Why men really prefer blondes. The psychology behind it.

No interest in blondes here. I much prefer the darker tones for hair skin and eyes.

You all can keep your Barbie impersonators, lol.

In my town the vast majority of women have dyed their hair some degree of blonde and I think that is in the hope of looking more attractive, modern, sexy, etc. But the sad fact is, chaging hair color does not change the person underneath.

Man, I'm over the Barbie thing.. maybe instead of getting hair dye they should just get a life.

I have always been attracted to dark skin dark haired petite women. Just for the record.

Here's a link to one study on why blue-eyed women might be preffered by blue-eyed men,
www.msnbc.msn.com...,
Of course my husband has blue eyes, and he chose brown eyed me... but I thought it was an interesting contribution to this thread...

lol who prefer blonds? lol

It must be an area to area thing because here most men prefer not blond so much so the blond crowd dies their hair. The majority around here prefer red heads for some reason I like brunettes though.

reply to post by Jess_Undefined


This leaves me very confused because I'm a man and I don't prefer blonds at all, does this mean I'm evolutionarily confused ?

I prefer brunettes because darker hair seems to strike me subconsciously as making a woman mysterious or reclusive, because when was the last time you met a blond who was a severe introvert? I've always been the quiet type and so I guess I've always been attracted to the quiet types and they typically seemed to be brunette (though certainly that's not always the case). I've always been a fan of darker colors, never of anything bright or flamboyant or "slutty"...

I don't think the skinny big breasted blond being attractive is entirely pervasive, it may be built into us through instinct and evolution but we also have consciousness and cognitive processes that can override those things that are hard-wired into our brains, hence why their was a time when a curvaceous woman with a little meat on her bones was a sign that she was affluent and healthy and therefore a good mate as opposed to the girls today where we can see their ribs...

There's also that whole arrogance thing attached to blonds where they think they're better or sexier than everyone else, which they have a history of doing, plus that whole Aryan race thing - no thanks.

Easy conclusion:

Men like what ever will put out.

6' tall Male Brunette, still full head of hair(thank heaven).

My 1st choice, Always; Women with Brunette and Dark hair.



Dark eyes, or not. Not so much a big deal!

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Lol. You,re funny, I know she isnt that smart, but I watched a documentary on her, she may have made some bad choices health wise, but her personality in 'real life' is quite different to all the other bimbos you see on reality tv. She seems deeply sad and I kindof feel sorry for her because she really isnt stupid, and I think she could've done better career wise.

I didnt mean she has a IQ of 185.

but what about the woman's ideal man? is this not meant to be tall dark haired and handsome? me well I'm blonde blue eyed and dont have any trouble getting girls. ( keeping them is the hard part )

Wow, I'm really kind of offended here.

I'm naturally a brunette with blue eyes. I'm now a blonde. Here come the criticisms, complaints, remarks...let them roll in.

Did I mention I don't have big huge fake boobs and I'm not anorexic? I, in fact, am shaped like Jennifer Lopez, Scarlett Johanson, Kim Kardashian (butt is not THAT big lol). I'm currently a junior at the College of New Jersey, not an easy place to get into and just bs your way through. But I guess that still makes me pretty stupid, right?

Let me tell you how and why I decided to change my hair color. One day I decided to dye my hair darker. I'm totally against spending more than $100 at the hair salon for this type of stuff, so I went out to the store, bought some hair dye and got my friend to help me out. The stuff I had bought came with highlights too. So initially, my hair was dyed darker but the highlights in fact made my hair look lighter. The end result was remarkable. It looked great. It had red and blonde colors in it. It was quite unique and stunning. Friends and family loved how it looked. From then on, I started dying my hair a lighter color.

I have a golden blonde hair color now with light highlights. I'd say it suits my skin tone a lot more. I do not go tanning, as I think that's not very healthy. I just relax on the beach and see the color I get. I guess since I'm a natural brunette and half Greek/Italian, my skin doesn't turn that ugly orange color some white girls get when they tan too much? You know the burnt color with the platinum blonde hair?

Well anyway, I think the blonde hair suits me better. I have nothing against brunettes. I'm a brunette at heart. I catch myself thinking "stupid blonde" when a blonde girl pisses me off sometimes but then I think "oh, wait..."
I think the only time my brown hair has ever looked good on me, is when it was summer and I had a nice golden tan. Other than that, my pale winter skin clashed with my long dark hair. I felt like it drowned out my facial features. I'm very light everywhere else, blonde arm hair, blonde leg hair, lighter eyelashes and eyebrows. It just didn't fit unless I was dark everywhere else (a tan for example).

And towards guys, I've never thought of the blonde hair color being any special. I can say I get more attention as a blonde...but then again I think if I looked just as good as a brunette I would get the same. It depends on the guy as well. I've been told I have a great personality so I guess my hair color is just a secondary factor. One guy told me I looked the same either way. Another guy, who thought I was natural blonde heard me talking about being a brunette and said I would look weird as one. I then told him was naturally a brunette -_______- . And then the love of my life said on one of our first few dates how he's not usually attracted to blondes, but for some reason is attracted to me.

Originally posted by aleon1018
Interesting history. Where does the dumb blonde thing come from?

