How to get over my ex-girlfriend, anyone have personal stories or experience that can help?

Can anyone tell me how they have recovered from a break up? My gf dumped me around 6 months ago and I still sometimes think about her, although I have dated other chicks, time has definitely been my friend but I would like to know opinions on how everyone else got through this? Thanks a lot and much appreciated!

I just went through a 4 year relationship break-up. First thing is to cut off all communication, get drunk and go to the bar.... Find a couple rebound girls, and a couple more. Continue this for three months, then, proceed to looking at yourself in the mirror and seeing you need to start shaving, eating, working out again.

Once you have established that you look like a bag of feces, get back into the rhythm of things and build yourself up. Focus on positive hobbies and whatnot that makes you feel good about yourself. Within two months you will have enough self confidence to start talking to normal, balanced, self-confident girls that you can respect. No more need for flaky ones.

Then enjoy yourself. Life is good.

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Oh, and whatever you do... Don't become a stalker...

Like this guy did...

just do what you enjoy, as long as you do what you enjoy. you'll be happy and the rest will sort itself out.

just do what you enjoy, as long as you do what you enjoy. you'll be happy and the rest will sort itself out.

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I know your pain. I met a girl about a year and a half ago, we talked and had a great relationship. July 5th last year we actually started "dating" and made it all "official" and stuff. Well, that lasted about 6 months. This was the girl I really thought about marrying. The break up sucked, a lot. But, with time I managed to get over it and ease into talking with more and more of the ladies. Eventually I realized that it was best to move on, no matter how great I thought it was to be in the relationship I was in.

You will find peace with what happened, and time will continue to be your friend. But, take the opportunity when you're comfortable to get back out there and at least talk to people and you'll find that it helps. That doesn't mean go date, just go talk!

you probably kept your arms, legs and head in place, that's the important part.
soul and heart will heal.

books, summer reads, can be a pretty nice cure for soul and heart. back in september a whole new year will be opening full of unexpected things, full of girls that you dont know yet you'll meet and guess what? you will be free to engage or try or talk because you'll be -on the positive side- on your own and free to decide!

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Its never gonna be easy but, like Boncho said; lots of booze and finding someone new go a long way toward making the pain go away.

If only it was that easy to make my pain go away. BTW, if you get married, don't ever let her hear you call her that.

Originally posted by boncho
I just went through a 4 year relationship break-up. First thing is to cut off all communication, get drunk and go to the bar.... Find a couple rebound girls, and a couple more. Continue this for three months, then, proceed to looking at yourself in the mirror and seeing you need to start shaving, eating, working out again.

Once you have established that you look like a bag of feces, get back into the rhythm of things and build yourself up. Focus on positive hobbies and whatnot that makes you feel good about yourself. Within two months you will have enough self confidence to start talking to normal, balanced, self-confident girls that you can respect. No more need for flaky ones.

Then enjoy yourself. Life is good.

Wow, props to you my friend, mine only lasted like a year and a half, but I'm a lot better now, I found out she's talking to some other dude that I know already like 2 months after our break up, I wouldn't care if she hooked up but damn moving on so quick really stumped me.

I really wish I had the time to work out, med school is a bitch and I think that may have been the reason why she left, who knows. But yeah, I definitely need a drink, BIGTIME!

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Excellent song lmao ahhahaha

I'd rather just not jump into a relationship that quick, I'll get owned again by another chick ahhh!

Originally posted by boncho
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Oh, and whatever you do... Don't become a stalker...

Like this guy did...

That's hilarious hahaa, nah I would never become a stalker, everyone has a right to their own privacy, I got rid of her off of my facebook and I vowed never to go on her facebook again, I know it will only accelerate everything and I would eventually fall into oblivion.

My ex and I have been separated now for 4 years and I still have a tough time with it. It is totally normal, when you love someone, to have a tough time with it. What I did was surround myself with friends and had a good time. It took some of the thinking away but not all the time. DON'T jump into something without getting over your ex first, it will only lead to disaster bro! Good luck man and I hope you get through it.

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Na you hit em and quit em... No disrespect ladies

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Hmm, yeah I feel ya, I know time always heals everything but damn dude, women are really flippin brain terrorists I swear to God.

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Thanks a lot for the post! I really wish I had time for reading, but med school is a pain in the ass ahha

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Wow, props to you my friend, mine only lasted like a year and a half, but I'm a lot better now, I found out she's talking to some other dude that I know already like 2 months after our break up, I wouldn't care if she hooked up but damn moving on so quick really stumped me.

I really wish I had the time to work out, med school is a bitch and I think that may have been the reason why she left, who knows. But yeah, I definitely need a drink, BIGTIME!

Chances are, is her talking to the new guys is her form of rebound. I wouldn't take it to heart.

And if you are in medschool, then..

to you...

Life will get better my friend, just you wait. Relax a bit, lighten up and enjoy the small stuff.

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Thanks dude, you're the man, yeah that's what I was thinking too, I realized chicks usually start talking to a guy after a breakup usually as a rebound, oh well, I'm gonna take the advice of another member and just "deny ignorance." It's a simple philosophical statement that just clicked in my head right now lol

Originally posted by Unvarnished
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Hmm, yeah I feel ya, I know time always heals everything but damn dude, women are really flippin brain terrorists I swear to God.

Ha I hear ya! My ex is da Devil! She is meaner than a cornered grizzly bear. I agree with the above post, hit it n leave em and ya don't get hurt.

It is tough Love yourself stay busy.Bars seemed to make me more lonely.Start a new hobby via music art woodworking anything you always wanted to try DO IT there are 3 billion women on the planet make yourself better for the next one.Cry when you need to it helps pray for peace.It will happen again just be patient i have had some heartbreaks that took years to come to terms with Stay sober if you can drinking and drugs wont help

Mmm, all of the above is pretty good advice but there are only three real ways to make sure you get over her:

1) Lobotomy

or

2) Castration

or

3) Lobotomy and Castration

I guarantee you, after that not only will you be over your ex but you will never have your heart broken again.