I was kicked out of a store (for standing up for myself)

I probably have worked at that home improvement store.

You know, i could write a book. But its specially crazy around Christmas time. I have personally been hit with a 2x4 (by accident) and the person didnt even say sorry. I've been poked with iron, rods, and had a toilet....whoooooooooooops....miss my foot by not much, and i have bled...all without an apology from the people.

And please folks? Dont step up to the counter and tell us how much the screws are?????? WE KNOW, you see, they are coded.

People can be very ugly and special.

reply to post by capgrup


People act like this because most people are sick of other peoples bs... In fact so many people are so fed up something like this little argument is bound to happen... Thing that sux is you can get arrested if you clock the guy... Back in the day, you argue with the ladies, clock the guy... But now even if you are in self defense if you hurt the person you can get in trouble...

Someone runs you over with their car, you're ok, but you beat them up, you go to jail... Doesn't make much sense does it?

Honestly I'm not sure why this is a HOT topic... People must be really board.. like me lol... =)

So, someone does something that annoys another. The annoyed person chooses to be annoyed. At this point the annoyance is completely internal....it is held within that one person. Then that person decides to spew that annoyance out and inflict it on other persons who had absolutely nothing to do with anything at all.

If any of you don't see what's wrong with that scenario......well, it's your karma.

I'm finding the childish comments about "payback" and revenge to be disheartening.

Originally posted by MrPenny
So, someone does something that annoys another. The annoyed person chooses to be annoyed. At this point the annoyance is completely internal....it is held within that one person. Then that person decides to spew that annoyance out and inflict it on other persons who had absolutely nothing to do with anything at all.

If any of you don't see what's wrong with that scenario......well, it's your karma.

I'm finding the childish comments about "payback" and revenge to be disheartening.

At very least you can agree that there are times to be quiet, times to speak up and times to kick butt? You don't just go around kicking butt all day, that would be childish, but if someone is completely out of line you stand up for yourself... This world isn't going to stand up for you...

And 'standing up for yourself' and getting kicked out of the store, looking like a lunatic is going to teach the original offender a lesson how?

People that bring unnecessary drama to everyday situations are 1000X worse than the rude people they pretend to be fixing.

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"The annoyed person chooses to be annoyed. At this point the annoyance is completely internal...."

True, And I guess this could even be applied to other more serious situations.

Example: Your family dies in a car wreck and you are upset because your family just got killed in a car crash. YOU are the one CHOOSING to be upset and depressed over the horrific deaths of your whole family- no one is making you get upset, you are doing it entirely on your own.

You have been trained by society that when someone's family dies in a car wreck, the 'thing to do' is to become all upset and depressed.

Conditions and circumstances have absolutely no influence on our emotions, and absolutely in no way influence our actions.

That is just an excuse used to perpetuate our filthy bourgeois society bereft of all self-responsibility and corrupted by such things as 'god' and human emotions - which this corrupt capitalist society actually encourages its people to express; to 'let it all out once in a while'. How pathetic.

This unnecessary symptom of the Bourgeoisie in our midst must be stopped before it corrupts the entirety of the body politic. The individual is of no importance, and it is he who must adapt to the system, not the other way around - as it is in the Corrupt West.


[edit on 21-12-2008 by Dreemer]

Acting like your entire family dying and getting bumped/cut in line at a department store are the same thing is just stupid. Retarded even.

Acting like an idiot inside of a store will get you kicked out of said store. Anyone with a brain knows this.

They could have waited five minutes and confronted this person outside, but they didn't.

They made a scene, and the employees acted in a way so that the scene wouldn't escalate. Part. Of. Their. Job.

Moral standpoints have absolutely nothing to do with it.

[edit on 21-12-2008 by alaskan]

In my opinion you had every right to have a go at the muppet. Maybe using offensive language could be deemed as questionable, after all, it is a public store, kids and all that.
However, that being said, you used emotive language in the heat of the moment because this guy has no manners or respect for those around him.

It happens to me all the time, on the train I will get up to let a passenger out who needs to get off at this stop, they don't even acknowledge the fact that I made their life easier. I could have stayed where I was and had them shimmy past my legs or climb over me, but no, I got my ass up and allowed them free passage.
I will normally blurt out a sarcastic comment at this point about their lack of manners or how it was a pleasure that I allowed them free passage.
This lack of manners in the people of today disgusts me.
If I open a door, you thank me, if I go out of my way to help you, you thank me etc etc.

Originally posted by Moose Head
And your lucky i wasnt security...i would have tasered you twice...and tied you to the roof of the parking lot patrol car....punishment for you...be back later to untie you once youve calmed down....

Moose Head, you'd be in jail if you did that. I used to be a security guard and security guard ain't cops!


And it would all be on camera anyway.

Sadly it seems like many people are like this. i work in a supermarket and i see how people act and its extremely alarming. i remember serving a customer who was complaining because she didnt get her $1 discount on a loaf of bread, so i talked her through the process and told her what she had to do and she started abusing me and telling me she didnt like my tone of voice!

i see customers getting into fights with each other all the time for trying to push in line and other things. its a supermarket, people!

damn savages

We have a Publix grocery store shopping complex here & right in front of it, there is a crosswalk with Stop signs on either side of it. For years there has been a bad problem with people & City Busses not stopping or just slowly rolling across. One day a few weeks ago a City Bus driver did a not so slow "Roll by" across the crosswalk & through the stop sign with my leg & foot, just across the first line of the crosswalk. The Bus Drivers window went by me & the rotund non reading mongoloid just smirked at me as his window went by me, & I reached up with my left arm & slapped the hell out of one of the windows on the bus. Who knew that they were made of some sort of plastic? Anyways, the window came loose out of the frame & was hanging there & the "This job shows my highest grade completed" Bus Driver stuck his meaty neck out of the window & uttered a wonderful expletive along with telling me he was getting off of the bus. Well in front of Store employee's & everyone one else, I told him that for the sake of his family he needed to keep his fat behind on the bus because, "I was crazy enough to beat the hell out of his Bus just imagine what i'd do to him" & everyone out there applauded me & at the top of they're collective lungs told him he did not stop at the stop sign & that they would tell the police he hit me! Well, now if someone doesn't stop & I'm crossing, well lets just say that there is an awful lot of vehicles in this area with dented rear quarter panels. So I feel your pain on this one brother.