My guess for the origin of the "dumb blonde" stereotype would be from Marilyn Monroe & the "dumb blonde" characters she portrayed. Although i might be wrong, there may have been others before her who played the "dumb blonde" too, but her characters just seemed to cement the stereotype. She wasn't a real blonde though, so she wasn't portraying a dumb "real" blonde.
This whole "dumb blonde" sterotype could have been started by a fake blonde. This can't represent the real blondes though, so i doubt that real blondes are as dumb as they have been represented (by fakes)

I remember hearing Paris Hilton saying that she's not the "dumb blonde" she portrays to the media, that it is all an act - along with that "baby voice" she puts on. But again, she's not a real blonde (but who IS a real blonde in Hollywood?)

I think that "blondes" are seen as dumb because they are represented by fake blondes - blondes that spend more time in the salon + upkeep, than reading and studying. But then, not ALL fake blondes are dumb either.

Also, perhaps because blondes are seen as youthful (like a blonde child) they may seem "dumb" because they don't know too much - like a child still learning. In movies, the dumb blonde stereotype is never represented by a blonde woman with more mature facial features (even if the woman with mature features were only 19 or 20)

This is just my theory though.

I don't. Prefer chicks with dreadlocks. Or maybe with some goth stuff.

Gotta have sexiness.

I've always loved blondes.

LOVE THEM.

Why? Who the heck knows. Explaining it would ruin the allure.

Love them. Oh yeah, they do it for me. Always have.

By the way... no fakers allowed. I'll know ;-)

I love redheads... so sexy... last three girlfriends I've had, all beautiful, were redheads. Ahh I miss them now

Seriously, there is a reason for discrimination based on hair color, and it's founded on very sound observations made by men over the long millennia. I'm not kidding.

Blondes...are more fun. They're bubbly, they're stupid, they take more chances and get into more trouble, but they're not that great in bed (most just lay there) and they are so flighty that, I swear, you do not want to spend your whole life with them. Their incessant nattering will drive you insane.

Brunettes... are more serious. They have deep thoughts and a lot of foresight and they can plan out your whole life for you, and they are awesome sex partners who will turn you into a sex-pretzel (and you'll love it), but they are the most vicious and crazy bitches if you cross them, and they will kill you in your sleep if you're not careful.

Redheads... are my favorites. Because they give it to you all up front. Everything. "Ah, I see you eyeballing my tits. They're yours, IF YOU CAN BEAT ME!" Everything is all up front with a redhead, and she will hammer your soul like some kind of pissed-off god from Clash of the Titans if you are not strong enough to beat her. And you must do battle with her, or else you'll never win her love. Seriously, you have to DEFEAT a redhead before you can love her; but, man, once you have her, it's terminal. And the sex will KILL your ass.

Anyway... Those are the 3 basic hair-color/woman-types, as documented by myself, one of the great adventurer explorers of the Mysterious World of Women.

It's all true, all the facts have been verified...repeatedly.

— Doc Velocity

but they're not that great in bed (most just lay there)

I don't remember, i heard it from somewhere, that it's been studied: stupid people are bad in bed

It's not about the color of the hair, but I couldn't be with a person who has no character at all. No personality = no charm

I find the theory of blond hair evolving as a way to advertise fertility in a place where curves were covered up by clothing fascinating. Just my two cents, I have dark hair and eyes, and prefer a woman with dark hair and eyes, blue eyes actually being a turn off for me (though blond hair can be attractive on the right gal, and hazel, brown, dark brown/black, dark green and especially gray eyes are incredibly sexy). As for body type, I like the Kim Kardashian, Beyonce shape-disclaimer- I don't think very highly of either of them (based on their personalities and fake hair/nails/materialism would not consider them fit for marriage or motherhood) I use them as famous examples everyone is familiar with. I never did understand many mens fascination with women shaped like thirteen year old boys a la Callista Flockhart or Courtney Love. I wonder how much of our standards of beauty and attraction to a mate are actually genetic, and how much is due to early childhood development and relationship to the mother.



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Just watching Twin Peaks.. I think that Laura Palmer and Audrey Horne are really hot. I also have a weak spot for Miley Cyrus (although she's young and her music sucks).

Madonna was also pretty hot in the 80s.

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Originally posted by rich23
But that whole "evolutionary psychology" stuff. I really don't understand how people think this is science. It's just people providing ex post facto rationalisations for observed behaviour.

In other words, they're just making this stuff up.

I totally agree. Take this excerpt for example:

''Blond hair is unique in that it changes dramatically with age. Typically, young girls with light blond hair become women with brown hair. Thus, men who prefer to mate with blond women are unconsciously attempting to mate with younger (and hence, on average, healthier and more fecund) women. It is no coincidence that blond hair evolved in Scandinavia and northern Europe, probably as an alternative means for women to advertise their youth, as their bodies were concealed under heavy clothing.''

That is extremely tenuous and is frankly just unfalsifiable guesswork.
I think in many cases it's largely arbitrary why people are attracted towards superficial characteristics in potential mates, as is demonstrated by the broad set of responses we've had on this thread.

Although I'll have to go against the grain of most on this thread as I do prefer blondes with pale skin and blue/green eyes, but - if truth be told - I'm not too fussy !

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Originally posted by nixie_nox
Men in rural africa who have never seen western media completely passed and modely and barbie look alikes without a second glance, and were attracted to the women who looked to be be good child bearers, healthy but curvy and busty.

I think there is a large cultural factor in attraction too. For example, in Mauritania and parts of Morocco, plump - or what some may consider as overweight - women are desirable to many, because it signifies that they are more affluent and can afford to feed themselves well.
In fact there have been some quite horrific stories of parents force-feeding their daughters to intentionally get this effect.