Attention Women. Lets Give Them The Answers They Long For.

reply to post by gabby2011


System corrected.... Annihilation averted.

Carry on. Carry on. As always gabby you make to much sense.

What a generous offer to have all questions answered...a real treat...so let me think...

What qualites and/or images, etc. do you most associate with the positive, fond memories of a male lover, either now or in the past? What I mean is, when you think on somebody you love (or once loved), what about that person comes to mind when you are feeling positive about him? Any specific memories? Any specific qualities? What do you cherish the most?

We hear a lot about the difficulties men and women have, and the negaive things they have to say about each other. I'd like to know the most positive, and not about men in general but rather about some specific guy that you know.

reply to post by gabby2011


Yes, was meant as a reply to sussy...not sure what happened there.

Sorry for the system malfunction.

OK, here is a more down-to-earth question.

If a guy is with a woman, she will be apt to notice if he checks out another woman too obviously. But my question is, do "third-party" women in public with no relationship to a guy notice if he checks out another woman?

This has been a deep mystery to me since early adolescence.

Sorry noregrets, I am the same female on teh outside as I am here, just nicer. I laugh a lot, which you can't see.

I don't let idiots intimidate me because of my pov. If they are total sexist morons, I just walk away. I am bossy and opinionated, and I can put someone in their place, but I also know how to play politics. If you want to argue with me, you better be able to back yourself up.But I am also a happy person, nurturing, calm, passionate, l like to have fun, and approachable.

Like I was cracking up at this thread. I am still chuckling over grunt the gorilla. My husband narrowed it down to one word: a jab in the side and he would ask: boink?

reply to post by silent thunder


Absolutely. some guys are more swift about it then others.

reply to post by silent thunder


How do I answer that without breaking the t&c?

Honestly, you have baited me into finally responding......

The answer we long for? "Honey would you like me to give you a back rub tonight? Afterwards, I'll flip you onto your back, and while you are so relaxed I'll use my mouth in ways that will make you crazy. I'll climb on top after, and make sure you are worn out, and sleep well.

The males response? "I love you."

How simple is that girls?

reply to post by Druid42

You forgot to add
And I will go to work, look after the kids, cook, clean, wash up, take the bins out, decorate, buy your clothes, say nice things to your mother, pick your clothes up, buy my own presents from you, arrange Christmas, holidays, put petrol in the car as you forgot, make the bed.

reply to post by sussy


Ahem, it is amazing what men can do when they feel loved. Did I see laundry on your list?

You should see what a guy will do for his wife after a threesome...really, she had carte blanche for at least a week where I'd simply do anything for her!

Cook tonight? Ok, go to the store at midnight? Ok, clean up around the house? Ok...etc., etc.

If a guy is with a woman, she will be apt to notice if he checks out another woman too obviously. But my question is, do "third-party" women in public with no relationship to a guy notice if he checks out another woman?

Yeah, they do. Luckily, in my case, there's a decent chance my wife is checking her out too But yeah, I've been caught at it by her girlfriends on occasion...but I'm usually pretty discreet in my appreciation of the fairer sex. I think the only reason I get caught is because they notice the gal too, and then look to see if we are looking.

Originally posted by TinkerHaus
In my experience there are no real differences between men and women. (Except the obvious physical differences)

Hear, hear! It's just everyone's in and outy bits that causes all the confusion.

Not so fast...

One of the biggest differences is when men and women argue.

A woman wants to WIN an argument. A guy just wants the argument to be over and go back to "normal". The sooner guys learn this, the easier life gets with women.

The trick is though, you can't be seen pandering to the woman either...she has to genuinely believe she WON the argument because her points were better, etc.

I'm not saying to throw every battle, just concentrate on the big ones (like anything that affects a departure from things being "normal"), and the ones where you REALLY feel you're more in the right.

Originally posted by wigit

Originally posted by TinkerHaus
In my experience there are no real differences between men and women. (Except the obvious physical differences)

Hear, hear! It's just everyone's in and outy bits that causes all the confusion.

I respectfully disagree 100%.

Men and women have vastly different psychologies, developed through billions of years of evolution.

