I was kicked out of a store (for standing up for myself)

mazzroth;

And here I thought it was just the U.S. that gave drivers lisences to people who do not know how to drive. Being rude in a store is one thing, but wanting and acting like the road belongs only to one is definately worse.

reply to post by mazzroth


Nail on the head mate. Festering isn't the word, it's like a cancer in some cases. I feel like so many among our minority that exercise good nature to the general public, purely as a measure of my own attributes, i.e. courtesy, respect, manners; all very simply applied guestures that get absolutely NOTHING in return 99/100. It feels almost like a losing battle.

Be assured it's not about getting a 'return' it's about that long wait to see when someone actually repays a kind guesture naturally, not because they're forced to.

Alxandro;

I am not trying to justify what I did. What I did was not proper. I did not plan what I said, but it was said. This guy knew he was doing something wrong the moment he decided to do it. That is the point I am trying to make.

Interesting to say the least, and the same question keeps coming up...

How can people act like this to others? Well i I may be so bold, I see the ANGER level of this nation and others as a whole at about 9 out of 10. People are pissed off at everything and about everything... If it aint Gas or the war in Iraq or the econom nor is it some moron on the highway or the store lines...

This is not what is really at the heart of all this worldwide anger of the masses and the PTB know it, they know that we are about a straw on a camels back from all out global chaos with the elite paying the heaviest price...

I don't know if I am wrong or not but I say only this:

LET'S GET THIS PARTY STARTED!!!

no good deed goes unpunished.

i find people are generally polite if you are rude and rude if you are polite, strange.

i still try to be polite most of the time.

reply to post by theindependentjournal




Those last few words there put a smile on my face with a hearty chuckle! I liked that!

Even old people are starting to act out. I took my 86 year old Mother to the store and she pushed her buggy to checkout, some 70+ year old man shoved his buggy into her back so I traded places with her and shoved his buggy into him. He left us alone after that! The Moral: Do unto others as they do unto you.

Put rude, hateful people on notice. I will not tolerate your behavior.

You didn't get kicked out of a store for standing up for yourself.....you got kicked out for being a jerkoff.

You didn't get kicked out for standing up for yourself, you got kicked out because you caused a disruption. Trust me... it happens to me all the time.

If you do something as seemingly trivial as get in the 10 item or less aisle with 40 some odd items.... and I'm behind you... I hope you're ready to be called out on it. I'll be loud ... I'll be rude and sarcastic... I'll get management involved... but one thing I will not do is let it go. Unless you're elderly I don't give free passes on crap like that. And yeah most stores don't appreciate such disruptions and may ask you to leave. Oh well. My advice is don't shop there anymore.

reply to post by capgrup




I treat people the same way they treat me, My first responds would have been WHAT THE H… WRONG WITH YOU! I was in this line first so you can get behind me talk about being a greedy pig! Jeees However if this could not be handle civilized, I would have to put my goods down, and grab a two by four and threaten to wrap it across his face, LOL I think that’s the best way to handle this problem. I do not think this jerk would be so quick to cut some one else off in line again.

This happens all the time and always has chances are always will.

I just ignore them and let them look like idiot's on their own.

Next time just look really ticked off but don't say anything usually they will start feeling guilty and offer to let you go in front of them after they think about it for a while. The other ones that don't, usually have mental issues and would pry shoot you to get to the front of the line if it was legal. Or it's just your typical teenager who hasn't got a clue.

[edit on 19-12-2008 by Darthorious]

Karma. You goofed up more by loosing your temper. I would have simply silently cursed him and said something like "excuse you!" and left it at that, taking satisfaction in knowing he would have a automobile accident on the way home or die of cancer within a year. Now, instead, he's at home recounting his side of the story on some forum and laughing about the irate public potty mouth dude he bumped into and got even with, ha. Oh well. Remember, this is America, where most everyone is like you two. Get use to it.

Sadly, my reply wouldn't fall under the "peaceful" scenario.

