"the good guy" experiment *FUN*

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Nice guys will win out in the end...

BUT...that "end" is not going to be found at age 21...so don't worry about the "endgame"...just have some fun for now...seriously. Gals your age are still in that whole "bad boy" phase, for the most part...and if that isn't who you are, any attempt to be it will be transparent as hell... They'll sniff it out...

Just be yourself, and if they don't like you for you, then who the hell needs them? You have plenty of time to meet the right girls...so don't put so much pressure on it...

so the good guys get sloppy seconds, or rather sloppy 300s or whatever other number you can come up with.

In the end, I don't think any good guy wins.

It is a conspiracy.

[edit on 20-4-2010 by The Quiet Storm]

What, is it a virgin you're looking for? Good luck on that (and why?)....

No, not sloppy seconds...a more mature woman who now knows what she really wants, versus what she THINKS she wants.

I'm not saying not to have fun while you're young...quite the opposite.... I'm just saying not to expect to find THE ONE while you're doing it....and don't pressure yourself to do so...

Originally posted by The Quiet Storm
so the good guys get sloppy seconds, or rather sloppy 300s or whatever other number you can come up with.

In the end, I don't think any good guy wins.

It is a conspiracy.

"Good guys" would not say things like "sloppy seconds" or hate on women the way you do.

Originally posted by Stillalive
the problem with me and lots of other people is were above all that alpha crap,couse in the end,im the one getting out of here in a nice country with money and all that cr^^.
while theyr boyfrends who they decided are alpha cant even get a job

the problem is we want a nice girl who is also "smart" and looks past the games.
what the ...do i do with this bimbo? we dont need girls who only think love is a stupid game. thats why my life has been ruined lots of times until now.
loners will eventualy find true love,and they will experience all that they had to experience. while all those shallow people with get a big hit in the face after 20.
btw im turning 21 soon.and guess what. all the guys and girls i knew,that were so big shots and inlove,now live pathetic lifes. so in the end good people win.

Mate, i've said it to you before! you need to calm it down a little, you think too much on all of this and it makes you sound bitter and like you think all females are evil! which btw I don't think is really how you are....you just had bad experiences and let them get to you too much, I think?

When you move to Germany I really hope you start with a fresh head! and not pre judge like you tend to now! get out there and enjoy yourself, best of luck to you! but start with a fresh outlook on people....

i allready stared^^ dont worry about me. people in germany are kinda cold,some of them wont even write,but i guess..heh..people.
anyway of the girls is really nice and she likes me for who i am as a person.
so im in no way ranting about girls or anything.
its just some mental problems i need to fix XDbut i think i did
i guess im still young and i still have time to play the whole flirt game.
even though i like women who are nice and who like people for who theyr are.
well thank you for the help^^

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S'ok mate, I wasn't having a go or anything! just hope Germany is good for you!

Originally posted by riley

Originally posted by The Quiet Storm
so the good guys get sloppy seconds, or rather sloppy 300s or whatever other number you can come up with.

In the end, I don't think any good guy wins.

It is a conspiracy.

"Good guys" would not say things like "sloppy seconds" or hate on women the way you do.

If nobody says anything a bout what's going on it'll keep going on. so now I'm not a nice guy simply because I'm just being honest about how I feel, and what I observe?

I already said I dont mean it.

I read somewhere that now women outnumber men in how much they cheat. So more women cheat more than men, they are also more promiscuous than men are. At least this all applies in american culture.

Now every girl is attracted to the whole "PUA" scene (pick up artist), which isn't about making relationships either.

[edit on 20-4-2010 by The Quiet Storm]

at first i though everygirl out of bulgaria would be GREAT,and just couse i found 3 nice girls from germany,i though every german girl is great.
but still lots of the new people i find from germany dont write to me in facebook,or ignore me. but well..i guess there are different people everywhere.but who cares,as long as you find ONE that likes you,and love happens

I dont know how to get numbers. I dont really find any excuse to just 'get numbers'.

I dont have any excuse to make friends with women either... because one way or another it is always assumed or it looks like all I want to do is try to get laid, and I end up looking like a perv.


same with simple talking, simple gestures, simple eye contact, etc.

I have this constant fear of being scaring her away, thinking I'm a perv, or being too forward, or am impure.

me too mate,i dont even know what to say,but when you find a girl that is easy to talk too,or have similar interests its easyer.
i mean thats true love. i will always prefer the girl that can talk with me about illuminati and stuff over the big boobs bimbo who thinks ufos dont exist omg...

i mean, mayeb I'm just different becaue I'm interested in different things. but man... why can't we just talk like normal human beings, and things build up from there? but no they want us to dominate them! it's masochist!

well there are girls who want to dominate you,it would be great if i meet a girl like this,but its kinda rare,i guess i should write on some dominatrix forums or something. we all act as a man enough,you should have nothing to worry about,you just have to find a nice girl who likes talking about stuff.

here is a video that will make you feel better.
remember when you just meet some nice girl,and she is nice and charming,and u learn she is nice couse she has a boyfriend
well here is the proper response : D
www.youtube.com...

Originally posted by The Quiet Storm

yep. bitchez iz bitchez.

Wise, wise words.. I think ghandi came up with that one first though.


But yes anywayyyy, a semi-serious contribution..

Whats all this 'good guy' bs? There's literally no such thing. Im quite sure that you're average 'good guy' is perfectly capable of acting like a tosser.

And the idea that girls actually like being treated badly is mildly insane.
Its seriously all about confidence ( women can smell low self esteem like dogs can smell fear ), and when women are chasing someone around then its more to do with the whole 'thrill of the chase' crap. Where's the fun in someone pretty much offering it on a plate?
And the thing is, you dont actually have to act like a dick at any point if you dont want to. Its just that some people choose to, and it rarely, if ever, turns out well for them in the end.

confidence is just another word for front.

and the thrill? Are you an adrenaline junkie? It's clear that it's just a game to you. Life is no game.

[edit on 20-4-2010 by The Quiet Storm]

Originally posted by The Quiet Storm
confidence is just another word for front.

Point being...?
I hope you arent under some illusion that everyone who acts confident actually is.

And I beg to differ. Relationships & anything leading up to them really shouldnt be approached in such a deadly serious manner. If you take things like this so seriously then you'll end up with a one-way ticket to your nearest mental institution.

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Nietzsche commit suicide for that very reason.

Wise words.

Truth is, I've stopped being the 'good' guy ages ago.

yea I'm not so 'good' and 'nice' anymore.

I once was. Now I'm just bitter and angry all the time. There's nothing I could do about it.

I was taught that it was no good, and that women disliked it.

For sure I was never able to be myself because women rejected it. Women rejected everything HUMAN about me. Now I can't be myself around her. But badboys, who are Confident or Appear to be can do worse, and anything goes.

Im not graphic, I'm not sexually perverted. I dont make dirty jokes, I'm not vulgar. I don't joke aroudn with her in a dirty or perverted fashion, even if you would think what I think of is "clean" (really it's the same thing a pervert would say just in a different way). You would probably thnik it's "funny" so it doens't matter, but really... you're blinded.

They never saw the truth in me. They never wanted to give me the time of day. For Anything!

So now it looks like you're stuck with an angry bitter man, because it's only natural and biological to feel this way, and I can't do anything about it. You would feel the same if it happened to you, perhaps even 10 times worse. But nobody would be complaining about you. It would only land you something one day or another.

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so in the end, who's fault is it?

When you've done the best you can, but nobody, not one girl wants to see the truth in you?