XX and XY chromosomes differ for men and women in every single cell of the body.

Obviously there is some common ground but there is a vast, wonderful difference in mind and spirit as well as body.

Viva la difference!

Originally posted by silent thunder
OK, here is a more down-to-earth question.

If a guy is with a woman, she will be apt to notice if he checks out another woman too obviously. But my question is, do "third-party" women in public with no relationship to a guy notice if he checks out another woman?

This has been a deep mystery to me since early adolescence.

I had a major wardrobe malfunction ten years ago (Honestly it doesn't happen all that often), but instead of going home a friend who worked at the place ran upstairs to get me some safety pins to do my dress up.
As I strode along the edge of the dance floor to meet him I noticed some guy nudge his mate and point, which is fair enough since I was in nothing more than my pants, bra, a dress reduced to a flappy coat and 9 inch white thigh length boots so I was fairly noticeable.

Anyway, this poor guy was only following his mates nudge, he would have been oblivious else, but he got a right royal whack across the chops by the wench who was standing next to him. Apparently it was his bride to be, as in bride to be the NEXT DAY!

Poor bloke really didn't deserve it.

[color=dodgerblue]My questions...

Why can't you pick your clothes up off of the floor?

Why can't you start your own load of laundry once in a while when you know I won't be home until late?

Why can't you change a diaper?

Why can't you leave me alone when I am trying to wash your dishes?

Why can't you let me have the tv remote sometimes?

Why do you fart in my bed and then get mad at me for spraying air freshener at you?!

Why can't you hear me talking when the tv is on? Why must the tv be sooooooo loud?

Why can't you empty your pockets?

Why do you smoke AND chew?

Why do you always take the last cold Dr. Pepper?

WHY?!

I guess these questions would be better directed towards my other half..

Originally posted by Gazrok
Not so fast...

One of the biggest differences is when men and women argue.

A woman wants to WIN an argument. A guy just wants the argument to be over and go back to "normal". The sooner guys learn this, the easier life gets with women.

[color=mediumorchid]I will admit that sometimes, I just want to argue. I have no idea why. It's almost as if I can't help it. And I want to win.

In a marriage, one of you gets to be right and the other one gets to be the husband

reply to post by daryllyn


Ok, this is somewhat tongue-in-cheek, but also honest....

Why can't you pick your clothes up off of the floor?

We always reserve the right to wear it again, and if so, we'll know right where to find it.

Why can't you start your own load of laundry once in a while when you know I won't be home until late?

The washer doesn't care what time it is...
(personally though, I actually do most of the laundry, as my wife has a bad back, and the baskets are heavy)

Why can't you change a diaper?

Because they are disgusting, and you whackos somehow think it's cute.

Why can't you leave me alone when I am trying to wash your dishes?

On some animal instinct level, turning your back to us means you are ready for action.

Why can't you let me have the tv remote sometimes?

Because you watch stupid things like Lifetime or Toddlers in Tiaras, etc..

Why do you fart in my bed and then get mad at me for spraying air freshener at you?!

Air Freshener is cold and wet.
(I don't subject my wife to this though)

Why can't you hear me talking when the tv is on? Why must the tv be sooooooo loud?

We like escapism, and can't multi-task all that well, eons of being focused on the hunt..so we honestly just don't hear you. Also, you may be mumbling versus actually speaking to us. Hint, say our name first, get a response, and THEN talk to us, and we'll hear you...

Why can't you empty your pockets?

See the answer to clothes. This way, we can find everything, why it's in the pockets from yesterday of course.

Why do you smoke AND chew?

Both are nasty habits, so I feel for you there. I imagine the chew is for times when he only has one hand (hard to light a cig with only one hand (none to cup for wind). Dip is also more "macho" so likely his buddies do it to, so he has to.

Why do you always take the last cold Dr. Pepper?

Because we're thirsty.
(I'm not dumb enough to take the last cold soda though. I just use ice and grab a warm one, and put a couple more in there...as I've had that fight too many times)

By and large, we're mostly selfish, simple creatures who want food, sex, sleep, and entertainment (and not necessarily in that order). However, we can be trained to think of others as well. Just like a pet or a child, it's all about rewards. Rewards for doing good things will reinforce the desired behavior. A kind word, a small kiss, etc. can go a long way.

reply to post by Gazrok

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We always reserve the right to wear it again, and if so, we'll know right where to find it.

