house. My mother was showing me an old photograph of my grandfather, who had died when I was pretty young. She was pointing it out to me because my grandmother had recently found it in the attic after it had been there since they first got married. It was noteworthy because it was the only known photograph in existence that showed my grandfather with a full head of hair (he was about 19 yrs old in the photo). NO ONE in my family, not even my grandmother had ever seen my grandfather with hair, because he started going bald when he was 25 years old. Not even my father had ever seen this photograph. Now, I hadn't thought about my dream for two years, but I immediately recognized the person in the photo as the young man in my dreams. What's really cool about the dream was that my grandfather died of emphysema, so at the end of his life he couldn't walk from the house to the car without being out of breath. In my dream, not only was he young, but he was totally enjoying his walk.

The other dream also involved my grandfather, but it was during the two year period before I found out about the photograph, so I know the dream wasn't influenced by the photo. A brief background about the time during this second dream - I was going through a really tough time emotionally. I was having what I'd call a "mini-nervous breakdown" for personal reasons. I was having difficulty functioning, it was so bad.

In this dream, I was in my bed, and my grandfather (the elderly grandfather that I recognized so well) was sitting at the end of my bed. He and I were having this deep conversation, where I was asking him questions and he was providing answers to me telepathically. I can't remember any of these questions/answers, but I do remember the last part of the dream. He wanted to let me know that in my times of troubles, he was around me, trying to help me any way he could. I remember telling him that this made me feel really good, and then I woke up. Not long after this, I found a way to deal with my breakdown on my own, and things slowly started to get better.

I'm not a religious person either, but I have a very strong feeling that we do continue to exist after we die. And these dreams have helped me to see that we don't all become miserable lost souls, wandering around for eternity. Hopefully, when I die, some kind soul, like my grandfather, will be there to help me.

The age old question, men have been asking themselves that for millenia. Got nothing to do with wealth, status, education, or any of that, it's part of the human condition. At least you can assure yourself of your own sanity.
Nobody can answer your questions directly, although everyone has an answer for you, few know themselves what the answer really is. Nice collection of ideas already, here's another thought ...
You tried looking in the bible? If only for info, or ideas on what other people thought. The cicumstances may be different, but they had the same questions ... why am i here? What happens after? etc.
Now the bible is different from most, in that it says: "it is appointed for man once to die" and then afterwards ... well we all face ourselves and our lives ... maybe more, who knows.
It's old fashioned, but provides a pretty good start. Start with the simple things that you know for sure, like you will die ... no doubt about that. I wouldn't worry about the dead, or being dead, you can be sure the dead don't give a sh1t about the living!!
You've got one chance, starting a few years ago, and yeah, it may be a good idea to be nice to people. Once you find your path, then it's just one day at a time, one hour at a time, and second at a time, like all the other men that have ever lived.

Oh, and fun is a big part of it, but NOT the most important part

Originally posted by SeekerofTruth101
Dear OP,

I understand what you are saying.

It is not your own death that you really fear, for you had come to accept human mortality.

What you truly fear is the death of loved ones.

And that' s because of LOVE.

Billions of words in prose, verse and songs had been written about it. Philosophers attempt to theorist it. Scientists try to rationalise it. But it is only a feeling that lives within all humans and burns strongly in each of us, to care for another.

In this instance on the topic of death, it is love you feel, and its eventual loss that is troubling you.

You are not alone.

No mortal lives forever. Once we in this life passed on, we don't return.

All I can say is to treasure every moment you can with those you love, as well as those whom have yet to know your first world of 'hello' to them. We may be strangers today, but we need not be enemies, and can be friends with each other. This journey of life far more enjoyable and meaningful with love and friends, than to be alone.

hya
perfect
wish we could all live like this

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Great books, i've mentioned them on here before.
Think the OP would find these useful for changing perception of death
Good call

I like to think that death is the happy beginning.

For me this sounds like a typical story of someone who has nothing in life, no goal, no hobby, (possibly?) no work..so all you do is sit at home and have all those un-constructive thoughts and time allowing you to play out all those thoughts until they make you crazy...

Mind you, this is not meant in a negative way..rather just to say what i think...and to give you a possible solution.

The solution would be to start something you like in life, instead of wasting your time with creating negativity all the time. What do you gain from it? Nothing.

You could write a book, start a hobby, get out more, meet people, join a [insert whatever here] club, whatever..1000s things to do.

