Romantic comedies ruin your love life.

Originally posted by prevenge
fat slothy american male and the quippy know-what-to-do figure-esque wife who loves him for "who he is INSIDE"..?

been done...
all too many times....

King of Queens

Family Guy

The Simpsons

way to subconsciously set a standard...

I have to say, I am ashamed of my less-than-encyclopaedic knowledge of American pop culture. Actually, no I'm not, it's my best feature!

Originally posted by prevengesorry to rain on your diarrhea parade.

What beautiful and poetic imagery!

I guess we can all wait for a study of the effects of the types of "woman's drama" movies next.

I'm talking about the typical "Lifetime" channel movie. The plot usually is an average woman being the victim of some form of evil or trouble caused by a man/men who will stop at nothing to make her life hell.

I've noticed that Mrs. Frogs is usually a little chilly for a few mins after watching one of these.

Woman are a strange species I agree.

If I were to dim the lights put candles out, cook a delicious meal, sprinkle a trail of rose petals leading up to the bedroom and serve up some champagne to a certain someone in my household yeah I would get a wiggling eyebrow followed by something like "your wanting something arent you and your not getting it tonight?"

If I buy a lovely bunch of roses i get "What have you done?"

But if I do nothing I get "How come you never do anything romantic?"

You cant win

reply to post by XXXN3O


That was too funny!

I like the idea of the rose petals sprinkled through the house heading in the direction of the love nest.

Nice idea!

reply to post by The Last Man on Earth

Oh come now, I'm sure there are many men, like myself, who know all about romance!

I'm sure there are many men out there who not only know how to make swoonage - but - actually enjoy it too!

Question is - what abou those romantic movies!

see the thing is, that's an elaborate ritual that has been done before.. saw that movie... you need to find some creativity dudes...
that looks like those birds that make their love nest with only blue shiny things...
Women are smarter than that...
The roses are expensive and DIE.
and the question means I'm really bored.....

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I cant help but find romance funny as I always seem to put my foot in it.

The most common time is usually if I am going anywhere and the age old question "how do i look" pops up.

I usually just say"Fine".

Most recently I thought ill give it some spin make her feel better so I said, "You know darling, you make me look good", followed by a pathetic attempt at a correct in "I mean I make you look bad"

Doh!

This was not the intention of course.

So I have given up as you might expect.

In a way I would say my relationship is a romantic comedy therefore no need for movies.


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I believe this is why the US is so far behind the rest of the world in Hanky Panky. It shouldn't take some sort of elaborate, magical, original, romantic gesture to get some lovin'. The feeling should be mutual. These movies have made it where the expectation is now some crazy unrealistic one where women should be worshiped and men should do anything and everything to try to attain their favor. I know that a lot of women would like that to be reality, but it only sets them up for disappointment because A: most guys won't do it. B: If you find one that will, he won't do it forever.

Romance is a two way street ladies.

lmao.. yes, like I said women are smarter than that... ha
twist of bad luck I suppose then huh?

say something more interesting like... "darling you always look good to me"
or something more believable perhaps. like... "that looks great on you"
or you could just go with the honest approach... "why are you worrying?"

well I believe that communication is the best foreplay... so as long as the atmosphere is nice, there shouldn't have to be rituals.. honesty is an aphrodisiac.

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I still think it is borderline roleplay rather than foreplay, being a male anyways.

Dont get me wrong there are moments that are enjoyable in each others company etc but I think romance has become commercialised and covered too much by these movies.

A lot of females want you to charge to the rescue on some stallion, sing them songs or paint them a sunset. That is overkill.

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women like me find that if a man does things for her without the thought of what he's gonna get are more attractive as romance.
Building a fire in the fireplace can be sexy and he doesn't even know it. But putting on the Ritz so to speak is a turn off because it looks like it is meant for your benefit.

men are more attractive when they are just happy and being themselves. Humor, lightheartedness, and sometimes just being friendly are the best approaches. IMO

reply to post by seagrass


Well you are in a minority I think.

Younger generation females especially are pretty difficult to please, they seem to believe a man is a servant if that makes sense.

I am just looking at my own sisters attitudes towards her partner.

I guess its a difference of opinions as I am sure there will be some realistic woman too.


[edit on 16-12-2008 by XXXN3O]

Well, I'm not young, and I did the whole ring of fire there... but I think I was always that way.
Materialism gets in the way of all kinds of happiness.
But after the first few flowers... it gets old.
It's exciting to the youngins to have the "movie moments" but in the long run.. better to just be honest and say what you really mean. The benefits are closeness and physical enjoyment. Which leads to better and better times together.

Originally posted by XXXN3O
Younger generation females especially are pretty difficult to please, they seem to believe a man is a servant if that makes sense.

Precisely my experience. Just being nice 'for no reason' seems to encourage the expectation without any kind of reciprocation.

I have also been kind of turned off to the whole 'relationship' ordeal because an ex who was studying hypnotherapy decided to use me as a pin cushion - without asking me about it or even telling me (I recieved a 'basic' apology years after I stopped seeing her and only because she wanted something). If I could prove anything...

Relationships are a two way street and I have found that it doesn't really matter what you do...you can be attentive or not and the chick will still f you over in some fashion. It all comes down to consistent and sincere communication coupled with a muting of personal expectations...though I consider both to be mythical and even if they were practiced it would undoubtedly be a ploy of some sort originating from the female side...-Sighs-

By the way, I don't really allow my bitterness to spill over too much on this topic so consider all you all lucky...

Ouch memoryshock!! Perhaps you should loosen that rope a little before looking again.. different pair of glasses maybe?

it exists, for how long I suppose depends on how valuable you think it is. Or how long a relationship makes you feel good about yourself...

It is a two way street. A give and a take. but you can never stop trying if you really want it. Even when you are flat on the ground....