It's super annoying. So.. STOP IT! Its called the 'clothes hamper'. Its a receptacle that holds dirty laundry until it's time to be washed.

The washer doesn't care what time it is... (personally though, I actually do most of the laundry, as my wife has a bad back, and the baskets are heavy)

You do laundry? That's awesome.

Because they are disgusting, and you whackos somehow think it's cute.

Nothing cute about diapers. I didn't mean poopy ones. Just in general. If you are sitting there doing nothing, and I am cooking your dinner, don't yell for me to come change a diaper.

On some animal instinct level, turning your back to us means you are ready for action.

It doesn't mean that. Not at all

Because you watch stupid things like Lifetime or Toddlers in Tiaras, etc..

Not I. I am a huge nerd. So I am more likely to watch discovery, science, history etc. New obsession: The Walking Dead.

Air Freshener is cold and wet. (I don't subject my wife to this though)

Please keep it that way. Its horrible. I always tell him that I don't wish to smell his 'butt wind'... which only makes him gassier.

See the answer to clothes. This way, we can find everything, why it's in the pockets from yesterday of course.

I prefer to keep the sharpie markers OUT of the washer. Money is okay though. Yes. Leave the money, take out the permanent markers.

Because we're thirsty. (I'm not dumb enough to take the last cold soda though. I just use ice and grab a warm one, and put a couple more in there...as I've had that fight too many times)

I wonder how long it will be until he learns? I swear he thinks its funny if I am mad..

reply to post by daryllyn


Ok, now the advice...

It's super annoying. So.. STOP IT! Its called the 'clothes hamper'. Its a receptacle that holds dirty laundry until it's time to be washed.

If in the hamper with other dirty clothes, then you can't wear it (or find it quickly) again. Seriously, this is our thinking with it. Now, for me, I wouldn't wear a shirt (outside the house) twice, but slacks or jeans? If you designate a chair or something, it will it at least keep them off the floor.

You do laundry? That's awesome.

Thanks, I don't want her doing heavy lifting, Now, she'll fold and sort it...but I take it out, run the machines, etc. You can always appeal to his manliness, and say that you can't carry it out there. Then, slowly work into doing more steps of it.

Nothing cute about diapers. I didn't mean poopy ones. Just in general. If you are sitting there doing nothing, and I am cooking your dinner, don't yell for me to come change a diaper.

I really wouldn't want you cooking if also messing with baby poop...so yeah, he needs to step up there, if just in the interest of hygiene! Tell him about some story you read about the amount of fecal matter in food, etc. and he may just see it your way and let you keep cooking...

It doesn't mean that. Not at all

We know, we just can't help it for some reason. I really don't have advice for this other than to try and do it while he's occupied (like watching TV).

Not I. I am a huge nerd. So I am more likely to watch discovery, science, history etc. New obsession: The Walking Dead.

I married another nerd too, so yeah, most of the time, she and I watch the same shows. I too love Walking Dead. But, every now and then, I'll see her watching Toddlers and Tiaras, or Gray's Anatomy, or some other sappy bullcrap... Solution is to get another, universal remote, and then you BOTH have one.

Please keep it that way. Its horrible. I always tell him that I don't wish to smell his 'butt wind'... which only makes him gassier.

I have never understood the fascination most of my gender has with their own flatulence. Thank goodness. Get an air freshener that really is distasteful to him and use that every time. Eventually, he'll avoid it, just to avoid THAT smell.

I prefer to keep the sharpie markers OUT of the washer. Money is okay though. Yes. Leave the money, take out the permanent markers.

Leave them in (for his clothes) and wash it once, and when he sees he has to shell out money for new clothes, it will be the end of that habit! Appeal to his wallet, and he'll see the picture.

I wonder how long it will be until he learns? I swear he thinks its funny if I am mad..

Always HIDE a cold soda, somewhere in the fridge he won't ever look.