I'm only 18 year's old. In my life everything has been peaches and cream... So much routine that I cant bear the thought that 5-10-20 years from now my life will not be the same..

You should seek professional help because (stating the obvious...) it's not normal being 18 and you thinking like this...

As soon as I read the title, I thought of an article I read a while ago.. you might be interested in it. Here's a snipped of the article.

I understand that this is a bit of a darker subject, but it’s something that I’ve discussed with somebody recently and feel that not only is “death” severely misunderstood in American society, but it’s something that a lot of people are flat out afraid of, and they’re afraid of it for the sole reason that they don’t actually understand it. You see, a lot of people still believe that things exist only on a physical, material level – no matter how many radio-wave and wireless internet examples are thrown around. People need proof, and I used to be the same way – but you generally won’t get proof unless you’re open to receiving proof, and believe me – search and you’ll get it – not just with passing on, but any subject that you might not understand.

Being afraid of dying is like being afraid of tomorrow; Not only do you not know exactly what tomorrow has in store, but tomorrow is inevitable – much like passing on. Not only do you not know what is going to happen when you pass on, but either way it’s going to happen. Are you living today in fear that your house could catch on fire tomorrow? Are you living today in worry that you could be hit with an earthquake, flood, tsunami, or hurricane tomorrow? No, you’re not, because that would be an absurd, miserable way of living. While I understand that you’re not always afraid of dying, most likely only if you’re either close to dying or thinking about it is it something that scares you – but you need to ask yourself the question of why are you afraid of dying? What scares you about it? Let’s take a look at some of the most common responses:

www.wisdomdome.com...

Originally posted by flexy123
For me this sounds like a typical story of someone who has nothing in life, no goal, no hobby, (possibly?) no work..so all you do is sit at home and have all those un-constructive thoughts and time allowing you to play out all those thoughts until they make you crazy...

Mind you, this is not meant in a negative way..rather just to say what i think...and to give you a possible solution.

The solution would be to start something you like in life, instead of wasting your time with creating negativity all the time. What do you gain from it? Nothing.

You could write a book, start a hobby, get out more, meet people, join a [insert whatever here] club, whatever..1000s things to do.

I'm only 18 year's old. In my life everything has been peaches and cream... So much routine that I cant bear the thought that 5-10-20 years from now my life will not be the same..

You should seek professional help because (stating the obvious...) it's not normal being 18 and you thinking like this...

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To follow up on this, I disagree. It's not fair for any of us to judge your life. Don't seek professional help unless it's something that you feel that you should do. Don't let anybody else EVER tell you what is normal or what is not normal. Life happens in cycles. Sometimes you're depressed for a month, a week, a year, but it will pass - everything does. Just remember that things ALWAYS get better.

However, the poster is right about one thing.. find a hobby! Here are a ton: www.notsoboringlife.com...

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He who seeks will find and who knocks will have the door opened. You're probably young, so there's plenty of time to find what you are seeking, and then when you come to it, you will realize that your most essential self can never die, and there it is, the loss of all fear, including the fear of death. In the interim, try not to obsess about it such that it becomes an overwhelming preoccupation, and get busy living. No worries as they say, it's all good.

Dear Bruce,

I just want to tell you, I felt the exact same way today. The same thoughts. Its very painful. I don´t know the answer to these things but I do believe in life after death and God. I cried really hard when reading what you wrote. Just know, you are NOT alone. Believe me. You are normal to feel this way when you are so awake to the truth of how the world is. Sometimes life is scary, you have a big heart for all the pain in the world. But you are human too and don´t need to take it all on yourself. We have to surrender to something higher than ourselves, and let ourselves be free. And you and me both, we have to remember there is alot of GOOD in the world too. Lets live for the good and laugh in the face of evil.

with warm wishes for a better day tomorrow,
Ruby

Originally posted by superluminal11
Dont be. Its like taking off a very tight uncomfortable shoe. You will be singing this song before ya know it,,, guranteed.

Ever stop to think that anxiety, depression, loneliness, anger, and all the DSM4 psych diagnostics given out is the correct response and all those that you see that seem happy confident and get most anything they want are incorrect?

Very good chance it is true.

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Thanks for that vid, it brought a smile to my face and gave me that good feeling, well placed!

OP:
Yes, there is life after death. Of this I know for certain, or at least I think I do. It has been my experience that we do go on after we die, and even in the afterlife, we still care about those who are here.

