Men prefer the company of other men - why is that?

My personal favorite type of social company is mixed gender.

To be stereotypical for a minute, when I'm around all females, it's dramatic, the conversation revolves around shopping, jewelry, cooking, etc., and it feels like a hen peck circle.

When I'm around all men, it's talk about hunting, beer, sports, autos, and some pretty vulgar jokes.

But mixed company seems to be a lot more enjoyable since we get to talk about things that matter and interest everyone. It's not gossipy like all females, it's not vulgar like all males. It's just intellectually stimulating.

It might differ for the rest of you but that is how it is in my social circles. It's either testosterone or estrogen overload with single genders while a happy medium of hormones is my favorite.

Women, in general, are no fun. They don't like XBOX and they don't tell funny stories and have no comedic timing. And when you do meet one that you can really chill with you end up falling in love and wanting to kill yourself, so instead you go hang out with your friend Kevin Smith, the no-plane-ridin' fatass.

reply to post by AshleyD


Kind of impossible in my case. My job requires combat and heavy lifting so there are hardly any females here at all except from different units that do more of a support role then a direct assault like us. I would like more female friends since being stuck with dudes for a whole year all the time just doesn't feel right, but I agree that a mixture of both can lead to good times.

[edit on 27-3-2010 by Stop-loss!]

What an awesome thread!!

I know why I prefer chillin with "da boyz" sometimes instead of hanging out with a bunch of girls. First of all, for 4 months, I rented a house with 2 girls. Wow. No good. Since I was outnumbered 2 to 1, the house's energy had a ridiculous amount of estrogen and femininity flowing through it. Since they were my roommates, many nights would be me hanging out with the two of them. Oh god, if I had to hear one more thing about their periods, I was gonna scream!!! I got really tired of this girl talk and behaviors, so I had to move out. haha.

I like girls, but hanging out with them all the time can get annoying. There needs to be a balance. When with girls, you have to be on your best behavior, and that can really suck. When you are with the boys, you can cuss all you like,relax, and talk about guy stuff. Like some other posters have said, men don't even need to talk. Men are content with jamming music in their cars with no talking required between them.

My favorite part about hanging out with only guys has gotta be the fact that men can relieve themselves much simpler and easier than girls. Let's say me and my boys are cruising around in my car at night. All they have to say is " I gotta take a piss," and all I have to do is stop the car while they go piss behind my car. When traveling with girls, many of them require you to search out a bathroom for them to use, and that can get my eyes rolling.

[edit on 27-3-2010 by SolarE-Souljah]

Originally posted by rcwj1975


Its called brotherhood, comradery, friendship...nothing sexual about it. Men have to bond and know that there are guys just like them out there they can talk about the game with, go shooting with, fight with and know someone has your back, work on cars, tell war stories too, etc.... To have a friend a phone call away that can help you move, help you fix something, etc....again nothing sexual. Women are great, but as we all know a woman cannot understand some things we men are interested in or don't want to do what some of us men do. Just like women who have women friends...because some men want nothing to do with certain aspects of what she likes.

A MAN can love another man....I served with some OUTSTANDING men whom I will love until the end of my life and will do anything for if asked...and the reason we can prefer each others company is because we have common likes and understand each others. There is no "physical attraction", there is no desire....as we all want women, we all want to share the emotional side and feelings we have with a female. There is nothing greater than spending a fun day with the guys and doing our thing to go home to your girl and shut that side off and put someone you love with everything you have in your arms and allow the "softer" side to show....

Again, IMO...it is normal and NEEDED to have fellow men to live life with...share things with....and understand that its ok to love another mn as your brother, your comrade, your friend...and hold onto that...before you know it...its all gone.

After reading this i didn’t bother reading any more... excellent response that sums it up. Pretty close to what i was going to say!!! Only the confused modern metro men (if you can call them men) would see anything sexual in two male friends fixing a car or going for a beer!!!

I must admit i hate this feminisation of manhood... leave us alone... i like my rough skin and scars... i like the fact that in the middle age of my life i have a bit of a belly... dam, i even like the fact that I’m going bald...

Take your hand moisturisers, face creams, hair gel, six pack and fake tans and shove them up your ar....tistic nose

Other men need to speak for themselves. I much prefer the company of a female to any male, any day.

I don't get along with other males. We have nothing in common, since I hate sports, cars, trucks, hunting, wrestling, violence, I don't think about sex all day, I actually have feelings, I care about females and treat them with the greatest respect, I like to be clean, can't stand male bonding rituals, have no idea what the big deal with being competitive is all about, and any other male related stereotype. I'm the anti-male I guess... but my girlfriend still loves me and I manage to have the attention of many, many, females. So... it's working for me.

