"the good guy" experiment *FUN*

Originally posted by The Quiet Storm
so in the end, who's fault is it?

When you've done the best you can, but nobody, not one girl wants to see the truth in you?

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you think i felt any different before 2 months?
told you man,even now alot of the new friends im trying to make from germany on facebook,wont write. i guess most of them are just cold people,who need to know you first. or some are like the people here,living to try to be cool,ignoring and living theyr illusion of cool life.

even the one girl that still writes and waits for me,even she was sometimes bitter in the beggining. i though she will start to ignore me like the rest,couse im always very good to her,like im a brainwashed zombie. but she didnt,she finds it nice and likes it.

that were good,it dosnt mean were angels everyday,i enjoy being evil or doing bad stuff sometimes. couse you know even when i started my cool job,i asked some girls to go out with me couse im lonely,and they rejected me on purpose couse theyr "busy"
only to make me feel bad,thats right,bad people want others to feel like them.

maybe you need to search for more grown up women,when they turn 20-22 most of them start to see whats real love,man that love you,thats good to you,that has dreams and makes your life adventuruos,or sometimes they just fall in love for nothing.

but the good part is, we,man never age. we always look stunning^^ if we dont become fat,and most of women only have theyr looks,they dont realise theres lots more to love,and when they start to get old,game over for them!

if u ask me,i can wait for a female robot/clone,that will show all those shallow women that theyr nothing (: and you can buy sex,but we want more then that...

in my case i enjoy watching them all suffer now, they can pretend they dont like me all they want, i have a succesfull career,i have money,im moving out of this dump to get even richer,become a freemason,do charity,raise a family,have a adoring wife to take on vacations and change the world,live around better people.
they can all SUCK ON THAT,couse im just 20,and theyr life are ruined,they have no future,let them dont like me,i dont like em either,my woman is better then them.
and best of all im a smart geek who also isnt ugly but kinda cute
wow i made an incredibly hatefull comment XD
so i guess focus on making your life better man,and make sure to show them how pathetic they are,it will keep you amused,until you find the one for you

besides everyone have needs,if i can just go to the local public house,why would i need to chase women? i would only focus on finding the one that is a future wife.

in my case i enjoy watching them all suffer now, they can pretend they dont like me all they want, i have a succesfull career,i have money,im moving out of this dump to get even richer,become a freemason,do charity,raise a family,have a adoring wife to take on vacations and change the world,live around better people.
they can all SUCK ON THAT,couse im just 20,and theyr life are ruined,they have no future,let them dont like me,i dont like em either,my woman is better then them.
and best of all im a smart geek who also isnt ugly but kinda cute
wow i made an incredibly hatefull comment XD
so i guess focus on making your life better man,and make sure to show them how pathetic they are,it will keep you amused,until you find the one for you

You don't think that maybe this negative attitude radiates off of you?

Whatever you may think of women, they will sniff that out in a heartbeat, and go heading for the hills.

It's nice to have goals, but better to have them for the right reasons... Good luck to you, in any event, as I do truly hope you find what you are (really) looking for, as it will only make one a better person for it....

reply to post by Stillalive


We're friends, right? I have to tell you that I've not known whether to laugh or cry at some of your posts, and those of Quiet Storm.

Have either of you any idea of the mixed messages you're sending out? Honestly, I think you need your heads knocking together

If I've got this right, neither of you want to be bothered being friends with girls but you don't accept that they are perfectly entitled not to want to bother sleeping with you.

You both admit to being lacking in confidence and / or social graces, but you expect young women to have these qualities down to a fine art to enable them to interact with you.

You get fed-up when they show a preference for another male, but if they decided they preferred you they'd better not 'come across' too soon or they will be labelled as too easy.

You don't want to do anything for them because rather than being seen as an act of kindness or generosity it may be perceived as weakness. So you'll be prepared to sit on your butts all day and let them struggle. Thus ensuring that they never want to do anything sweet or kind for you.

Oh, and you're both nice guys who don't mean it really but you think women should be treated with aggression and / or they are viewed with great anger for all their faults and their lack of perception that you are good guys.

This is what I am perceiving from your posts - am I right so far?

Please, both of you read this:
en.wikipedia.org...

Then have a go at this:
en.wikipedia.org...

[edit on 22-4-2010 by berenike]

I never said I didn't want female friends.

I in fact do want them. But it's not my fault that even 'lower than average' girls do not even want to talk to me, even when I do show them approval and attention. They expect me to be like some superman or something?

I'll be looking straight at them, and wait for them to look at me so I can say hello. Or we really have to be in some kind of special situation for me to say hello if she isn't looking because otherwise it tends to come across as either needy or pushing it or perverted unless you've got something to say. Trust me, Hi is not what girls want to hear. They want some super social butterfly type of guy who can work the entire city if he could, tell her fascinating stories and be the alpha male social leader type. Why? Social thrills? Even if that guy is a dick, or tells nasty jokes.

