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Originally posted by TheAmused
I got a butt whopping from a man i thought was gonna kill me.
Originally posted by TheAmused
But whoop it's butt if it throw's it across the room at you while telling you to shut up or mad at you!!
Originally posted by spellbound
reply to post by Itisnowagain
Yes,
We should nurture this world and everyone in it.
There are terrible people in this world, who are taking away the rights of everyone.
Everyone could be fed and housed, but the rich of this world are not doing it. Let them be happy in Hell. That is where they going - those who help the poor will be blessed.
Originally posted by TheColdDragon
reply to post by Mclaneinc
The problem inherant within the thread is that the anti-spanking contingent of the conversers, as demonstrated with Roger T, have an absolutist agenda.
Even while praising you for being a kind and thoughtful parent, they are stating that you are difficient in some capacity and need to learn ways not to utilize any sort of corporal punishment.
As evidenced again, Roger T's response praises you, and then turns around and says you need to keep working on finding non-violent solutions.
What I don't agree with is that every parent is required to be a perfect parent in order to be a loving parent.
What I don't agree with is that every parent that spanks their children are condemning them to a life of psychological trauma or addictive behavior.
Roger T equated my position to an absolutist, while ignoring the parody of absolutism that I'm sure he was keying on.
I would no more expect an individual to come into his home and spank his Children than I expect anti-spanking parents to call the police on an individual for a firm swat to the rear of a child who is obviously misbehaving.
However, they are for this sort of social imposition because they believe their positions are an absolute good, irrelevant to the situations and unique variety of every individual upon the face of the planet.
There is never a catch all solution, not for human beings.
Is it wrong to Spank? No more than it is right to spank... and I claim neither. I don't claim it is right or wrong, I claim it is sometimes necessary.
All the while, with some in this thread who have made compelling cases for the anti-spanking point of view, I keep an open door for the possibility that I am wrong in my viewpoint... but the person I am requires information to support that my view is wrong. I require reason free from passion.
And RogerT has essentially insinuated that I am but a mere troglodyte, unevolved and unaware of real spirituality. He makes the claim, like many have for many topics of an absolute nature, that somehow those that disagree are deficient or subhuman and deserve to have better men's morals put upon them.
... and anecdote is not evidence.
However, it does rebut RogerT's insinuation that the mother must have assuredly been a spanker; It is just as much assumption to assume she was than to insinuate she wasn't.
My guess is that most are also deficient in awareness of their own conditioned mental processes, hence the frequent denials and delusions in the thread.
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Of course, it isn't necessary at all.
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No conscious parent could possibly strike their child. The act requires unconsciousness.
Those that spank and feel bad about it are simply deficient in alternative, non-violent options, and maybe also the motivation or desire to learn.
The demeanour, class and grace apparent in your posting should be all the pro-spankers need to 'see the light'.
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Reason over reaction, compassion over belligerence.
Awareness trumps scientific study every time.
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To become conscious, you have to suspend thought ...
Your beliefs are irrelevant and will continue to flip flop around for the rest of your life as different information comes into your focus.
If you manage to gain a moment of awareness, all your current beliefs will dissolve anyway. The insanity of violence towards children will then not be a belief but just plain obvious.
Already replied to this one ... deficient only in knowlege and awareness, not capacity.
Like I said before, if you can find a way (and there are several ways) to switch off your mental chatter for a moment or two, the insanity of violence towards children becomes an 'is', not just some more mental garbage or silly scientific study.
How could you possibly know that? Are you claiming omni-knowlege?
Can you not see how funny that is? Genuine question.
You have asserted the following,
1) Those who would spank are unconcious beings, that people are delusional and in denial.
2) Those that spank are deficient in the will(motivation) to learn other means.
Those that spank and feel bad about it are simply deficient in alternative, non-violent options, and maybe also the motivation or desire to learn.
3. Those that spank are unreasoned, ignorant and belligerant.
Reason over reaction, compassion over belligerence.
4. Logical deduction based upon Science is inferior to "Awareness"
... an ambiguous terminology often self-defined.
Also that thinking is antithetical to awareness,
equating people that don't think to a superior status over thinkers.
5. Inferred that evolving world views and the ability to change ones mind on a subject is a negative quality while also inferring such as again something outside of what you define as "Awareness"
Your beliefs are irrelevant and will continue to flip flop around for the rest of your life as different information comes into your focus.
If you manage to gain a moment of awareness, all your current beliefs will dissolve anyway. The insanity of violence towards children will then not be a belief but just plain obvious.
6. Failed to understand what the word "CAPACITY" means, and how Knowledge and Awareness ARE each a "Capacity".
Already replied to this one ... deficient only in knowlege and awareness, not capacity.
7. That spanking children is some form of "Insanity".
and in response to...
How could you possibly know that? Are you claiming omni-knowlege?
No. I only claim that the Universe is chaotic and unpredictable, and all emergent lifeforms display the same... including humans. No two humans are identical in behavior, psychology, mannerisms, personality and what does and doesn't work for them as both persuasive learning mechanisms and dissuasive ones.
There is no absolute in declaring something neither right or wrong, stating something "IS" is not declaring a value about something. Stating something is at times necessary is also not a statement of absolutes, it is a consideration of conditional variables and the fine limitations of existence as a whole in allowing ALL possible solutions to be explored at any given moment in time.
Lacking perfection and omniscience, it is necessary to resort to violence at times. Is there a way at all times? Yes. Is it a feasible way? Probably not the case in all circumstances.