But if you other guys wanna hang out with each other all day... to each his own.

[edit on 27-3-2010 by aletheia]

I dunno, maybe because my friend isn't going to ask me, "Hey, do these pants make my ass look fat?"

I've always preferred and felt more comfortable around and in the company of women!!!

I get on with blokes and all but I dunno, there's only so much I can take, depending on the type of bloke I guess!

Generally it's much easier to get along with members of the same sex because you have a lot of biological things in common, plus you have interests that or usually always the same.

Actually, I doubt that. There are so many douche males out there. Not saying that there aren't female equivalents, the douchettes, but y'know...

...Man, I wish there was a way for my mind to not actually scramble up a bunch of thoughts and interfere with thinking in the present.

Now I'm just not making much sense. This is pretty awkward.

Originally posted by harrytuttle
Maybe because women mostly don't like doing guy stuff. I said mostly, because while there are some cool ladies out there who aren't afraid of adventure, and relaxin', most of them are wrapped up in social/personal drama, shopping, and other "girl stuff".

I LOVE doing (some) guy stuff. What do men want to do? Fish, hunt, gun/knife shows, shooting at the range, primitive camping--with horses, car shows, tools (drool!), home repairs, mechanical whatevers, small building projects, I'm all for it! Mall? What's a mall? I HATE shopping at malls. I can't stand girl talk, gossiping, chick flicks, etc.. Guess what I just bought online.... a tool bucket organizer!

I've long sense given up on men though. It seems like they either don't want to do "manly" things, don't know how, are nasty caveman types, or I scare them because I can change the oil and they can't. Oh well, my dogs love me.

Brain differences and hormone wise I can see why. Women being more emotionally powered and men being more logical driven, enjoy different hobbies and different things to talk about.
I've always been a tomboy type with more male friends and tomboy female friends...as I wasn't interested in the girl stuff of: shopping, cliques such a gossip, guy chasing, dieting and celeb comparing and babies. With my male friends we can just enjoy gaming, outdoors, cars or play(I'm a bass player in a band) loud music whereas my non tomyboy female friends want me to go to the hair salon with them. Not to say all women are like that, but as a teen it was very common and into my 20s to observe that. I'd rather talk about the mythical beasts, the occult or Politics and read the (Alternative) news sources, vs gossiping about which actress has the cutest baby. Most women I know find my topics boring where as males don't!



[edit on 28-3-2010 by dreamingawake]

reply to post by Lookingup


You sound like my wife... On our first date i took her to a Roy Ayers concert... After the concert we was walking to the bus when she looked at me and said the most romantic beautiful thing any bloke could hear...

"i'm starving... do you fancy a kebab?"

That was it... i had found my wife

Seriously... i have friends who are very jealous... if they take their wife to the cinema they have to watch the latest Rom Com staring Hugh Grant or risk hour of huff's and puff's with negative comments about men and violence...

My wife HATES Rom Coms and Hugh Grant... She loves Sci-Fi, Action and some serious films... she loves football (although sadly she support Man U Urrgh!!) and comse shooting with me on the weekends (although not at the moment cos shes pregnant)

Some of my friends have, what i would call, typical trophy wife’s... Blonde, Shallow, palettes petals who, you would think that, butter wouldn’t melt in their mouths... But everything in their life is superficial... Try to discuss anything deeper than the latest TV drama and the response is a blank stare!!
I know that their relationships are unhappy, especially from the blokes point of view, who seem to put up with hours of endless nagging and high credit card bills just to keep up an image!!!

My wife is a diamond... she is my friend as well as my lover... and she is one of the few women who can laugh when i fart, cheer when i blow a clay pigeon out of the sky, and sympathise when my team loses at football!!

Men who pick trophy wife are normally just being shallow and will eventually pay the price for this shallowness

Saying all that... i am not a cave man... i do have a tender side and i can cry (yes men do cry too)

And my wife aint all muck and oil either LOL... Most of the time she is a tender caring mother and wife... it’s just that she aint afraid of my testosterone!

Sometimes, these days, it seems that people are afraid of masculinity,... it’s often discouraged as if it’s some dangerous threat to humanity... It’s not masculinity that’s the problem... its lack of morals and ethics mixed with a loss of identity that’s causing problems in my opinion!!!






[edit on 28-3-2010 by Muckster]

Men prefer to hang out with men because they are from the same planet.