I dont blame you though. You're not the only one to misunderstand me. Anyone who's not gone through what I have will likely misunderstand me and reject my views simply because they dont have first hand experience of exactly what I went through and then go on to judge me and call me a bunch of names, even if I'm right.

[edit on 22-4-2010 by The Quiet Storm]

It's not my fault people dont like to hear the truth when it is something hard to accept.

I mean, if nobody said the truth then nothing would ever change, nothing would ever get done. If we only spoke of the 'positive'. Sure we can change negative into positive but denial and neglect doesn't get us anywhere. It will sooner or later pop up and when it does it will be stronger than before.

reply to post by The Quiet Storm


Please, please don't think I want to call you names or judge you.

I'm at a loss as to how to help you and I'm so concerned that someone, especially as young as you, should be so isolated.

I tried a humourous approach (which obviously hasn't worked) and I hoped to provide some information that would help you.

Of course I don't know what you've been through but somehow you've got to rise above it. It can be hard pulling yourself up by your bootstraps but you have to try.

For those of us who have mis-understood you, me in particular, would you be able to make what you mean a bit clearer? I'm not asking for a blow-by-blow account of what has happened, but you can be a bit cryptic sometimes

[edit on 22-4-2010 by berenike]

afcourse were friends XD i respect berenike very much.
whatever anger i had it was focused on the girls from my town/country
i was younger,i wanted a girl who loves me,and i always landed on the meanyest beasts around
i guess the mixed signals come from my by-polar-ness.
so i hope no one gets offended by my posts. i didnt want to brag with my accomplishments like..im bad guy,you know what i meant.
like when your girlfriend is jealous of her dumping her,and she starts rubbing it in your face going with other guys...
whats bad with kissing infront of some girl that didnt like you before,it would be funny for me,even though not "mature" i usualy get pretty bored doing things like this so i dont really do it.
that being sayd im trying to help my mate here,by explaining him the bitter moments i had to go through.

and about that "women sense when you hate something about them,and they make it into explosions!" yea i know XD some are so angry at the world,even if you try to be perfect they will still criticise you.

and lets hear a good story,couse i like to think of this as a "healing thread"
before 2-3 weeks,i wanted to write with some girl from my past. a girl i goed on a date once,then she slowly turned into mean-cold queen who will ignore and hate you for no reason - the kind that sucks the good energy from people.

i used to write with her,sometimes just bored and i writed jokes to her,sometimes i wanted to flirt a little. she treated me like i was plague.

so i stoped writing to her lol XD and before 2-3 weeks i decided i needed to get someone and teach him about my work so he can replace me,since im moving out of this country. it would be a win win situacion! i though...
my boss will be happy that i care for the company,i would teach someone,i would have "manager" skills.and i will do a good dead^^

now at this point i didnt even want to see a bulgarian girl, i only decided to do it for the above reasons,not FOR SEX!

so the responce was pretty much "a i dont know,i will see (;" and "why dont you start a blog instead of writing to me"

btw at this time bulgaria has NO JOB OPENINGS the best she can do is work at mcdonalds. my job on the other hand is like elite,i do retouch on photoshop/models all day,while watching youtube and look pretty.

but i guess this super easy job with a future wasnt enough for her,heck i should start a blog instead to write to her,i suck huh?

my point is,sense people like this from the begining (man/woman) if they start to treat you like that,dump them RIGHT AWAY

and now you know why i can be a little BITTER sometimes berenike^^
couse before that was my life 24/7 every girl i met was like this.
what would i think of women,if i havent met a girl who is kind to me?

I'f been looking at quotes on women from people like LORD BYRON, KATHARINE HEPBURN, and FRIEDRICH NIETZSCHE. And this one strikes me as the wisest.

Every woman should have four pets in her life. A mink in her closet, a jaguar in her garage, a tiger in her bed, and a jackass who pays for everything. PARIS HILTON

It seems that they want it all and if they cant get that, then the next best thing. Also I read this online some years ago, thought it was funny and close to the reality most men have on women.

When I was 14, all I wanted was a girl with big tits.When I was 16, I dated a girl with big tits, but there was no passion.

So I decided I needed a passionate girl with a zest for life.In college, I dated a passionate girl, but she was too emotional. Everything was an emergency; she was a drama queen, cried all the time and threatened suicide.

So I decided I needed a girl with some stability.When I was 25, I found a very stable girl, but she was boring.

She was totally predictable and never got excited about anything. Life became so dull that I decided I needed a girl with some excitement.

When I was 28, I found an exciting girl, but I couldn’t keep up with her. She rushed from one thing to another, never settling on anything. She did mad, impetuous things and flirted with everyone she met. She made me miserable as often as happy. She was great fun initially and very energetic, but directionless.

So I decided to find a girl with some ambition.When I turned 31, I found a smart, ambitious girl with her feet planted firmly on the ground and married her. She was so ambitious that she divorced me and took everything I owned.

