Why do women break up with nice guys?

Originally posted by SuperSlovak
Am I supposed to be rude and stare at her chest?

Hmmmm...that was a VERY odd comment. The mere fact you said it means you must have some "issues" in that regard.

Based on that one comment I would say women like nice guys that they think will be good in bed. If they think you have no sex drive, or you are incompetent, or you seem more like an asexual little brother they are going to move on.

If you manage to get them to go out with you to begin with then they must fine something attractive about you, but if you are dating them once or twice and they are "disappearing" then I am guessing you are not very engaging or you just really don't seem like you will be any fun.

Dating is not about "being nice". It is like an interview, and it is your job to convince them that they could have FUN with you. They aren't looking for a "polite" guy, they are looking for a well mannered guy that will be fun!

[edit on 18-10-2008 by Sonya610]

so basically guys, we are screwed, We have to keep a constant balance of emotions for women but we cant smother them or neglect them.
I have been in many relationships and i was always the one that bailed but for the last 15 years i have been married and she is loving one minute but cold and distant another day. Always her ideas, never mine. I cant figure you women out.

If girls dump nice guys then they're mean girls. Or sometimes the supposedly nice guys really aren't. Or finally, maybe they're just not a good match? One of those 3, for sure.

reply to post by SuperSlovak


Because there nice. I know that sounds like the obvious answer, but its true.

Nice = boring. Where do you think "Nice guys finish last" comes from? "


"Bitches" discussing men there intrested in ,and men who are intrested in them"


And you can bet the nicest one in the bunch, is not the one they want to F there brains out"


All women want, is for you to be yourself,be "fun",be great in bed,earn a liveing, give them a baby,talk to them before they go to sleep, ...."And when we wake up!".......

Oh' yea and dont leave crap around for them to pick up ......Thats major, ....it will relive your life of much hassle.


Lol @ Women "WHAT DO YOU MEAN GIVE ME A BABY!!"

"And he called us Bitches"

We love you ladys


PS im single?





[edit on 18-10-2008 by N.B.A.Y.S.O.H]

reply to post by Super Slovak


Most women I know or have known are not necessarily looking for a nice guy. They are looking for a man. Do you understand what that is Super Slovak??

Women ..no matter what they claim like a variety ..to look at and study. Some of them even a variety with which to play and occupy. Has it ever occurred to you that women are also "Hunter Gatherers" too?? Do not underestimate their ability to achieve their goals through tools/skills which are unknown or unperceptive to you. As I have stated several times in other posts. Just because a woman does not hunt and gather as does a man ...does not mean she is not doing so. They can hunt and gather by elimination just as efficient if not more so than do men.

What it is to which most women respond instinctively..is confidence in a man..not trying out with desperation. Women..most of them can.. spot a desperate man quickly ..an unconfident man...like radar in the dark..from miles away. The more desperate you appear or are sensed by them the more at variance they will be with your goals or intentions. It is instinctive with most of them. It appears you have problems grasping this concept. They will tend to shy away from a man who is so obviously "trying out." for their approval.
These same women can also spot a confident man ..miles away in the dark like radar.

A man who is trying out for their approval in desperation is one who can be used by them for various goals or things, if they so choose , but not one in which they will invest much of their time or intimacy. They sense that at some level these men will be to high maintenance for them. To needy.

Also Super Slovak..don't worry about being rude in staring at their chest. Women stare at a lot of things male. They are just more discrete at it than males but they stare nonetheless. They can also take in more informations about a male with a single scan or glance than can most males with women. Its a woman thing. In this subtilty they are light years ahead of most men.

Confidence Super Slovak means you know how to grow a pair between your legs..not the appearance of a pair..by trying out. Understand?? You have substance to you ..not show.

Oh..and being nice and trying out for approval often means the woman is in control..ie..you are not leading. Once again meaning no confidence. Lead...you know..like in dancing!!??

Silverflame gives good advice..don't give up.. but learn to refine your skills..particularly your thinking ability about the real nature of things out here among the wildlife. Yes ..don't be rude or uncivil...but learn to be confident in the skills you have and learn to develop new ones. No shortcuts here.

Slovak..this is a really dumb statement here from page 1 of this thread.

So women like guys who don't like them huh? Now I can see why some guys turn gay. How am I supposed to tell a girl I like her if she wants me not to like her?

It shows desperation and powerlessness...weakness...unconfidence. It shows frustration. Are you catching on yet?? This statement is also not leading.

AmericanDingbat has a valid point here...
Someone in another post called many of these types Trophy women. Not much of a trophy to me if they have all this baggage.

Why do men complain about what needy, nutso, irritating things women are and always go for the most clearly needy, nutso, self-absorbed women?

White Wave,
Must be something wrong with me. I am not into buxom brain dead types. Especially Buxom. I am a man of "modest tastes." Brain dead to me is just high maintenance. And drama queens..no thanks here either. I like a certain level of confidence and knowledge in a woman.

Hey..did I tell you that there is a shop down the street from me that makes Tee Shirts. I am thinking of getting one made that says...

" I'm a Victim..I'm a Victim"

Perhaps Super Slovak needs one as well. Maybe two or three.

LOL LOL..

On the serious side...something pleasant happened to me last week when opening the door for a woman coming out of a store. This woman looked at me with a big smile and said..Thank you..not many men do that for women anymore. I smiled back at her and said "Your Welcome Ma am and Thank You!!
It reminded me of what you stated sometime back in the "woman's survival " thread to the effect that not many men today exhibit the virtues of our fathers and grandfathers time towards women. I thanked you silently after this experience.

Thanks to all for thier posts,
Orangetom


[edit on 19-10-2008 by orangetom1999]