reply to post by silo13
Where in my post did I label anyone, anything? I did not. YOUR MIND led you to a conclusion that was NOT intended at all. So if anyone needs to
stop thinking like a neanderthal...
The light of day is dawning finally...I wondered how long it would take.
So, 'in your experience' it doesn't work?
You care to elaborate on your 'experience' with rehabilitation?
You wondered how long what would take then? What, that I admitted to the socially stigmatized fact that I have seen a counselor at some point in my
life? What about me seeing a therapist (or not, since CBT methods ae available free online) makes "The light of day finally break"?
If you weren't assuming that I was a pedophile, why would you assume that my therapy had ANYTHING to do with rehabilitation?
CBT is, as I said, used for many things. It is not all rehabilitation, it is, however, coping methods to deal with whatever life throws at you.
Life throws sadness at me, and urges at pedophiles. Both can be dealt with in most cases.
And in answer to your question, my experience with CBT did not succeed because the entirety is based on working through what you were thinking at the
time of whatever incident occurred. I have little to no memory of the moments in which I feel the worst, and therefore cannot tell the therapist "How
I felt" or "what I was thinking about" when I said things that informed others I was upset. If you do not have thoughts that lead to actions, you
cannot stop them. Most molesters have THOUGHTS of molesting children before they do it. So the therapist could, for example, remind them to see what
emotional toll it would have on that person, see themselves being put into prison for breaking the law, visualize it all. That usually makes them
stop. This is not an opinion, but a medically reviewed fact.
I do not have thoughts that LEAD to sadness, in most cases, therefore I was not an ideal patient for such a therapy. I simply have constant sadness
that is not "caused" by anything anyone can identify, which most likely means it is entirely chemical
Why? Because it's in MY personal experience 'counselors' and 'therapists' don't have a clue.
They know their books, but have not one clue to the 'real world'... (Prime example? That you'd never even heard about infant rape).
And how many counselors and therapists have you seen? Counselors are not really adequate, one can call themselves a "counselor" with just a bachelor's
degree in anything, not even medical or psychological degree. You could get a bachelor's degree in math and call yourself a counselor.
Therapists have to have a master's degree, again, in any subject, to call themselves such.
PSYCHIATRISTS have to have what is really equivalent to a medical degree, only they study just the one body part. They need a doctorate in psychiatry
to call themselves such, and hence have gone through 7-10 years of school in the field of psychiatry.
And yes, I have HEARD of infant rape. I never said it NEVER happened. I said that it was unfair to declare that EVERY pedophile and child molester can
and will rape a baby to death, because statistically speaking, less than 1% of convicted child molesters or child rapists have raped a baby. Proof?
You found a maximum of 2 articles per year, and there are over 4000 molesters arrested each year.
And how is my perceived lack of knowledge related to an EXPERT's level of knowledge? I am a patient, not a therapist of any sort, of course I do not
know as much as the average expert in the field.
"That being said, now that you've 'come out' about who and what you are, why don't you for ONCE just for ONCE give us a LINK to all you purport to be
true? "
Excuse me?
WHO AND WHAT I AM?
Why is it that I, not you, have to give links? Most of what I have said has come from YOUR websites, YOUR links. I have never used google as a source,
I simply gave you a link to a google search for what you claimed was so common, to make it so you and your "SLOW COMPUTER" could skip two steps in the
process of attempting to prove your point.
So here. A government website resource for you, since you expect me to believe your rate of one in four little girls getting sexually abused without
evidence, but don't believe a word I say unless it is backed up by a useless little website.
www.publicsafety.gc.ca...
And here, let me quote it for you. Seems otherwise you would skim over the things that disprove you, just as you did with the last page of stats you
quoted.
"The initial follow-up of the child molesters found that 42% were reconvicted of a sexual or violent crime during the 15-30 year follow-up period."
(since the majority of sex offenders are in their late 30s and early 40s, we can assume that by the time this follow-up period is done, so will the
molesters. Hard to chase a kid down when you're 70 years old.
"Not all child molesters recidivated at the same rate. The highest rate of recidivism (77%) was for those with previous sexual offenses, who selected
extrafamilial boy victims, and who were never married. In contrast, the long-term recidivism rate for the low risk offenders was less than 20%. "
"Although the long-term recidivism rates for the child molesters were substantial, the recidivism rates for the nonsexual criminals were even higher,
61% versus 83.2%, respectively, for any reconviction."
So no, other criminals are more likely to re-offend than molesters and sexual predators.
I know that wasn't you who last said that they had a higher rate, but I am hoping the person who did say it is reading this.
Oh.
And just below that, it says that sexual offenders are only 35% likely to be arrested again FOR SOMETHING SEX RELATED.
Other arrests are completely unrelated to children and sex, and are therefore not useful. A molester branding won't stop someone from refusing to pay
their taxes, or from robbing a store, or any other non-child-related crime, only (in your opinion) the crimes in which they molest another child. So
keep that statistic in mind. That means only (about) 1/3 of then re-offend ever.