Now I am 42, and all I want is a girl with big tits.

moral of the story damed if I know. I just wanted to put some male perspective on it so the whining stops, lifes to short to wory abouth things that you most likely have little control of. I dont think there is such things as nice guys or the right girl. Love who your with.

thanks mate,your posts really means alot. its really important to meet the right girl,and im really scared to not end up divorced too

reply to post by berenike


You give good advice berenike! I just hope it doesn't fall on deaf ears!

Originally posted by Stillalive
and now you know why i can be a little BITTER sometimes berenike^^
couse before that was my life 24/7 every girl i met was like this.
what would i think of women,if i havent met a girl who is kind to me?

You know, if anyone could be bitter in this life it would be me.

BUT, I've just had to accept that I'm a lousy judge of character plus I've had a bit (!) of bad luck with my family.

I've had to take the knocks on the chin and try and learn from them.

What great pearls of wisdom have I learnt, you ask.

Well, never to expect anything from anyone and then be nicely surprised if they come through for me.

You'll be alright. You have a lot of self-awareness and a willingness to learn. I've thought more than once that one day you'll find someone who will appreciate you.

You get fed-up when they show a preference for another male, but if they decided they preferred you they'd better not 'come across' too soon or they will be labelled as too easy.

Virgins and single guys need easy women like a car needs gas....


There's no law saying your first time (or your first time in a long while) has to be with a supermodel, and some gals are looking for the same good time you are.

I think its true that most gals don't understand the relentless male drive prior to getting over the virginity hump...(pardon the pun).. It really does make us pretty much bonkers ladies...kind of a biological time bomb... So guys, just get it over with, and you'll be a lot better off afterwards...seriously... THEN, you can work on being the kind of guy a gal would want to have a relationship with, but until those hormones are hosed down...that's all you're going to be thinking about....

Originally posted by Gazrok

You get fed-up when they show a preference for another male, but if they decided they preferred you they'd better not 'come across' too soon or they will be labelled as too easy.

Virgins and single guys need easy women like a car needs gas....


There's no law saying your first time (or your first time in a long while) has to be with a supermodel, and some gals are looking for the same good time you are.

I think its true that most gals don't understand the relentless male drive prior to getting over the virginity hump...(pardon the pun).. It really does make us pretty much bonkers ladies...kind of a biological time bomb... So guys, just get it over with, and you'll be a lot better off afterwards...seriously... THEN, you can work on being the kind of guy a gal would want to have a relationship with, but until those hormones are hosed down...that's all you're going to be thinking about....

Easy girls only go for the 'badboy'. They dont go for virgins and 'good guys'.

Like, I told you already. Not even the less than 'average' girls want anything with me. Simply because I'm a virgin.

As for prostitution...

That's way too embarrassing for me. And I dont want my first time to be with a prostitute.. that doesn't teach me anything but that women are whores. Skanky dirty fake whores too.

[edit on 26-4-2010 by The Quiet Storm]

[edit on 26-4-2010 by The Quiet Storm]

Just a suggestion man...

I do hope you find what you need,...Good luck.

Definition of Nice:

1.
pleasing; agreeable; delightful: a nice visit.
2.
amiably pleasant; kind: They are always nice to strangers.
3.
characterized by, showing, or requiring great accuracy, precision, skill, tact, care, or delicacy: nice workmanship; a nice shot; a nice handling of a crisis.
6.
having or showing delicate, accurate perception: a nice sense of color.
7.
refined in manners, language, etc.: Nice people wouldn't do such things.
8.
virtuous; respectable; decorous: a nice girl.
9.
suitable or proper: That was not a nice remark.
10.
carefully neat in dress, habits, etc.
13.
Obsolete. coy, shy, or reluctant. .

Notice, the title of the thread does not say nice it says GOOD.

People are brainwashed to think that nice actually means anything but it's own definition. Same with good.

The problem a 'nice guy' usually normally has is in being sexual with a girl. A guy usually will not be sexual because he is afraid, he was taught to be different and not treat women like sex objects. Even seductiveness is sexual.

Unfortunately, being sexual is what a lot of women desire and are seduced by. At least.. being raunchy in taste of humour. A lot of guys will not do that because they were taught to respect women or treat them 'unoffensively'.

It's very bad because one woman will call you a pervert, or a "nice guy" of course, in the deragatory meaning, and another guy who's even more of a pervert and not a nice guy whatsoever, nor good, and he's 'sexy' because of his raunchy vulgar and crude humor. And you would just call it "adult" behaviour.

Sick. When it's more like pornographic?

[edit on 26-4-2010 by The Quiet Storm]

Originally posted by Stillalive
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you suuuuure thats not new jersey? they sure look like the standard tools from new jersey lol.

Sound like it too. "Bulgaria: Where new jersey people come from"

i though people from new jersy are cool?