Endorphins are a hell of a drug.

Op I can relate. A couple of weeks ago I was exiting a parking lot, coming to a rolling stop waiting for another car to pass, when the driver of a pick up truck yelled "Move up!" at me becaue she wanted to turn into a lane of empty parking spaces, which was ridiculous because the whole lot was nearly empty.

Anyways the instant the pick up driver yelled at me I turned around and yelled F...Y...! at her out the car window. It shocked me a bit afterwards because I did not think, I just instantly fired off by yelling/cursing, and had the driver pressed the matter it would have ended up in a nasty altercation, which would have been fine with me.

I guess some of us are feeling a bit more aggressive these days.

I would probably not have used the language you did (although, I'm not clear exactly what language was used as it's "bleeped out", and this may or may not be your fault) or shouted in a loud voice.
But you can't let people like that get away with it... assuming your version is the correct one of course.
I would have quietly stepped to the side of the queue and moved up and slotted right in front of him..Just to gauge what his reaction would be, then obviously he would have to be the one causing the problem and the one instigating it....by asking/telling you to move.

Get the attention of the staff and alert them to what's just happened... assuming you're telling the truth, the whole incident would have been picked up by the stores cameras, including the "assault" of him knocking in to you and knocking stuff out of your hand in an aggressive manner, in an attempt to cut in front of you in the queue.

Problem solved, you look like the victim you are, **** **** get's ejected from the store and you're there smirking at him as he struggles to break free from the guards..








[edit on 21/12/08 by blupblup]

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They kicked you out because you were the one making the scene. Yes, he did start it, but you inflamed it. You were just as much a jerk as he was. Infact, it could be more-so. People do tend to be completely unaware of there surroundings. People are rude, they are ignorant and they are discusting... a person is smart. Bassically what i am trying to say is that you can overcome by tolorance. Accept that little mistakes happen, accept that there are people in this world that dont understand, dont pay attention or dont care. In my eyes you were just as bad (or worse) than he was.

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The world belongs to selfish, inconsiderate, mindless, rude, morons. You are only visiting their world. Don't cast your good character before swine.
Suck it up and be happy that these situations remind you that you are not one of them. There are others who are waking. Seek company with them. You will recognize them by their good character which is in stark contrast to the selfish murderous heathen character.

[edit on 21-12-2008 by John Matrix]

[edit on 21-12-2008 by John Matrix]

It amazes me, the replies you are getting from your post.
There's always people that will villify the victim. I see it in many of the replies here. Yes, it's a good idea to learn to curb the mouth, however,
do people think they can do things without recourse that don't cause people to snap?
Society is screwed up. What was right is wrong & what is wrong is now right. You maybe have overreacted, yes in the fact of your choice of words, however it would have upset anyone. Those that tell you otherwise are not in touch with reality.
That's my opinion. People have emotions & react to things. I wonder what this guy would have done if someone did it to him? I have a feeling he would now be in jail!!!
think about it!

Always good to try to learn detachment, yes. But comotose isn't natural.

...or just whine like a baby and get lots of attention.

You'll put someone much more so in their place if you meet their rude, obnoxious or selfish behaviour with an intelligent comment or observation. You don't even have to be particularly sarcastic about it. The truth embarasses people. If you confront them with the blunt truth, you'll make them think twice about doing it again.

I was heading to an open self-check station in a grocery store, and some other guy was hurrying to beat me there, altho I was well ahead of him. I stopped about two feet short, turned and faced him, and said "Clearly you are in a terrible hurry, perhaps you should go first." He mumbled something and stepped back, clearly embarassed. If someone tries to cut me off (you know.. that thing where they figure by angling in towards your car, you MUST let them in, or you'll hit them), I will stop completely, and making a sweeping gesture with my arm like "By all means, cut right in front of me!" Sometimes this makes people feel badly about their behaviour.

But then, some people are just rude jerks. They don't care if they cut you off, knock stuff out of your arms, or piss you off. For those people, it doesn't matter WHAT you do, they are still going to be jerks, until Karma bites them in their rear, and they have to look at themselves. If you run into those folks, your best bet is to take the high road. Since you are not going to change them anyway, why sink to their level, thereby disregarding and dragging your own morals into the gutter with them?

But I find what works best is to act very mature, adult, and thruthful with those folks. Either you'll get through to them, which is great, or they won't care, at which point you are wasting your time and energy trying to make them see the light.

People like this are everywhere.. and they surround the intelligents with a great ratio.



In the past for myself, i view these sorts of people (despite age,race,religion all that hooplah) with a sort of care that i feel i possess... If they knocked things out of my hand i would NEVER stoop down to their level and give an insult. i would just merely question his actions and through a question or two make him admit fault and thus, most likely invoking an apology.


Don't get too caught up in it though. Take it all with a grain of salt