Women are aliens, except when it comes to breeding.

reply to post by Tinman67


That's odd your wife would think something is wrong with you. I am the complete opposite of all women, trust me. My husband loves my company because he says I am not a normal chick. I can't count how many times my husband and I sat in silence in a restaurant together, or drive together in complete silence. It's nice, refreshing, and what I love best is when he takes his hand and pats me on the leg, and tells me he loves me, it's beautiful!

He said he likes the fact that we can be together and not say a damn word to each other, but just enjoy each other's company! I agree I hate mindless chatter and most women give me a migraine, this is probably why I have no female friends.

I find females extremely materialistic and would actually kill myself if I had to go on shopping sprees and listen to women go on and on about how horrible their husband's are, how they can't stand their kids, and blah, blah, blah!!! I once had a very short term relationship with a female and all she did was talk, for hours on end, it was like she loved hearing her voice. I broke off the friendship because of that.

I like being a women don't get me wrong I am very feminine but I enjoy being alone, shopping alone, and going to the movies alone, I absolutely love silence!!

reply to post by halfoldman


Not all women would rather discuss jewelry, money, make up, fashion snagging a husband or the pangs of childbirth but a large chunk of them do...enough to generalize and make so many utter torture to listen to.
Sometimes it is just the higher pitch to the voice, like a dog whistle.
When they are the slightest concerned or the least bit sad they are happy to share where men mercifully keep these details to themselves.
And once they have you listening... women don't always know when to shut up.
You can't tell secrets to a woman because they blab secrets. Sure men also blab secrets but with them at least you have a 50/50 chance they won't.
With women I think it must be more like a pitiful 10-20% chance your secret is safe!





[edit on 29-3-2010 by rusethorcain]

Why do I enjoy the company of men over women?

Because I can fart around guys, and guys find it funny.

Because I can burp around guys, and guys find it funny.

Because I can tell dirty jokes and punch a guy in the arm and it's ok.

Because if I need to scratch myself, well, I need to scratch myself.

Because I should be able to sit with a friend for twelve hours enjoying an activity while maybe grunting only a half dozen words the entire time.

I am man.



[edit on 3/29/2010 by whatukno]

why do so many, apparently heterosexual, men seem to prefer men, and their company?

1.) With women, we always think about sex...even if we're happy in a relationship, aren't attracted to the women in question, etc., it's always a nagging thing. With guys, there is ZERO thoughts about them, although we'll discuss women and sex frequently....but we can at least disassociate it, and speak candidly about it.

2.) Most of you have no interest (or feigned interest) in the things we like to do, just like we do with things you like to do (I have ZERO desire to join in my wife's scrapbooking, for example)....

3.) Probably centuries of male-bonding while on long hunts, etc. as our ancestors...hunting Mammoths...

4.) Absence makes the heart grow fonder...being with women 24/7 will drive us crazy, just as being with us would do to you.

5.) Women don't seem to grasp the joy of doing ABSOLUTELY NOTHING....guys do, which is why we invented hunting, fishing, and golf. All "sports" where we really actually do nothing...but just a thin pretense for being out of the house...

Hey, you asked...

[edit on 29-3-2010 by Gazrok]

Didn't feel like reading to see if this has been mentioned, but here's my $0.02:

I like getting into trouble.

Most of my lady friends and my girlfriend don't.

I like hanging out with my guy friends when I feel like getting into trouble.

Simple stuff. Ladies, if you want guys to like hanging out with you as much as we like hanging out with our guy friends, quit being such squares.




TA

I do have to say, that somehow...the sports gene skipped me...

I like playing sports, but have ZERO interest in watching or following professional sports...

The car gene seems to have skipped me too, as far as interest goes (I hate working on them), although I do seem to have a knack for fixing them once in a while...and it is a great sense of accomplishment... That dislike is probably because I need more and different tools, and the fact that they make cars these days, so you can't fix them yourself.

(at least my wife's car is an '89 Camaro, and I can fix that)... Can't seem to get her to want a newer car...she loves the thing...we even just had it painted, so it looks like new...

because women don't like us men to hang around them unless we are 'attractive' to them.

trust me we do want to hang around women.. it's just that at any moemnt we can be labelled pervs for simply having eye contact with a woman.

when men are alone and they can't find women.. what do people say? "you dont have any male friends? hang out with them, take your mind off of women".

me I feel like I have way too much men around me, because I haven't been able to make friends with women such that the only people in my life are men. it is extremely uncomfortable and I'm always looking around in public feeling like people are thinking I'm gay.

even when I'm not with a guy I'm alone. I try to be with females but THEY ARE TOO DAMN COLD, ALL OF THEM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[edit on 20-4-2010 by The Quiet Storm]