I have been down your road, I still am down your road 41 years into my life. Sometimes you gotta take the good with the bad. You are a very deep thinker, this is good and bad. If you think to much, your mind will stress out and you will be put into a situation like you are now, where the anxiety keeps you up and the depression beats you down. Listen to some soothing music, lay down, start with your toes, and stretch every single muscle in your body from toe to head with a good flex/tensing, with each muscle that you do this, breath in when you tense it, and then breath out when you release it. If by the time you have not gotten relaxed enough to sleep when you get to your head, start working backwards down through the muscles back to your toes.

It works.

Also try poetry if you do not already.

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Hey Bruce,

No one can guarantee you with absolute certainty that there is anything after this life

I can garentee there is life after death...

though will anyone believe what i tell you?

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You and I are in the same boat emotionally wise. I don't take any medication for it either, but I'm afraid I'm going to have to start taking medication for at least my anxiety. (It's gotten to a point it's crippling me.)

I usually think of life like this:

We're given a vehicle to do our business in. Much like when you get a company car. When your business is done you return the car. Just like our bodies. We're put on earth for some reason, maybe it's just to be an example to others of how NOT to live your life. Maybe it's to help someone or watch over someone. And when we're done, our bodies 'quit' (we die) and we exit to go back to wherever it is we come from and either retire or get a new car (body).

I don't know if this is what you were looking for, or if it's even on topic. But I felt it was something to add to the discussion.

It's strange how life works out. One day you're doing your 'own thing' and the next, you find your circumstances have changed dramatically and you're doing something you're not really 100% on doing. I used to have it all figured out, but then 'it' happened and here I am. I'm lost, wondering around almost aimlessly.

But remember Terminator 2? There was a theme in there, "There is no fate but what we make". Even though it's from a movie, it's true. I plan on making major changes to my life. I don't know if I'll ever find what I'm looking for, or if I'll find the meaning of life. But we just have to keep on trucking.

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We're put on earth for some reason, maybe it's just to be an example to others of how NOT to live your life. Maybe it's to help someone or watch over someone. And when we're done, our bodies 'quit' (we die) and we exit to go back to wherever it is we come from and either retire or get a new car

correct!!

Perphaps you might try meditation? It can cure anxiety... and many other issues.

reluctant-messenger.com...

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I have always been fascinated by death as a child and couldn't understand the concept.

For me the way to get over the realization is the realization itself! Just accept it is going to happen and don't worry about the future for it doesn't exist! Death is quite a beautiful and poetic process and shouldn't be confused for something bad!

Im 29 years old and have been through a lot of what your saying. The fear of death and the whole change it causes is something that never goes away. The only thing Ive done to deal with it is realize that if youre afraid, or if you will miss your loved ones when they go, then that tells me theres hope right there. You have to love something enough to miss it, to not want it to change. If theres love around you and theres a purpose for life, then youre fullfilling it already. A family member once said to me in a joking manner, Its death! Everybodys doing it! Its the only thing you can say youll do that everyone who has ever lived on this planet has done to! So... get with the program and accept it!--- I couldnt help but laugh. When you take the seriousness away from it it helps, cause remember there is SOMETHING after. Theres always good with the bad.

BruceEFury.. i don't suffer from anything you mentioned, depression, insomnia, anxiety.. ect.. yet i have quite a lot of the same feelings and thoughts you've mentioned so maybe it's fairly normal. by the way, thanks for sharing.. it's appreciated when someone gives a glimpse into their psyche.

being only 18 what's going on is, i think, is that you are a person who cares about others, these days that's a rarity, and you are taking on "the weight of the world" as far as their burdens go. find something that'll allow you to escape, for me it's music.. playing it, listening to it.. ect.. it's my opinion that it's the only true magic in the world. i also wanna add that when i say "escape" i mean just for a break when things get heavy because worrying about others is a good thing in my book just be careful because worrying can lead to high anxiety so you need a break once in a while.

I kinda like the Monty Python view of death:

"You came from nothing and you'll go back to nothing, what have you lost? Nothing"

Of course you stand to gain everything if there is life after death ( I myself think that in all likelyhood, death is indeed final ) But, having said that, either there is or there isn't and if there isn't, you or I wont know any different anyways. You're here now so no point wasting the time you have worrying about the inevitable. Death will come for us all sooner or later, preferably later though....