reply to post by Epiphron
A lot of the comments in this thread remind me of the time my company and I were sued over polo and rugby shirts.
In the 80's I was working for a very conservative, large financial services firm in NYC. It was a suit and tie, polished wing-tip kind of place.
They decided to adopt a casual day on specific days a year. Friday after Thanksgiving, the day before 4th of July, if it did not fall on a weekend,
Christmas Eve and the day after Christmas, about 5 in all. We had a dress code for those days that specified that men needed to wear a collared
shirt on those casual days. No t-shirts no jeans.
A gent comes in wearing a T-shirt and jeans on one of these days and I pull him aside and tell him that he can't wear that. Its OK today and I'm
guessing that he forgot, but the next time he needs to abide by the code.
The next casual day rolls around. A couple of days prior, I send out a note with the dress code attached. The day comes and he wears a t-shirt
and jeans again. I pull him aside and ask him if he did not understand the code and tell him that he would have to leave the office for the day,
since it was the second time and he had been reminded specifically about the code. He was a salaried employee, so he essentially was going to get a
free day off.
He tells me that the code is racist. That where he lives folks don't wear collared shirts and by having that code, I was forcing a "preppy, white
man's world" on him and that its not fair to force him to go out and pay for a shirt when all of the white and asian folks have those shirts already
and don't have to spend more money to comply with the code. I tell him that the code is the code and that he is more than welcome to wear a suit on
those days and not spend any money. I also tell him that he is welcome to wear a work shirt and a pair of slacks, no jacket and no tie and that's
cool as well, which a bunch of folks did anyway.
A week later I get the notice that I'm being sued. That I was enforcing a policy that compromised racial identity and was forcing conformance to a
policy that was counter to this gent's "group identity".
The settlement was that the casual day was eliminated. 8,000 folks not allowed to have a couple of casual days because this dude found collars
objectionable.
Why is this related to the name business? Because however you view it, conformance is a part of life. If you want to give your a kid a name that
identifies him as a part of a group, you are lumping him with that group and you should assume that the attributes of that group will be attributed to
them. You are doing them a disservice. You are certainly not, if you give him a traditional name that identifies with an ethnic background.
I've hired folks with Celtic names, traditional Asian names and traditional African names. I find those names interesting and I think it is
terrific to be proud of your heritage. A name that identifies you with a subculture that, in many cases has values that folks of all stripes find
objectionable is not doing your child any favors and to suggest otherwise is immature. To suggest that folks are not going to at least consider the
attributes of that subculture when looking at a resume without the benefit of actually meeting the person, is absurd. Being Latino, Korean or
African is not a sub culture and I would agree 100% that to disgard a resume with a traditional name that identifies him with a specific race is
racist and absolutely objectionable. This is not that. This is the identifcation with a cultural subgroup, the association with is entirely
voluntary. There is a fundamental difference.
I have a good friend of mine who is a powerhouse corporate attorney. I've known him for years and he goes by the first name, L.C. After knowing
him about 3 years I learn that his real name is LaChantre. I ask him why he goes by L.C. and he laughs and responds "why do you think?". I'm a
successful attorney and successful attorneys are not named LaChantre.