Names are at the bottom, don't expect me to list names in this thread when you don't. The burden of proof, after all, falls on the one who claims.
Which is you, right now, you are claiming that this would help, and I am saying "well no, it won't" and you have only used your opinion to show that
it will. Your opinion that pedophiles cannot stop themselves, your opinion that they will not resort to violence to get what they "cannot stop
themselves" from doing.
Google, by the way, is a search engine. The websites listed on it have their very own set of credits and bibliographies at the bottom of their own
page. You used a search engine to find news reports of babies raped, so why can't I use google to find resources on my subjects?
You know who else lists their sources at the bottom of the page?
Wikipedia.
en.wikipedia.org...
Behavior modification programs have been shown to reduce recidivism in sex offenders.[7]
7. ^ Marshall, W.L., Jones, R., Ward, T., Johnston, P. & Bambaree, H.E.(1991). Treatment of sex offenders. Clinical Psychology Review, 11, 465-485
Here is the link the the only thing available online describing that article.
www.sciencedirect.com...
rch&_sort=d&_docanchor=&view=c&_searchStrId=1498546133&_rerunOrigin=google&_acct=C000050221&_version=1&_urlVersion=0&_userid=10&md5=a71eeaa2acc6abe9a3
7e50477976f90c&searchtype=a
"In examining the value of the different approaches, we concluded that comprehensive
cognitive/behavioral programs (at least for child
molesters, incest offenders, and exhibitionists) are most likely to be effective"
So, phone one of these people then I suppose, since there is NO WAY this kind of information would legally be put online. The authors are at the top,
and at the bottom it directs you to contact someone at Queen's University.
Bold is my own, to show how even without a link, I know what I am talking about, knowing many mental health professionals who went through school very
recently and have up-to-date information due to only being out of school a couple of years.
You know what it literally impossible to view online?
Psychologist and Psychiatrist's evaluations of patients.
Why? Oh yeah, it is illegal to share that information.
So no, I cannot show you actual case records of situations in which it helped, only professionals saying it did. They are not legally allowed to lie,
and while some psychologists occasionally fib results, it is usually on useless subjects such as the nature-v-nurture debate, one prominent faker was
the study which "showed" twins separated at birth grew up to be remarkably similar adults in terms of beliefs and personality. Turns out those people
never actually existed, and he was found out as a fraud VERY quickly. This is from 1991 and has yet to be refuted.
More stuff to disprove your "facts", as anyone can disprove anyone else's "facts" simply by looking at a different study.
www.leadershipcouncil.org...
"For instance, the National Women's Study surveyed a representative sample of over 4,000 adult women in the United States . Three hundred forty-one
(8.5%) of these women were victims of at least one rape prior to the age of 18"
8.5% = 8/100 4/50 2/25 1/12
One out of twelve is NOT one out of four. Not even close.
"2 - When you QUOTE another persons words USE THE QUOTE FUNCTION.
And no, those are not my rules, but ATS's."
Then report me. If clicking "reply to" is not sufficient, have a moderator tell me so, not you, who is using it as an excuse for leaving out your
responses to my MOST useful points. I find it odd that you only miss the most important point in the entire post, each and every time. You never miss
something mundane or small, only the biggest point.
And am I really supposed to click "quote this" 10 times and edit it down each and every time to the exact sentence I want to quote, or once I have
provided proof that it is you I am quoting and I quote accurately each time, are simple empty lines and quote marks useable? I have already shown that
I have not misquoted, and if you think I have, you can click on where it links to the post I am quoting and see it yourself. Let me show you exactly
how flawed your idea that the quoting system is so perfect:
Originally posted by silo13
I have a big huge head and it is purple for some reason. Rainbows and puppies. This is a fake quote. I am making a point.
Did you say it? No. Was I able to make it LOOK like you said it? Certainly. It took me less than 30 seconds.
Edit to Add:
Oh look. If you weren't being rude, why was your post removed?
In my experience, mods don't jump to conclusions here when moderating. They look at the facts, and if they think it is needlessly offensive, then they
remove it. You may not have MEANT to imply it, but it certainly did imply it.
You have said that I am name calling, and I truly believe I have not been. That doesn't mean that you are not affected by it or that it wasn't in some
way insulting, it means that it was accidental. Not that it was "my fault" for seeing that or "that other person's fault" for calling you out on it,
or "your fault" for thinking what I said was picking on you.
Here is the difference between us, though.
You said "You did this inappropriate thing"
I suggested you point out where I did so, so I could avoid doing so again.
I said "You did this inappropriate thing"
You responded with NO I DIDN'T NO I DIDN'T IT'S YOU YOUR FAULT ALL YOUR FAULT.
I don't think someone with that mindset should be allowed to suggest laws, personally. I think the people who suggest laws should do so from a
rational mindset, and willing to look at and accept all facts given to them.
edit on 14-10-2010 by BiohazardsBack because: add something