Need help tracing someone in UK

Sorry for cutting straight to the point, but not really in the mood for this, just need help.

I believe my wife is cheating, I have found messages, she says there just messages and nothing happened, messages started 6 months ago, he filed for divorce from his wife 6 months ago, my wife had spreadsheets and copies of his pay slips, the spreadsheets basically outlined his budget and solicitor things......I question my wife, she said as she uses DROPBOX ??? and because she is a shared user, whatever files he puts on his pc automatically go to hers. Hopefully someone can enlighten me on this.
One part of the spreadsheet has monthly expenditure and lists a £600 p/m property in a small village not far away and also gas,water,electric and cable costs, when questioned about this she tells me "no he was going to move there, but didnt, he moved ....... with his dad (this guy is on £ 67,000 a year and is in mid 40's)

Any way the reason im suspicious is because one of the messages from not long ago says about looking at broadband deals together, included is a link for a comparison site.....this is where she fu**ed up because she left the postcode in the link which I checked on google maps and is the exact place listed in the spreadsheet.

Also I managed to get into her email account and there was a message from amazon about a posh cutlery set.....she says she was buying it for this guy as he didnt have credit card ???.....she has answers for everything.

Now the IMPORTANT part, does anyone know of a way of finding out who lives in a certain address....what I mean is, I have this postcode and I know his name but after days of searching the net can not find out if he does live in said place and she's lying (again) or she's telling the truth.....dont know who else to ask, hope someone can help.

shes cheating bro

shes gona leave you when shes got what she can,if i was you id cut her off now,
id leave her before she does it to you bro, you will be more hurt in the long run if you dont
im only saying this because i have been there.
good luck on your decisions....dave

reply to post by KingAMARU


Find the street by typing the postcode into google maps. Then early one morning go a knocking door to door. Whoever answers ask to speak to the guy. If you find the right house and the guy comes to the door ask him if he's f***ing your wife.

Dont mean to be blunt but its one way to find out for sure, either that or you could do a stake out. If you're convinced she is seeing him then see if she goes round if she does then you know. You cant go on together with suspicious minds, deal with this one bro. hopefully you're wrong.
peace

dude, only bad things will come of this

i could give you paragraphs and paragraphs of anecdotes and incidents, but the best piece of advice i can give is go with your gut instinct, your intuition whatever you wanna call it, that is always right

best of luck old chap, it's gonna get rough...

EDIT - + what davesmart said. his name is surprisingly accurate (unless the dave part is a lie?)

Slip the post man a £5'er and he will tell you....

Just be careful man, breaking into your wifes e-mail account is illegal, although I don't exactly know the legality in UK.

I've used a digital dropbox for collaborative school projects before, does she have any business with this guy? Are they co-workers?

Maybe tracking this guy down at this point wouldn't be the best thing to do. I could give you some advice but what's your intention? Are you looking to simply comfront him on the issue? And if you do, wouldn't you expect lies?

You could use the more orthodox ways mate or you can use something like this.

www.youtube.com...

It's a physical tracker with a 30-day free trial, I personally haven't used it however I'm pretty sure it could do you some good if you stashed it away hidden in her handbag or something, just be sure to conceal it mate!

I need help also...I would like to find a young lady here at ATS that is single, widowed or divorced that would like to come live here with me in N.C. ....lol...... everything will be paid for and she can sit back and take it easy....I know if she is a member here at ATS she is probably a knowledgeable lady and knows how to take care of herself and has a mind of her own.....No trolls please....lol......ATS Dating Service......we might need to add this as a Topic....

Just keep copies of everything you have found so far.

emails, letters, etc....

At least if you're right she won't get half if you can prove she's been cheating.

Honestly bro, if my girl/or wife said she's buying some dude something because he has no CC?? somethings not right there. That alone is not right.

good luck.

reply to post by davesmart


I forgot to mention that she also set up a bank account in her own name because I found the letter from the bank, so the day after I found the messages I went to the bank set up an account and moved half the money......she was not expecting that !!
She has since moved the other half from joint account into her own, its been nearly a week and only today has she shown any emotion or guilt....she says she's sorry for writing the messages but thats all they were and never meant to hurt me, but my gut is telling me that something more than messages went on.
I told her last night that I want a divorce.

reply to post by MrSpiderMonkey


Thanks spidermonkey, I was actually planning on going there tomoro night after work, because she's apparently working again this weekend.....I know which area its in and know his vehicle, just worried what i'll do if I see them together.

reply to post by Artanis667


He works in a different department but is a manager, Ive known of him for a few years but because of his age never really thought much of it....my wife is 30 and he is mid 40's......To be honest I want to know for a fact where he lives because so far the only way ive got any truth is by searching for it myself, and im sure she's lying again.
She says thje messages are just that, and dont mean anything but she was telling him she loves him and cant wait to see him and hes doing the same......he even sent her a link to a mobile porn vid, which said "for when rob is not around"......wtf, so yeah I need to get to the bottom of this, and im not planning on doing anything to him, cos then they win.

reply to post by SadButTrue


Thats what I thought, if someone asked me to do that, id ask the misses because its a joint account.
Things just aint adding up.

reply to post by Caji316



Yeah nice one !!! maybe you try my wife, she'd probably be game.

reply to post by Wulfric


Cheers pal, I'll check that out

Originally posted by DeadpoolPete
dude, only bad things will come of this

i could give you paragraphs and paragraphs of anecdotes and incidents, but the best piece of advice i can give is go with your gut instinct, your intuition whatever you wanna call it, that is always right

best of luck old chap, it's gonna get rough...

EDIT - + what davesmart said. his name is surprisingly accurate (unless the dave part is a lie?)

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edit on 12-5-2011 by DeadpoolPete because: (no reason given)

no my name is dave lol

reply to post by DeadpoolPete


Thanks, I appreciate you saying that, im really confused at the mo but I know deep down what I have to do, and this southern comfort is quite comforting

reply to post by Caji316


I guess at least you would be thinking along the same lines and not being called a nut

Hire a private investigator if you can afford one. You'll get all the proof you need. If you can't afford it, you follow him home from work to find out where he lives, maybe do a background check.

reply to post by tinker9917


Cheers for the suggestion but gonna have to do this on my own, was just hoping someone might have some tips.