When this happened to me once, I simply lowered my head, kept my mouth quiet and approached the gentlemen, and proceeded to grab the front of his card and slowly muscle his entire pile of crap behind me. As I did I just stared at him and said quietly, "go pick up the bags you just knocked out of my hand, and we have no problem." The man, surprised someone actually had the cajones to call him out, slunked back and grabbed my stuff and put it in front of his.

Having said that, at this moment it was my last straw of the evening. It may have something to do with the fact that I am 6'3" and 220 lbs, but in reality, I'm kind of a wuss.

I'll tell you what though, it made my night and all my frustrations had been alleviated. In retrospect, I like being more peaceful, but I am still a dumb kid and lose myself sometimes, and it feels good.

Me me me me me me. Everything is always about me and %$@# you. Go fend for yourself and if I cause you harm that is your fault for existing. Everyone is less important than I am and everyone should know that before I even show up to knock you out of the way I was not watching where I was going because I do not have to. *$#& YOU, all other people.

reply to post by ohioriver


Yours is nothing more than a generational gap misunderstanding.
If I didn't know any better I would say that 70 year old was hitting on your mother.
A typical flirting gesture of what folks probably did back in the day that people today would probably consider rude and obnoxious behavior.

Nothing new here... I worked at Disneyland for 4 years back in the 80's, and was in retail management for a long time after that... this is a typical situation - people piss each other off in a public place. So what.

And yeah, the staff will ask the loudest, rudest person to leave. They do have a responsibility for the other customers comfort level in case a situation escalates. And if you were the one swearing, how do they know you arent going to start a physical fight or pull out a gun? They are not judge and jury as to who was rude first, who was right, who was wrong... they just want the situation over with.

Think about it. If it was an accident, then it was an accident. Move on.

[edit on 12/20/2008 by Tadarida]

Originally posted by capgrup

In the past I would usually make some sarcastic comment about their upbringing, intelligence, or whatever else I can think of to make them feel like the child they are. This time something else happened. I did not plan it, I did not even think of it. The words "You ****** ******" just rang out clear as a bell.

...

I have some questions about this. How come people act like this today? Do they do things like this because they feel entitled to it? Do they do this crap because they beleive no one will say anything? When we have people trampled to death by others who just try to save a few dollars on some piece of junk made in a foriegn country have we sunk too low to pull ourselves up?

[edit on 19-12-2008 by capgrup]

Lol... Yeah, I'd say you felt entitled to it. You probably did that crap because you believed no one would say anything or that it would resolve the situation.

You obviously sunk low and had to pull yourself up by acting like a jerk. Nice job.

Way to be that which you despise.

reply to post by capgrup


it's hard to accept but just remember, that smirk was painted on his face. it'll probably stay that way for a decade or two until he finds out his wife is doing all sorts of no-no things (don't want to upset our younger friends.)

Maybe next time, don't say a word and try to go in front of him, see what happens.

Originally posted by theindependentjournal

I don't want to go off topic, BUT, when was it okay to start censoring one word over another? I may or ma not agree with the OP's actions and I saw his first thread also but your response makes me respond...

Who decides which WORDS are ok and which WORDS are not ok? Can I get on that committee? There are occasions that require what would might call BLUE LANGUAGE in life and when you start allowing the censorship of YOUR MOUTH in real life, well you might as well give up everything, in my humble opinion...

In this case, the management of the store decides which words are ok and which words are not ok. It's not that difficult a concept, really.

And their power of enforcement is pretty well limited to what they did: kick the offender out. It is private property, you know.

While I sympathize with the OP, having been known on occasion to use inappropriate language when angry, it's still not the right response and the store is still within its rights to kick him out (and taking action against him before the other jerk is understandable, for all the reasons that have been said so far).

Remember that the other guy is an unpleasant, nasty, jerk with a bad attitude. But you only had to deal with that for a few minutes – he never gets to leave that behind.

And he's so wrapped up in himself that he probably never sees beyond that unpleasant, nasty, miserable world.

Or else he was just having a really bad day and took it out on you