Stifled or Selfish or What ?

If you have a weak moment where you think of taking her back, let us know. We're here for you!

reply to post by squidley_35


Hi,

Been sleeping like a baby.....


It's a bit quiet.... Gonna call some friends and go chill out ......

Once again...... this neanderthal is grateful for the support and concern...

Thank u !

reply to post by novacs4me


Hi there....

Just checked my voice mail.... It's full.....

Deleted ALL of it and did not return call. (I am supposed to be travelling)



Should not (I never say never) be letting her back in my life.

I am making arrangements with my ex for the kids to come over whenever they can. My ex is quite thrilled at the idea of still being able to have "family" time. She loves the kids dearly and I have the deepest respect for her..

Many thanks for the understanding and support, which, I could not find with someone who lived with me.....

Arm hurts like hell though... Maybe I need to get a shot and have it cleaned and stitched up....... :pbjti me:

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Called the guys and made arrangements for a meet up....

Got my buddy out of her case (it's not a blow up doll!!!!!!) and am starting to give good old Carlos Santana a good run for his money....

Gonna head down to emergency in a bit for stitches cause the arm is still bleeding and the bite is getting quite angry.....

THANK U !!!!

Let us know about the arm. Like I said, bites are very nasty.

Glad to hear (even if it is chemically achieved) that you are in a celebratory mood!

reply to post by dixon


Its good to hear you`re getting on wit things, and there`s no better feeling than the 1 you have when you are FREE....

Have fun wit your kids and mates.
I think you`ve got a lot of waisted time to make up...

Maybe you should go on a trip....
Clear your mind, and the rest will follow!

No need for the thanks, thats what we`re here for...



[edit on 16-2-2010 by squidley_35]

Hi Everyone,

:pbjti me:

says how I am feeling...... !!!

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I am very happy for you!

reply to post by dixon




Good to hear.
All you need to do know is stay positive, and dont fall for the emotional blackmail...

If you start to feel weak, you know where we are...

Now go have FUN, FUN, FUN...



[edit on 16-2-2010 by squidley_35]

Hi Guys,

I plan to leave this Friday for Cambodia..... Intend to spend a couple of days wandering around the Angkor ruins... visit old friends... make new ones.... and see for myself just how much the country has grown up learning from its painful past.........

Please promise to stay in touch.....

reply to post by dixon


That sounds great...
Have a wonderful time...
U2U me anytime wit news of your travels...
Id like to hear how you`re doin...

Take care and hope to hear from you soon...



[edit on 16-2-2010 by squidley_35]

Have a great trip mate, enjoy yourself you've earned it!

Good for you... (and probably safer for you to be out of the country)....

I hope she gets some professional help (and that isn't something I recommend too often, as I typically abhor shrinks, except for more serious issues, but this is serious), sounds like she really, really needs it.

Hopefully, others in her life will recognize this too (the bite incident should be all the proof needed), and they will help her get it...

reply to post by squidley_35



Hi, Tickets are booked. Ready to go.

The world looks a little softer, warmer and a little more colourful.

Will write you... promise....

reply to post by Gazrok



Hi there, I think she's planning a coup at this time..... Her Mum called to see if everything was ok between us... (1st call ever.....and as if she did not know...). I just said that we decided to take a rest from each other because I was contemplating a move overseas.

Listened to a small pep talk on how she knows her daughter loves me and that forgiveness between couples was the way to keeping a relationship forever..... Gave her my thanks and told her I would keep that in mind.....

In case you worry.... Not a chance ....

I'd rather keep my sanity.....

"My doctor told me that I was suffering from thrombosis and sex would be bad for me..... But I'd rather take the risk, suffering pain from thrombosis.... than abstain and suffer from neurosis...."

I have a new life.... great kids and an ex I still love and respect.... That's enough for now....

Saying "give it a rest" might be interprited as a break or temporary space. Imo you should tell her mum straight up that you have split up for good and do not want to live in a prison forever so thanks but no thanks.. there is no chance of reconciliation, she is abusive and unstable, she even bit you and I think you should go see the police and have that on record including pics just in case she really goes off the deep end. Being bit should be enough to get a restraining order against her and if you think she is planning a coup better to be safe that sorry and make sure she can't come anywhere near you without risking legal action. She will not go half measures if she thinks she's only got one shot and you are in her sites.

I don't mean to scare you but I've dealt with crazies before you have to be one step ahead and make sure you leave no avenues of attack open. She obviously uses stradegies and chess like moves and is treating you like prey that needs to be cornered. She is using her mother as a means to try get you to stick your head out which is why you need to be adament and not give her hope or let her think she may be able to get your defences down.

[edit on 17-2-2010 by riley]

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Hi Riley,

I hear you.....

I was being diplomatic cause I thought that I was not the only one emotionally hurt. Did not want to inflame the situation by placing blame on anyone save for the fact that we could not live together and I needed space from her.

Perhaps, I should have made it clearer that I tried and it could not and will not work out between us.....

As for taking precautions, I was interviewed by an officer at the hospital cause it was a very obvious "inflicted" injury... ie: no possibility of an accident.

I gave the officer my name address and the who and what... He took it all down and gave me the option of pressing charges after my treatment. I don't wish to go down that road.

It's on record now and I have the option of proceeding if harrassment ensues......Should suffice for now... I think.... I hope.....

Thanks for the heads up.......

Originally posted by dixon
reply to post by riley

 

Hi Riley,

I hear you.....

I was being diplomatic cause I thought that I was not the only one emotionally hurt. Did not want to inflame the situation by placing blame on anyone save for the fact that we could not live together and I needed space from her.

Perhaps, I should have made it clearer that I tried and it could not and will not work out between us.....

I understand what you mean but she probably missled her mother about her behaviour. Thats not her mothers fault but it's a shame you weren't able to have a clean break.. maybe you could get a female relative to answer the phone. I think you have handled this situation very well.. it usually takes years for people to detangle themselves. 12 years ago I did not have internet access and could not just escape from mind games. You at least were wise enough to see take the opportunity to get objective perspectives. Without the outside view all you have is hers and your own. Emotional abusers always isolate their victims.

I love the internet. Can't shut that out without a reasonable excuse and there isn't one.

As for taking precautions, I was interviewed by an officer at the hospital cause it was a very obvious "inflicted" injury... ie: no possibility of an accident.

I gave the officer my name address and the who and what... He took it all down and gave me the option of pressing charges after my treatment. I don't wish to go down that road.

It's on record now and I have the option of proceeding if harrassment ensues......Should suffice for now... I think.... I hope.....

Thanks for the heads up.......

Charging is your trump card.. that should have her scared.

Anyway I'm sure you want to enjoy your freedom. Could you post about your travels?

[edit on 18-2-2010 by riley]

Hi.
If I were you I`d pack, and quick. She`s now got her Mother in there, trying to catch you off guard.
I agree wit Riley, that she has left very important information out of her explamation of the break up.
I doubt very much that she told her Mum that she was an emotional, deranged, phsyco in love!
Anyway, thats all behind you now.
Enjoy the people that are around, and that love you...
I look forward to hearing about your travels...
TAKE CARE...


[edit on 18-2-2010 by squidley_35]

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Hi Riley,

Thanks for the support.... Will surely write from the ruins of Angkor......